We need to make a distinction between powerlessness and owning our power.
The first step in recovery is accepting powerlessness. There are some things we can't do, no matter how long or hard we try. These things include changing other people, solving their problems, and controlling their behavior. Sometimes, we feel powerless over ourselves - what we feel or believe, or the effects of a particular situation or person on us.
It's important to surrender to powerlessness, but it's equally important to own our power. We aren't trapped. We aren't helpless. Sometimes it may feel like we are, but we aren't. We each have the God-given power, and the right, to take care of ourselves in any circumstance, and with any person. The middle ground of self-care lies between the two extremes of controlling others and allowing them to control us. We can walk that ground gently or assertively, but in confidence that it is our right and responsibility.
Let the power come to walk that path.
Today, I will remember that I can take care of my self. I have choices, and I can exercise the options I choose without guilt.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
Thankyou for posting this, Qx This one is so important to me & one of if not The main crux of recovery. When I first came around I spent alot of time confused about where my powerlessness ended & personal power began. It's been a fine line & a difficult one to balance when dealing with my ego! (No surprise ofcourse ;) It's 16mths away from a drink & learning about the program & how to work it for me. I've had some old behaviours to master & move away from & it's been a difficult & painful process but I can honestly say to anyone new around from the bottom of my heart that Today especially, it's truly worth it. Peace of mind is such a prize. Thanks to everyone for continuing in sharing their trials & triumphs without which I'd be a mess! Thankyou all for your persistence. Thanks to me for coming back lol Thanks, Carol. Talk to you soon, Danielle x
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