Hi..
Just posted this on al-anon forums.. mod can delete this if they feel this is not an on-topic crosspost.
http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&subForumID=94433&action=viewTopic&commentID=3561852&topicPage=
.. it's tough to know what I should do since I have a tendancy to isolate... but I don't think having sex with my roommate to make her feel better would count as 12th step work. Equally, playing the servant/wingman to my younger roommate would be not help him grow.. not sure what to do. Will pray about it.. thx to anyone to reads. God bless.
Phil said
Jul 17, 2005
hmmmmm Thats something like having a sheep--a lion--and an elephant in the same room. Sooner or later somebodys going to be lunch-and one of the 2 that are left, is going to get stomped on.:)
ok then--let me try a different angle.
If you put a stick of dynamite--a fuse--and a match --in the same box
Sooner or later they are going to get together and theres going to be one "hell of an explosion."
I didnt say I was smart--but I think you get my drift.:)
Good luck my freind.
GammyRose said
Jul 18, 2005
Hey gg, I just ventured over to the Ala-anon board to read your post . They have given you great suggestions. Al-anon is wonderful, I go to meeting because I am an adult child and married to an alcoholic, plus deal with many other alcoholics and addicts.You know I just looked in A.A.'s Daily Reflections book and there is no mention of setting boundries.
Yes , you need to have boundries, a group meeting, kind of like a group consience meeting might help. Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean...seems to work for me.
Welcome to the board, keep coming back. Please let us know how it works out.
hmmmmm Thats something like having a sheep--a lion--and an elephant in the same room. Sooner or later somebodys going to be lunch-and one of the 2 that are left, is going to get stomped on.:)
ok then--let me try a different angle.
If you put a stick of dynamite--a fuse--and a match --in the same box
Sooner or later they are going to get together and theres going to be one "hell of an explosion."
I didnt say I was smart--but I think you get my drift.:)
Good luck my freind.
Hey gg, I just ventured over to the Ala-anon board to read your post . They have given you great suggestions. Al-anon is wonderful, I go to meeting because I am an adult child and married to an alcoholic, plus deal with many other alcoholics and addicts.You know I just looked in A.A.'s Daily Reflections book and there is no mention of setting boundries.
Yes , you need to have boundries, a group meeting, kind of like a group consience meeting might help. Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean...seems to work for me.
Welcome to the board, keep coming back. Please let us know how it works out.
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose