I have to admit my spouse jabbers. Yeah, I know....be grateful, he's sober. Except, where once he no longer spoke at all, he talks all the time. I keep hoping he'll get back to "Him" that he once was. And yet I know that may or may not ever happen.
Is it possible that someone can "talk AT YOU", but never "Talk to You"? I don't know if I am crazy or not, but he seems pretty clear headed this last month working program daily.
Got any nice colored duct tape? (sorry, ROFL) I cannot think of a polite way to say "shut up"
Phil said
Feb 28, 2005
hehehe---How are yu Sal?
Not laughing at you--laughing with you.:)
I used to be that way. either like a brick wall or my lips were flapping a mile a minute.
I think it was because I wasnt used to communicating properly. And its was a me me me thing.. Like a new baby learning to talk. Once they learn you cant shut them down. Something new.:)
um-I cant think of any nice way to tell anyone to shut up. --and duct tape might get reactions-lol
But then again-it would work-hehehe
Itll likely settle down with time. My jaw used to get sore from going up and down.:)
Alcoholics are all or nothing, and going to extreme people. Takes a while to find the middle of the road.
The only other thing is, to take ones ears to Alanon, and ask them to love and detatch.:)
I was a pretty hyper guy for a long time--I talked more than I listened. and most of the time. I actually thought, that I knew what I was talking about. DOH!!
Patience, and tolerence Sal. Good Luck.
Nic said
Mar 1, 2005
Hello Wal and Phil,
Hope ya's don't mind me coming in, but when I hear folks laughing, I can't help but joining in...
My mate (another alkie) has a beauty of a oneliner that he uses... and it always floors me long enough for him to get a word in and us both to have a laugh.
I'll be right in the midst of an animated prattle and he says (very deadpan serious)...
"You know Nic... (then he pauses long enough for me to tune in to the fact that he has something important to say, and continues very deliberately)...do you know that you're not the only cuddly toy to be left out in the rain....(another pause).... the day after Santa came?"
The silly statement is so damn out there, it throws me everytime he says it...and of course you're left thinking about it... *laughing*
So might be worth a try Wal? At very least it should give you a giggle watching him try to work out where you're coming from and what on earth you're on about - and you will probably get at least a few minutes to squeeze in the important stuff!
...Apparently it's a line out of a Monkees song or something, but I can admit it always works on me... makes me stop and laugh, at least.
All the best folks,
Nic
P.S. I think you should at least try the duct tape... That could be great fun~!
wallsal55 said
Mar 1, 2005
Thank You, Thank You, Thank You for yor replies! I know I am not crazy! I really like that sentence--though--and I think it would work on him... : ) I know patience and tolerance is biggy right now for me. I even plan to spend an evening out over dinner w/him...and he invites the kids! ugh! Can't talk then!
I have to admit my spouse jabbers. Yeah, I know....be grateful, he's sober. Except, where once he no longer spoke at all, he talks all the time. I keep hoping he'll get back to "Him" that he once was. And yet I know that may or may not ever happen.
Is it possible that someone can "talk AT YOU", but never "Talk to You"? I don't know if I am crazy or not, but he seems pretty clear headed this last month working program daily.
Got any nice colored duct tape? (sorry, ROFL) I cannot think of a polite way to say "shut up"
hehehe---How are yu Sal?
Not laughing at you--laughing with you.:)
I used to be that way. either like a brick wall or my lips were flapping a mile a minute.
I think it was because I wasnt used to communicating properly. And its was a me me me thing.. Like a new baby learning to talk. Once they learn you cant shut them down. Something new.:)
um-I cant think of any nice way to tell anyone to shut up. --and duct tape might get reactions-lol
But then again-it would work-hehehe
Itll likely settle down with time. My jaw used to get sore from going up and down.:)
Alcoholics are all or nothing, and going to extreme people. Takes a while to find the middle of the road.
The only other thing is, to take ones ears to Alanon, and ask them to love and detatch.:)
I was a pretty hyper guy for a long time--I talked more than I listened. and most of the time. I actually thought, that I knew what I was talking about. DOH!!
Patience, and tolerence Sal. Good Luck.
Hello Wal and Phil,
Hope ya's don't mind me coming in, but when I hear folks laughing, I can't help but joining in...
My mate (another alkie) has a beauty of a oneliner that he uses... and it always floors me long enough for him to get a word in and us both to have a laugh.
I'll be right in the midst of an animated prattle and he says (very deadpan serious)...
"You know Nic... (then he pauses long enough for me to tune in to the fact that he has something important to say, and continues very deliberately)...do you know that you're not the only cuddly toy to be left out in the rain....(another pause).... the day after Santa came?"
The silly statement is so damn out there, it throws me everytime he says it...and of course you're left thinking about it... *laughing*
So might be worth a try Wal? At very least it should give you a giggle watching him try to work out where you're coming from and what on earth you're on about - and you will probably get at least a few minutes to squeeze in the important stuff!
...Apparently it's a line out of a Monkees song or something, but I can admit it always works on me... makes me stop and laugh, at least.
All the best folks,
Nic
P.S. I think you should at least try the duct tape... That could be great fun~!