We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the partnership. The traditional way promised physical and financial security, a sense of belonging, continuity and comfort. The old model has been deeply ingrained in all of us by watching our parents and grandparents.
The old rules don’t work anymore! We cannot continue to depend on traditional, deeply ingrained beliefs, expectations and assumptions about relationships. We need to stop building the most important relationships of our lives on outdated beliefs, destructive myths, unrealistic expectations, faulty assumptions and un-negotiated roles and responsibilities.
Modern partners are concerned with:
Living their vision
Love of self
Deepening emotional intimacy
Having shared values
Commitment to living in authenticity
Willingness to honor the fires of passion that burn inside
Couples are demanding more intimacy and insisting on supporting each other to live their best “individual” life. At the same time, contemporary partners are committed to co-creating deeply meaningful relationships that provide:
Safe havens to be one’s most vulnerable self
Open to the most sacred feelings shared with another
Connections defined by joy and the hopes of a future that will be a lasting testament of their love and commitment.
A big challenge for partners today in committing to another person is the potential loss of personal identity and giving up personal hopes and dreams. Those losses would have been a virtual certainty in the old model of marriage and relationships.
Not so today! Contemporary men and women are ready to honor their individual needs and create partnerships that honor their deeper selves; create committed, functional relationships that deepen their emotional intimacy, trust, love, and connection; and develop skills, rituals, and practices for deepening emotional, physical and spiritual connection with each other!
Only you can make it happen!
Phil said
Oct 31, 2005
You know you are too old to Trick or Treat when:
1. You get winded from knocking on the door.
2. You have to have a kid chew the candy for you.
3. You ask for high fiber candy only.
4. When someone drops a candy bar in your bag, you lose your balance and fall over.
5. People say: "Great Boris Karloff Mask," and you're not wearing a mask.
6. When the door opens you yell, "Trick or ...." and can't remember the rest.
7. By the end of the night, you have a bag full of restraining orders.
8. You have to carefully choose a costume that won't dislodge your hairpiece.
9. You're the only Power Ranger in the neighborhood with a walker.
GammyRose said
Oct 31, 2005
Thanks for both post Phil, the first one is something to work towards. The last one, well, I can't seem to find my broom, lost it last year ...so I won't be going out trick or treating tonight.
Have a grateful sober day and don't eat to much candy. Do they celebrate Halloween in Canada?
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose
Phil said
Oct 31, 2005
Morning Gammy. Yes. Halloween is a big deal up here. The big kids, and little kids--do the dressup thing, and by the look of some of the front yards.... ghosts and lights hanging from trees--.
This will be the first year Im not doing it. Used to put on the masks, and hide behind trees, and scare the livin bee jee sus outa some of them. It was a lotta fun.
Retired..... My kids are grown up now--but will still dress up and go out. Im going to a meeting. Thats scary enough.:)
The Christmas thing is a biggy too. Had over 700 lights up last year. Extreems hu? And Santy Clause has left the building.
This year there might be 100 lights..... Moderation... yu know.:)
Have a good one.
cheri said
Oct 31, 2005
I let the girls go out trick or treating still...with the agreement that I get first pick of the chocolate candies!!!
Love, cheri
rosie light shines said
Oct 31, 2005
(((phil)))) your stuff is awsome.............the halloween thingy was toooo cute!!!!!! rosie
Phil said
Oct 31, 2005
Hi Cherei.:) I wait till the girls go to bed... then I raid the bags..as they wonder the next morning, as to why their bags shrunk--Ile just look at them both, with that dumb look on my face, and answer "Musta been the cat" lol Keep Smilin!!
Rosie? I try to keep a low profile.:) got too much attention, when I drank.
God works through people. We all are a part of that. You are a part of that. Thanks for being here, for us... as we are for you.
We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with the needs of the partnership. The traditional way promised physical and financial security, a sense of belonging, continuity and comfort. The old model has been deeply ingrained in all of us by watching our parents and grandparents.
The old rules don’t work anymore! We cannot continue to depend on traditional, deeply ingrained beliefs, expectations and assumptions about relationships. We need to stop building the most important relationships of our lives on outdated beliefs, destructive myths, unrealistic expectations, faulty assumptions and un-negotiated roles and responsibilities.
Modern partners are concerned with:
Couples are demanding more intimacy and insisting on supporting each other to live their best “individual” life. At the same time, contemporary partners are committed to co-creating deeply meaningful relationships that provide:
A big challenge for partners today in committing to another person is the potential loss of personal identity and giving up personal hopes and dreams. Those losses would have been a virtual certainty in the old model of marriage and relationships.
Not so today! Contemporary men and women are ready to honor their individual needs and create partnerships that honor their deeper selves; create committed, functional relationships that deepen their emotional intimacy, trust, love, and connection; and develop skills, rituals, and practices for deepening emotional, physical and spiritual connection with each other!
Only you can make it happen!
1. You get winded from knocking on the door.
2. You have to have a kid chew the candy for you.
3. You ask for high fiber candy only.
4. When someone drops a candy bar in your bag, you lose your balance and fall over.
5. People say: "Great Boris Karloff Mask," and you're not wearing a mask.
6. When the door opens you yell, "Trick or ...." and can't remember the rest.
7. By the end of the night, you have a bag full of restraining orders.
8. You have to carefully choose a costume that won't dislodge your hairpiece.
9. You're the only Power Ranger in the neighborhood with a walker.
Thanks for both post Phil, the first one is something to work towards. The last one, well, I can't seem to find my broom, lost it last year ...so I won't be going out trick or treating tonight.
Have a grateful sober day and don't eat to much candy. Do they celebrate Halloween in Canada?
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose
Morning Gammy. Yes. Halloween is a big deal up here. The big kids, and little kids--do the dressup thing, and by the look of some of the front yards.... ghosts and lights hanging from trees--.
This will be the first year Im not doing it. Used to put on the masks, and hide behind trees, and scare the livin bee jee sus outa some of them. It was a lotta fun.
Retired..... My kids are grown up now--but will still dress up and go out. Im going to a meeting. Thats scary enough.:)
The Christmas thing is a biggy too. Had over 700 lights up last year. Extreems hu? And Santy Clause has left the building.
This year there might be 100 lights..... Moderation... yu know.:)
Have a good one.
I let the girls go out trick or treating still...with the agreement that I get first pick of the chocolate candies!!!
Love, cheri
(((phil)))) your stuff is awsome.............the halloween thingy was toooo cute!!!!!!
rosie
Hi Cherei.:) I wait till the girls go to bed... then I raid the bags..as they wonder the next morning, as to why their bags shrunk--Ile just look at them both, with that dumb look on my face, and answer "Musta been the cat" lol Keep Smilin!!
Rosie? I try to keep a low profile.:) got too much attention, when I drank.
God works through people. We all are a part of that. You are a part of that. Thanks for being here, for us... as we are for you.
Happy Halloweeny!!