Before recovery, many of us lacked a frame of reference with which to name the victimization and abuse in our life. We may have thought it was normal that people mistreated us. We may have believed we deserved mistreatment; we may have been attracted to people who mistreated us.
We need to let go, on a deep level, of our need to be victimized and to be victims. We need to let go of our need to be in dysfunctional relationships and systems at work, in love, in family relationships, in friendships. We deserve better. We deserve much better. It is our right. When we believe in our right to happiness, we will have happiness.
We will fight for that right, and the fight will emerge from our souls. Break free from oppression and victimization.
Today, I will liberate myself by letting go of my need to be a victim, and I'll explore my freedom to take care of myself. That liberation will not take me further away from people I love. It will bring me closer to people and more in harmony with God's plan for my life.
From The Language of Letting Go
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Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~Dr. Seuss
*Crickets chirping* Hey folks, this is the bottle that we reach for that sends us on dry drunks. For us to be victims we must name villans and blame them for everything. If we can't control it, then we're "victimized" by it. And who better to blame than those closest to us. When you hear "Drop the rock" in the program, this is what they are talking about. Today I must accept responsibility for all my actions, and let go of what others do, giving them the freedom to be them. Today I can choose to be here or be somewhere else, own my own feelings and allow others to own theirs.
