Welcome to the newcomers, glad you are here.Keep coming here and posting.
Guys, it's been a rough 2 days. Some good things have happened in my life. But the Alcoholic in my life is really stealing the serenity and the good from me, I 'm letting him. I have a big decision to make, I will go talk to his peer councelor tonight ,I think....
He's been drunk since last Friday, no job, and a friend saw him at a known drug house the other day. He's been clean from cocaine since 93, but I saw him a little while ago and it doesn't feel right.
I don't understand why the probation hasn't picked him up. I talked with a friend in the program yesterday for sometime and I know how powerless I am. I know it's his life to do with what he will, and I know God could change things in a minute, But it's so hard to watch.
I'm thanking God I'm sober, I asking for God's direction and guidance once again.
I'm praying for all on the board. I also have a face2 face tonight.
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose
Phil said
Sep 8, 2005
Gammy? Some days life is like a peice of pie. You look forward to eating it, only to find out that someone forgot to put a filling in it, and youre left with nothing but the crust.
I dont even know, if that made any sense:)
The only other thing I can think of is
GOD GRANT US THE SERENITY
TO ACCEPT THE THINGS WE CANNOT CHANGE
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS WE CAN
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
Doll said
Sep 8, 2005
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS WE CAN
Much love, Gammy
Doll
mom to 2 said
Sep 8, 2005
Gammy,
I'm sorry you're suffering.
I do know how hard it is to watch. We are powerless over them--but not ourselves.
I am presently working on changing the things I can and it feels good.
mom to 2
wantneeda said
Sep 9, 2005
(((Gammy)))
been thinking about you lots,
and praying for you to, i'll keep doing so
we love you
go with your heart Gammy,
hugs, Wendy
amanda2u2 said
Sep 9, 2005
hi, gammyrose, just peekin in and saw your post. Y'all are in my prayers. Hey, I may be comeing to texas to help out there with all the evacuees.
Serenity is a thing, that doesn't depend on what other people are doing, friend. It is serenity sometimes sometimes even in the worse of conditions. Nobody can steal it. But I know it is hard when someone we love is suffering, doing things we know will result in hurt and damage.
When my son was a child I was constantly worrying about him, and predicting the worst for everything. "You're gonna fall!" "Are you alright? You look pale" "Oh, I don't know abaout this, it's not good enough". What happened was that my insecurities and doubts affected my son, just as my mother's had affected me. My son had no confidence in his performance, in himself, in school, and neither did I. This affected his performance in what is called a 'self-fulfilling prophecy'. Part of my recovery was a change in my attitude,, not to become unrealistic and in denial, but to be more neutral in my expectations of the future. Change is hard, first to change myself, and then it took time for my son to notice those changes. I now have the slogans in my mind as more of a habit than before, and can come up with saying to my son, "do your best and God does the rest". When he is upset and telling me something about a crisis I don't panic as easily, sure that the crisis can't be handled and will inevitably end catastrophically, but we talk more reasonably about solutions and possibilities in a 'courage to change the things we can' mode. "Acceptance" doesn't mean we like what is going on, but it means to admit what is going on as the first step in dealing with it. Sometimes I find the need to cycle through Steps 10, 11, and 12 now,, along with 1, 2, and 3, so then I let God do His will, and I pray to know and do my part, whatever I can figure out my own part is. I know a lot of people have said that I have looked at things from a negative aspect and not been very encouraging, and I am working on that.
Welcome to the newcomers, glad you are here.Keep coming here and posting.
Guys, it's been a rough 2 days. Some good things have happened in my life. But the Alcoholic in my life is really stealing the serenity and the good from me, I 'm letting him. I have a big decision to make, I will go talk to his peer councelor tonight ,I think....
He's been drunk since last Friday, no job, and a friend saw him at a known drug house the other day. He's been clean from cocaine since 93, but I saw him a little while ago and it doesn't feel right.
I don't understand why the probation hasn't picked him up. I talked with a friend in the program yesterday for sometime and I know how powerless I am. I know it's his life to do with what he will, and I know God could change things in a minute, But it's so hard to watch.
I'm thanking God I'm sober, I asking for God's direction and guidance once again.
I'm praying for all on the board. I also have a face2 face tonight.
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose
Gammy? Some days life is like a peice of pie. You look forward to eating it, only to find out that someone forgot to put a filling in it, and youre left with nothing but the crust.
I dont even know, if that made any sense:)
The only other thing I can think of is
GOD GRANT US THE SERENITY
TO ACCEPT THE THINGS WE CANNOT CHANGE
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS WE CAN
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE
THE COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS WE CAN
Much love, Gammy
Doll
Gammy,
I'm sorry you're suffering.
I do know how hard it is to watch. We are powerless over them--but not ourselves.
I am presently working on changing the things I can and it feels good.
mom to 2
(((Gammy)))
been thinking about you lots,
and praying for you to, i'll keep doing so
we love you
go with your heart Gammy,
hugs, Wendy
hi, gammyrose, just peekin in and saw your post. Y'all are in my prayers. Hey, I may be comeing to texas to help out there with all the evacuees.
Serenity is a thing, that doesn't depend on what other people are doing, friend. It is serenity sometimes sometimes even in the worse of conditions. Nobody can steal it. But I know it is hard when someone we love is suffering, doing things we know will result in hurt and damage.
When my son was a child I was constantly worrying about him, and predicting the worst for everything. "You're gonna fall!" "Are you alright? You look pale" "Oh, I don't know abaout this, it's not good enough". What happened was that my insecurities and doubts affected my son, just as my mother's had affected me. My son had no confidence in his performance, in himself, in school, and neither did I. This affected his performance in what is called a 'self-fulfilling prophecy'. Part of my recovery was a change in my attitude,, not to become unrealistic and in denial, but to be more neutral in my expectations of the future. Change is hard, first to change myself, and then it took time for my son to notice those changes. I now have the slogans in my mind as more of a habit than before, and can come up with saying to my son, "do your best and God does the rest". When he is upset and telling me something about a crisis I don't panic as easily, sure that the crisis can't be handled and will inevitably end catastrophically, but we talk more reasonably about solutions and possibilities in a 'courage to change the things we can' mode. "Acceptance" doesn't mean we like what is going on, but it means to admit what is going on as the first step in dealing with it. Sometimes I find the need to cycle through Steps 10, 11, and 12 now,, along with 1, 2, and 3, so then I let God do His will, and I pray to know and do my part, whatever I can figure out my own part is. I know a lot of people have said that I have looked at things from a negative aspect and not been very encouraging, and I am working on that.
hey, 'do your best, and God does the rest'
love in recovery,
amanda