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rodney2007


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hey all I am struggling over my old Girl friend she wants me back I refuse to go back with her. She is a alcoholic, drug addict and wont get help her self. I can not afford to reck 7 yrs AA and 5 Yrs NA anyhow I am looking for a on line sponsor anyone willing to do it? Dec 26 2000 quit day thanks Rod Canada Ontario

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If I can be a friend and confidant, with total confidentiality...

I certainly will be..

Phil from Durham Ontario...

philipld@hotmail.com

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Ok thanks I appreciate it. I did not know some one would reply that quick LOL

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Just remember:  People, places and things!!!! Think of her as a bottle of booze.

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Yes I agree thanks for the reply.

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i dont want to judge anything too much but by the sounds of it, shes not willing to do something important like quit the stuff then she isnt good enough for you. your above that and you have been for years.


so in the same sense as nique think of her as the drug...you have overcome them. so you can overcome her.

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Hi Rod,

Welcome to MIP. There are some really terrific people here and they all help me enormously along with my f2f meetings.

Congratulations on 7 years in AA and 5 years in NA. That is a fantastic achievement.

You have been a wonderful example to your girlfriend of how getting clean and sober can be so rewarding. The choice for her own drink and drugs issues are her's alone to make. I agree with what has already been said about thinking of her as a bottle of booze. You have to put yourself first.

Please keep posting and letting us know how things are going for you, won't you?

Take care,

Carol

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Thanks all who replied I really did feel like a loser and no one would reply so why bother? but I was wrong anyhow thanks again and I do stick with the winners.

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i wish you all my best.
this is a very dificult thing for you to go through.
i empathise with you totally- not been through the same thing...but a couple of the many permutations of 'women trouble'.
years ago, i had to make the phone call to tell a girl to get the f*£k out of my life.
it had to be said. she slept with another guy but i still loved her. its hard loving someone who ruined your mind.
to cut a very long story short, i felt 'manly' after making the phone call. but fifteen minutes later, i seriously regretted it. but being stubborn, i kept to my word. i thought of her solidly for a very long time. i came very close to ringing her on many occassions, but on these occassions i had the wisdom to realise that all the work i had done on myself would be utterly pointless if i relapsed on a very fine and attractive woman....
but the longer i stayed away from her i developed more and more backbone, which i seriously lacked before i met her.

i thank her for it now.......never thought i'd say that. i am happily (yes, happily) single now. i am putting my hopes and dreams first now.

oh, one more thing my, dear friend, this will develop your character. your obviously doing great my the length of time you've been clean/sober... but this is the time to eradicate some powerful negativity from your being.

keep good company and stay strong comrade!

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Welcome!
You are in good company!! I agree, stay away from this person! You worked to long and to hard to blow it!! Best of luck and keep coming back!!
Lani

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Welcome to MIP, Rodney. Thankyou for being here with us. I hope you gain enough of the ES&H you need to pull through this difficult time. You know what you want & I know you know how hard you are & have to work to keep & build on what you already have. Share yours with us too! Enjoy your stay. Keep coming back & let us know how it's all going for you. I'm sure you'll get some great feedback from the fellas & the women are fab too. Take care for now, Danielle :)

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hi Struggling

Indeed the area of the heart has proved itself to be a challenge for me, hence my ability to be able to identify with you and your situation. 

Although the decision you made was painful, i am sure in the bloom of time you will come to the conclusion your decision was the right one for you and your chosen life style, and be at peace with that decision.  

Letting go of what might have been has not been easy for me, however as I have grown and developed in my recovery i realised that my partner is a mrror reflection of who i am, and or who i would like to aspire to become, so for me my willingness to give -up on and let go of what clearly was not working for me, reconfirmed that the person i want to be choose to excludes others who do not share the same dreams and desires as i do. 

for i don't know about you, but for me i am well and truly over my nightmare of active addiction and self-destructive behaviours, especialy in my personal life. 

It appears to me, that you have came to the same conclusion..hence congratuations are in store...

keep up the good work of protecting what you clearly value most ...your recovery and your self. thanks for sharing and keep in touch    two worlds       

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sorry for got I was a member here till I got email saying I was one LOL anyhow thanks for the replys I have not drinked and hope to stay that way

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ancient thread bump! Hey Rodney, don't be a stranger

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hahahahahaah yes boss


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Rodney,

            I would have to agree with everyone else, first things first.  Speaking only for myself, if I dont have my sobriety and serenity, then I am only a arms length from that deep seeded spiritual malady.  Youre doing the right thing!



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thanks I have had a busy day yesterday and today a lazy day lol not much to do.

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thought this account was closed since I not been on here for dogs ages. Anyhow I had peace Bond on her a few yrs ago and since then she never talked to me again. I hqave not been to meetings almost a yr now I am no longer struggling my addictions. I am too busy for the old crap stuff I volunteer to keep busy. I love it thanks 09 17 14

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Rodney don't be a stranger, pull up a chair, where ya been

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I been volunteering my hrs at a local Men's shelter. I also been busy seen my worker. I now am able to make and send text messages to USA and Canada #s so if anyone has unlimited calls text let me know

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Rodney, you're helping others, taking care of yourself and staying sober. Sounds like a good plan. Keep up the good work.



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