WE ARE ALL THINKING ALL OF THE TIME. Can you believe that our thoughts never leave us. Wow! Silly thoughts, hungry thoughts, angry thoughts, melancholy thoughts, happy thoughts; that’s a bunch of emotions that has a significant impact on our lives. Physically, emotionally, it’s all there.
Every thought is connected to our body to create a response. Example: imagine a hot summer day. There is absolutely no breeze. You are sitting on a rock in the middle of your yard. Smell the earth, the heat. HEAR the crickets doing their thing. The sun is hot on your body. In your hand, you have an ice cold drink. You are thirsty. Put the glass to your lips. Drink. AHHHHHH. Wasn’t that nice? Were you there with me?
Thoughts influence our emotions. Try this other exercise. Think of something that makes you happy. Anything. Now think of something that you hate doing and that makes you feel miserable. Okay. Back to something that makes you smile. See. Thoughts rule our emotions instantly. Change your thoughts to happy thoughts and your emotions will change.
Well then, where do negative thoughts come into play? If you start telling yourself several times a day that you are an idiot, incompetent person what do you think you will act like? YOU WILL ACT AND FEEL LIKE an idiotic, incompetent person. It’s powerful stuff.
Positive thinking produce positive results likewise negative thoughts will have a negative impact on your life.
WHICH one do you choose?
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Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose
Phil said
Nov 25, 2005
One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.
Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.
There are really only three types of people: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who say, What happened?
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.
The first part of success is Get-to-it-iveness; the second part of success is Stick-to-it-iveness.
recovering jb said
Nov 25, 2005
This subject is big for me right now- I am in my 20s but have been struggling with this for years, and have really gone through the wringer over and over...
At 29 days it is like my hope and faith in the program are battling it out with my powerful resentment, anger, and frustration... My mind can be a treacherous place to be-
But then again, I am clean and sober today, and I'm not alone today-
jB
jeannie said
Nov 25, 2005
This is really hard for me to grasp a hold of - I have only been sober almost four months. Today is more of a negative day than a positive one. I try not to think about the past but it bites me in the rear end anyway - weather I am focusing on something good it is right there - in my face. I know it can not be changed but how do you let go of it just so it does not hurt so much.
Jeannie
Phil said
Nov 25, 2005
Hey Jb:) yup. Youre not alone, Buddy..Its always easier to stay in the negative...for some of us...its what we are used to......Some days I really miss it..NOT. lol
When positive stuff starts happinin...we sometimes wonder..when the axe is going to fall...or get into what ifs..and all sorts of crap....
Going with the flow...instead of fighting against the current helps also....
Serenity prayer.
Youre another miracle my freind...one day at a time...hang tough..youre worth it..
Used to have a hell of a time with self esteem....still do some days...keep lookin up...we are still breathin..we are sober..
Im here cause Im not all there.... and every days a bonus..some days I think I dont deserve to be happy.....we been sick my freind....one day at a time we get better...as long as we keep doin the do things...
Some days...we dont take the AA medicine..we go backwards...stinkin thinkin..I do it too...
Hey? Nothing we can do about yesterdays...Im not proud of a lotta the shit...but we are sober today.....step...step...step...and a bit at a time...
Keep on truckin my freind...there is nothing that picking up a drink with help...or solve..
Phil said
Nov 25, 2005
Hey Jeannie? Yu know that 12 and 12 book?..... Take a look at steps four and five...I think youll find the answers there......also....it helps me to keep going over one..two..and three..
Murders still against the law...:)
And we dont get all this stuff..by last Thursday...its a one day at a time... lifetime thing....and Im STILL workin at it.....
Practice...practice...and more practice hu???
We are allso fighters....sometimes I find it best...if I just let go and Let Higher Power...She does a better job... also...
My Higher Power is my dear old Granny...she was a school teacher for 40 years...Man!! does she give me shit, some days. lol
Keep on Truckin..You got a sponsor yet?......
Forgiving others...and ourselves...is also a biggy...
-- Edited by Phil at 13:59, 2005-11-25
jeannie said
Nov 25, 2005
HOW DO YOU KEEP IT FROM HURTING SO MUCH????
Phil said
Nov 25, 2005
I had to quit fighting how I felt. Feel the pain.....bring it to the surface...a bit at a time....look at it..and let it go.... Dont fight how you feel....just ride it out...itll pass...
Thats what my sponsor tells me...anyway...seems to work...
The rest of it? Time takes time...healing takes time...it all takes time..
I do know...that the more meetings I go to...the better, I feel also...
Easy does it hu?
jeannie said
Nov 26, 2005
To answer your question about a sponsor - if I have one - YES but she is away for six months. What now?????????? Today is another day and it is the s.s.d.d.. Nothing much has changed. Not much else to say
Jeannie
gr8fl2dy said
Nov 27, 2005
Thanxs so much for the posts on positive and negative!!!
Love all the feed back. I know for myself, I have to keep looking forward towards the goal. I have found that positive and negative is a choice. For myself, I have to always be on guard, because it appears to be natural sometimes for negative to come in. Everything begins with a thought. If I ponder thoughts for too long they can get me into danger. There is only one thing that I have any control over and that is my attitude. I find that my perception can get me into trouble sometimes too. So yes negative positive very good subject Thank you!
WE ARE ALL THINKING ALL OF THE TIME. Can you believe that our thoughts never leave us. Wow! Silly thoughts, hungry thoughts, angry thoughts, melancholy thoughts, happy thoughts; that’s a bunch of emotions that has a significant impact on our lives. Physically, emotionally, it’s all there.
Every thought is connected to our body to create a response. Example: imagine a hot summer day. There is absolutely no breeze. You are sitting on a rock in the middle of your yard. Smell the earth, the heat. HEAR the crickets doing their thing. The sun is hot on your body. In your hand, you have an ice cold drink. You are thirsty. Put the glass to your lips. Drink. AHHHHHH. Wasn’t that nice? Were you there with me?
Thoughts influence our emotions. Try this other exercise. Think of something that makes you happy. Anything. Now think of something that you hate doing and that makes you feel miserable. Okay. Back to something that makes you smile. See. Thoughts rule our emotions instantly. Change your thoughts to happy thoughts and your emotions will change.
Well then, where do negative thoughts come into play? If you start telling yourself several times a day that you are an idiot, incompetent person what do you think you will act like? YOU WILL ACT AND FEEL LIKE an idiotic, incompetent person. It’s powerful stuff.
Positive thinking produce positive results likewise negative thoughts will have a negative impact on your life.
WHICH one do you choose?
-----------------------
Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or lose
One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.
Destiny is not a matter of chance, it is a matter of choice; it is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.
There are really only three types of people: those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who say, What happened?
Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.
The first part of success is Get-to-it-iveness; the second part of success is Stick-to-it-iveness.
This subject is big for me right now- I am in my 20s but have been struggling with this for years, and have really gone through the wringer over and over...
At 29 days it is like my hope and faith in the program are battling it out with my powerful resentment, anger, and frustration... My mind can be a treacherous place to be-
But then again, I am clean and sober today, and I'm not alone today-
jB
This is really hard for me to grasp a hold of - I have only been sober almost four months. Today is more of a negative day than a positive one. I try not to think about the past but it bites me in the rear end anyway - weather I am focusing on something good it is right there - in my face. I know it can not be changed but how do you let go of it just so it does not hurt so much.
Jeannie
Hey Jb:) yup. Youre not alone, Buddy..Its always easier to stay in the negative...for some of us...its what we are used to......Some days I really miss it..NOT. lol
When positive stuff starts happinin...we sometimes wonder..when the axe is going to fall...or get into what ifs..and all sorts of crap....
Going with the flow...instead of fighting against the current helps also....
Serenity prayer.
Youre another miracle my freind...one day at a time...hang tough..youre worth it..
Used to have a hell of a time with self esteem....still do some days...keep lookin up...we are still breathin..we are sober..
Im here cause Im not all there.... and every days a bonus..some days I think I dont deserve to be happy.....we been sick my freind....one day at a time we get better...as long as we keep doin the do things...
Some days...we dont take the AA medicine..we go backwards...stinkin thinkin..I do it too...
Hey? Nothing we can do about yesterdays...Im not proud of a lotta the shit...but we are sober today.....step...step...step...and a bit at a time...
Keep on truckin my freind...there is nothing that picking up a drink with help...or solve..
Hey Jeannie? Yu know that 12 and 12 book?..... Take a look at steps four and five...I think youll find the answers there......also....it helps me to keep going over one..two..and three..
Murders still against the law...:)
And we dont get all this stuff..by last Thursday...its a one day at a time... lifetime thing....and Im STILL workin at it.....
Practice...practice...and more practice hu???
We are allso fighters....sometimes I find it best...if I just let go and Let Higher Power...She does a better job... also...
My Higher Power is my dear old Granny...she was a school teacher for 40 years...Man!! does she give me shit, some days. lol
Keep on Truckin..You got a sponsor yet?......
Forgiving others...and ourselves...is also a biggy...
-- Edited by Phil at 13:59, 2005-11-25
HOW DO YOU KEEP IT FROM HURTING SO MUCH????
I had to quit fighting how I felt. Feel the pain.....bring it to the surface...a bit at a time....look at it..and let it go.... Dont fight how you feel....just ride it out...itll pass...
Thats what my sponsor tells me...anyway...seems to work...
The rest of it? Time takes time...healing takes time...it all takes time..
I do know...that the more meetings I go to...the better, I feel also...
Easy does it hu?
To answer your question about a sponsor - if I have one - YES but she is away for six months. What now?????????? Today is another day and it is the s.s.d.d.. Nothing much has changed. Not much else to say
Jeannie
Thanxs so much for the posts on positive and negative!!!
Love all the feed back. I know for myself, I have to keep looking forward towards the goal. I have found that positive and negative is a choice. For myself, I have to always be on guard, because it appears to be natural sometimes for negative to come in. Everything begins with a thought. If I ponder thoughts for too long they can get me into danger. There is only one thing that I have any control over and that is my attitude. I find that my perception can get me into trouble sometimes too. So yes negative positive very good subject Thank you!
Attitude of Gratitude!! Gr8fl2dy