Im ok Op. It takes time for things to heal. I accept that. I beleive  Ive let a lot out on here, the past few days, and in turn listened to all the feedback from everyone on the board.

The past? I did the best with what I had each day, and accept Im not perfect and never will be. I dont beat myself up over it any more. I forgive myself, as God does, for my mistakes, and learn from them. If others cant forgive, its becomes there stuff, not mine. Guess its that simple. Gammy pointed out that Ive owned my part. I cant own someone elses.

The biggest thing Ive learned here over the past week or so is--what conditional and unconditional love is.

Unconditional Love is just that. Unconditional.

Youre in a relationship--you love the other person regardless of what they do, say, or dont do or say. You have arguments and ups and downs, you forgive, you get over it, you comunicate and get on with living. You dont stop loving.

Conditional love--is saying to the other person--if you do or say things I do not like, I will stop loving you. Thats nothing more than pure control.

I have accepted that the conditional love relationship is one I have been in for some time. I have accepted that there is no blame. Thats just the way it was.

I give love unconditionally. Case closed.

I get on with my life. Theres another door creeping open--Im going to slowly open it and see where it goes.

You have a great day!!