When I was drinking and waking up sooooo sick, my only thoughts were about my hangover...trying to remember what i did the night before...water...and my next drink, the hair of the dog that bit me so to speak....
I woke up this morning and one of my first thoughts was a memory of my grade 11 math teacher...I always hated math...i' flunked and was taking math over again with a different teacher. The teacher i had when i flunked was just ....well...we had screaming matches...But this new teacher was so much fun...comical....made the class fun and it made me want to go!!
I got an 80 something average in that class. So I've been thinking about life and how it is what we make of it. Its up to me to make it fun...or not. I'm as happy as I make up my mind to be right?!
I wonder if its my HP speaking to me when I wake and have these thoughts for no other aparant reason. :)
The fact that I am waking and thinking positive thoughts...wow...thats amazing.
Understand dualites
"Life is the coexistence of all opposite values. Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, up and down, hot and cold, here and there, light and darkness, birth and death. All experience is by contrast, and one would be meaningless without the other."
-- Deepak Chopra
Life is full of dualities, opposites. Despite their apparent opposition, each extreme in a duality is necessary to fully actualize the other. Each depends on the existence of the other. For example, we cannot know honesty if we don’t know deception.
The key is to not resist or suppress the negative. We need to acknowledge its existence, though we may choose not to express it. When we embrace wholeness, we move to a higher perspective.
"The light which man has discovered within himself makes him more aware of the dark; through the good which attracts him, he sees the evil which is the line of least resistance; the activity leading to pain simultaneously permits him to visualize the contrasting pleasure, and thus he experiences something of both hell and heaven."
-- Aart Jurriaanse
This is from Higher Awareness, that is sent to my e-mail everyday. Thought i'd share it. I really like that last part.
so, my legal deal, Grammy comes about on Monday...i'm getting nervous about it all. But then again i've been nervous about it for a long time, now i'm finally doing something about it. Gotta walk through the fear to get to the other side right? Like that song...can't go over it..can't go over it...can't go under it..can't go under it..gotta go through it...gotta go through it. :)
A note on that young man who tryed committing suicide...he's out of the hospital now and apparently doesn't plan on giving up ecstacy...sigh...says that that wasn't the problem. I'm powerless. Its so sad.
My mom is getting along for now...she tries to keep herself busy.. Her next doc app isn't untill July 27th so just playing the waiting game..i guess she's doing lots of cross stitch these days...even one for me. I'm excited to hang it on my wall. Since i lived on the streets pretty much for 3 years in active addiction...i lost all my material possessions...not to mention spiritual...anyways i've come a long way since then. My daughter and I love our new apartment. I have what I need and that's what counts.
I had 2 days off work this week and in those 2 days i went to 5 meetings! My daughter came to one with me..at our detox center here. Because of my addiction she's been thinking alot about her own life. That night after she came to the meeting with me she said "Mom?....I don't want to drink anymore." !!!!!!!!!! I had the biggest smile on my face!!! She's only 16, I'm so grateful for AA and even my disease. I never understood why people at meetings introduced themselves as GRATEFUL alcoholics...lol. Today I'm one of them :) I remember too when i first started going to meetings and wondered when i saw so many longtimers....jeez they have to keep coming to meetings for this long?...they still crave after all that time? :) It was disheartening...at the time...only after some time in the program have I come to understand why they still go.
I think sometimes...if only...i could have had a glimpse of where i was to go and been subjected to the program when i was as young as my daughter...but really i'm just grateful that i'm here today and that my HP showed me the way at all!! Hanging on with all the fervor of a drowning woman to the life preserver i've been thrown.
And hey, if my only purpose in my lifetime is to stop the cycle in my family of addiction. I'm ok with that...today anyways. Been reading a pretty good book these days called Disappointment with God. By Phillip Yancey. Some really insightful things. What has stuck out the most is that He has a plan...he knows where i am to be, what I am to be, but not how I am to get there, not every step of the way, thats the work that i must do. He hands back to me what is mine.
Looking forward to working the steps on the step board that start on the 15th.
Rain, cloud or shine it really is a beautiful day, I have friends i"m grateful for:) and a program that is teaching me to live. What else could i possibly want right now?
Have a beautiful day my friends. Stay safe and smilin'!!!! \\// Wendy
wantneeda said
May 14, 2005
ok....so after feeling like all is getting right in my world.....i get a call from my ex....telling me to expect a letter from his lawyer in the mail...sigh...i so wish he'd get a grip!!!!
I think he's getting scared that my youngest daughter is thinking about living with me...i already owe $13,000 from the last time...
i'm not in his face about her living with me,,,jsut taking one day at a time..having faith that things will work out....i hate that i let him get under my skin so easily!!!!!
GammyRose said
May 14, 2005
Hey Wendy , Tahnks for the first post,it was inspiring, and then when I read your second one , it even meant more to me.Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain,light and darkness....living life on lifes terms. Dealing with each situation as it pops up, and living one day at a time.
Glad to hear your Mom is staying busy, and you will benefit from the fruits of her labor.I'm sad to hear the young man has not admitted his problem with drugs, I pray he will walk out of the darkness, into the light.
Have a great sober weekend and you will be in my thoughts and prayers Monday.
When I was drinking and waking up sooooo sick, my only thoughts were about my hangover...trying to remember what i did the night before...water...and my next drink, the hair of the dog that bit me so to speak....
I woke up this morning and one of my first thoughts was a memory of my grade 11 math teacher...I always hated math...i' flunked and was taking math over again with a different teacher. The teacher i had when i flunked was just ....well...we had screaming matches...But this new teacher was so much fun...comical....made the class fun and it made me want to go!!
I got an 80 something average in that class. So I've been thinking about life and how it is what we make of it. Its up to me to make it fun...or not. I'm as happy as I make up my mind to be right?!
I wonder if its my HP speaking to me when I wake and have these thoughts for no other aparant reason. :)
The fact that I am waking and thinking positive thoughts...wow...thats amazing.
Understand dualites
"Life is the coexistence of all opposite values. Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain, up and down, hot and cold, here and there, light and darkness, birth and death. All experience is by contrast, and one would be meaningless without the other."
-- Deepak Chopra
Life is full of dualities, opposites. Despite their apparent opposition, each extreme in a duality is necessary to fully actualize the other. Each depends on the existence of the other. For example, we cannot know honesty if we don’t know deception.
The key is to not resist or suppress the negative. We need to acknowledge its existence, though we may choose not to express it. When we embrace wholeness, we move to a higher perspective.
"The light which man has discovered within himself makes him more aware of the dark; through the good which attracts him, he sees the evil which is the line of least resistance; the activity leading to pain simultaneously permits him to visualize the contrasting pleasure, and thus he experiences something of both hell and heaven."
-- Aart Jurriaanse
This is from Higher Awareness, that is sent to my e-mail everyday. Thought i'd share it. I really like that last part.
so, my legal deal, Grammy comes about on Monday...i'm getting nervous about it all. But then again i've been nervous about it for a long time, now i'm finally doing something about it. Gotta walk through the fear to get to the other side right? Like that song...can't go over it..can't go over it...can't go under it..can't go under it..gotta go through it...gotta go through it. :)
A note on that young man who tryed committing suicide...he's out of the hospital now and apparently doesn't plan on giving up ecstacy...sigh...says that that wasn't the problem. I'm powerless. Its so sad.
My mom is getting along for now...she tries to keep herself busy.. Her next doc app isn't untill July 27th so just playing the waiting game..i guess she's doing lots of cross stitch these days...even one for me. I'm excited to hang it on my wall. Since i lived on the streets pretty much for 3 years in active addiction...i lost all my material possessions...not to mention spiritual...anyways i've come a long way since then. My daughter and I love our new apartment. I have what I need and that's what counts.
I had 2 days off work this week and in those 2 days i went to 5 meetings! My daughter came to one with me..at our detox center here. Because of my addiction she's been thinking alot about her own life. That night after she came to the meeting with me she said "Mom?....I don't want to drink anymore." !!!!!!!!!! I had the biggest smile on my face!!! She's only 16, I'm so grateful for AA and even my disease. I never understood why people at meetings introduced themselves as GRATEFUL alcoholics...lol. Today I'm one of them :) I remember too when i first started going to meetings and wondered when i saw so many longtimers....jeez they have to keep coming to meetings for this long?...they still crave after all that time? :) It was disheartening...at the time...only after some time in the program have I come to understand why they still go.
I think sometimes...if only...i could have had a glimpse of where i was to go and been subjected to the program when i was as young as my daughter...but really i'm just grateful that i'm here today and that my HP showed me the way at all!! Hanging on with all the fervor of a drowning woman to the life preserver i've been thrown.
And hey, if my only purpose in my lifetime is to stop the cycle in my family of addiction. I'm ok with that...today anyways. Been reading a pretty good book these days called Disappointment with God. By Phillip Yancey. Some really insightful things. What has stuck out the most is that He has a plan...he knows where i am to be, what I am to be, but not how I am to get there, not every step of the way, thats the work that i must do. He hands back to me what is mine.
Looking forward to working the steps on the step board that start on the 15th.
Rain, cloud or shine it really is a beautiful day, I have friends i"m grateful for:) and a program that is teaching me to live. What else could i possibly want right now?
Have a beautiful day my friends. Stay safe and smilin'!!!! \\// Wendy
ok....so after feeling like all is getting right in my world.....i get a call from my ex....telling me to expect a letter from his lawyer in the mail...sigh...i so wish he'd get a grip!!!!
I think he's getting scared that my youngest daughter is thinking about living with me...i already owe $13,000 from the last time...
i'm not in his face about her living with me,,,jsut taking one day at a time..having faith that things will work out....i hate that i let him get under my skin so easily!!!!!
Hey Wendy , Tahnks for the first post,it was inspiring, and then when I read your second one , it even meant more to me.Joy and sorrow, pleasure and pain,light and darkness....living life on lifes terms. Dealing with each situation as it pops up, and living one day at a time.
Glad to hear your Mom is staying busy, and you will benefit from the fruits of her labor.I'm sad to hear the young man has not admitted his problem with drugs, I pray he will walk out of the darkness, into the light.
Have a great sober weekend and you will be in my thoughts and prayers Monday.
(((Hugs)))
GammyRose