It's weird something happened for what reasons I have no idea, maybe it was just meant to be.
I've recieved a phone call this mornig, in regards my childrens real father, kinda of wierd but maybe this is what needed to take place.
Him and I haven't spoken in 16 years, when my son was about 2 years of age, last time we had contact was September 11th, 1992 a week after our was born.
There was alot harsh feelings back than and will still thought of him and had decussions with my 2 children about their father, kept a photo album of pictures as well. Always thought and felt that when the children were old enough, they'd start askin questions.
Never spoke bad about the man and well this mornin I spoke to him for the first time in 16 years, He sounds rough and has some health issues. My daughter never knew him and will i think as long as I don't push her, she'll decide for her self. My son is excited, and well am sure well adjust to his father.
it might give my son, a better outlook on things and could be a positive for them both (children) to have their father there and to give a bit of a relationship with their father.
We both have tried to get in touch with each other for years and well god works in mysterious ways. I think we both wanted to what's best for the children and well high time it happened for the better. It might be what my children needed. Please keep them in mind.
I do hope that your children will be able to develop a great relationship with their father. I'm sure that it will be a positive thing for everybody involved.
I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care,
Carol
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This has potential to be so beautiful & a real homecoming. I know all those years apart may seem to have cost or been a loss but his interest today shows alot of what thoughts & care he may have had over that time & can now go some way to express. I'm happy for your children as to be estranged under any terms pulls on the soul in ways. I hope his presence helps them find love all the more & your grace in allowing him back shows real dignity in you. Thanks for sharing this with us, Tina. I love reunions no matter how bittersweet. I have three older half brothers from my Father's side who he lost with his ways & I have never as yet tried to find them. I want to in the future when I feel it's right for me but before now I've simply been scared to interupt their lives lest it not mean to them what it means to me. I know it will be a case of being able to accept this, or come what may, that means I'll be ready. Wishing your family prayers & fortune in these new relationships, Danielle x
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My son went upto St Catharines yesterday and got up there safely, also, just would like to share some back on this.
Just realized that the father is 14 years older than I am, and when we first got together i was under the impression he was 10 years older.
right now my daughter is havin a tough time with this, but know in do time it is her decision to get to know her father.
We were together for 5 years and things weren't all that bad, we were both at fault and well I have a few resentments there that I'm working on, he was very abusive and would go into details but there isn't enough pages here write all down.
I sat last nite and wrote down a few things, actually did a step four. I'll give that to my sponser, and told no one of this until now.
So I figure it's time to stop running from this and well, take it one step at a time, mine you this man hasn't paid child support either in 16 years. I'm a little nervous about this and still in some way scared (fear has set in). So am doing my best to put some of these resentments aside to move on and let the children get to know their father.
