Well, it's day 15 of sobriety. And I feel awesome!! Had a decent day at work, made an afternoon meeting, and think I got myself a sponsor (we're having lunch next week). BUT, there's one thing that's bothering me, my boyfriend! I mentioned him in one of my first posts, and got some sound advice from Wagon who told me I wouldn't be lieing if I didn't tell him I'm an alcoholic, "be mysterious" is what he said.. We've been seeing each other for about 2 months now, and he's seen me drink twice and it was only a couple beers.  I was  "lucky"  before starting recovery because the places we went were family restaurants or daytime outings so no problem. I really like this guy, he's one of the good ones, he doesn't drink at all, he's not an alcoholic/addict, wife beater, he has a 25 yr career, he's stable, and sweet, a real gentleman,  and dang!!  he is easy on the eyes.  I know AA suggests not starting a new relationship the first yr of recovery, but this one was started before I decided to get sober! He's crazy about me, he told me so last night. Our relationship has not become a physical one yet......  Do I tell him now? or wait a little longer or what??? I believe if this  is going to continue to move forward he needs to know soon because I'm really not being honest anymore or fair to him.  He knows how I feel about him and I think he could just be my Mr. Right....... so, ya'll get busy and help me out here......  "op"

Hi OP. This program teaches us about rigorous honesty, with ourselves and with others.

My opinion only. I would be completely honest up front. You are doing something about your problem. Im sure hele understand and support you.

If your partner is the right one, go for it, good luck annd best wishes, just be honest, it's the best plan. never lie and love with all you have.

my prayers are with you

 

Chris.

 

Hey Cab? Hows it goin Bud?

And yup. Youre right. Love with all yu got.

Yu know we go through stuff in relationships. There are ups and downs. Nothing runs smooth.

I just realized that just because I screw up, or the one I love screws up--it just doesnt mean that love stops.

 

We pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, get back on track, and love some more!!

Thanks all for the great Insight. I sent him email before I chickened out, he's at work, and told him there was something I needed to discuss with him when I see him tomorrow..... Now, HOW shall I start this conversation?? !!

How do you start the conversation? :) I used to be a addicted to alcohol. Now Im in recovery from my addiction pssst. "Keep it Simple"

Itll be ok.:)

 

Hey "op", Chris and Phil are great guys, you can trust their advice. The only thing I would suggest, is to pray before you talk to your boyfriend. Your Higher Power will give you the right words.You are in my prayers...

(((Hugs)))

GammyRose