Was just thinkin--its nice to see a few Canadians on the board. Serenity? Im not too far from you--bout an hour n of Guelph. I did live in Scarborough at one time and spent 14 years in Brampton, until moving to Quiet Country. It wasnt quiet for long because I was still drinking---better now.:) If I remember right, Donna has the western part covered and Im pretty sure that Elizabeth is from the eastern side, so its kinda comforting to know, Im not the only Eskimo on here.:) We have people sharing the board from Australia, the British Isles, the UK, and The U.S. Anywhere, weve overlooked? Makes the world a bit smaller hu? ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dealing with Painful Feelings Feelings of hurt or anger can be some of the most difficult to face. We can feel so vulnerable, frightened, and powerless when these feelings appear. And these feelings may trigger memories of other, similar times when we felt powerless. Sometimes, to gain a sense of control, we may punish the people around us, whether they are people we blame for these feelings or innocent bystanders. We may try to "get even," or we may manipulate behind people's backs to gain a sense of power over the situation. These actions may give us a temporary feeling of satisfaction, but they only postpone facing our pain. Feeling hurt does not have to be so frightening. We do not have to work so hard to avoid it. While hurt feelings aren't as much fun as feeling happy/ they are, still, just feelings. We can surrender to them, feel them, and go on. That does not mean we have to seek out hurt feelings or dwell unnecessarily on them. Emotional pain does not have to devastate us. We can sit still, feel the pain, figure out if there's something we need to do to take care of ourselves, and then go on with our life. We do not have to act in haste; we do not have to punish others to get control over our feelings. We can begin sharing our hurt feelings with others. That brings relief and often healing to them and to us. Eventually, we learn the lesson that real power comes from allowing ourselves to be vulnerable enough to feel hurt. Real power comes from knowing we can take care of ourselves, even when we feel emotional pain. Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings. Today, I will surrender to my feelings, even the emotionally painful ones. Instead of acting in haste, or attempting to punish someone, I will be vulnerable enough to feel my feelings.

Good morning Phil,

Your post has got thinking and wondering about the people who didn't seem to make it to the new board. Has any one heard from Beach, she was in Kuwait? There are several missing,I pray they are all sober.If anyone has there addys let them know I miss them, please.

Is'nt it wonderful that we can help each other even though there are thousands of miles between us.I am so grateful for all of you who share your ESH with me. Ya'll are what recovery is about.This Texan is glad to to have so many Canadians in her life.

(((Hugs)))

GammyRose

Hello....this is my first time posting on this sight...I live in Alberta Canada...although I got sober in California I have been here for 25 years and have been sober for almost (in April) 28 years. I love my adopted country and the sobriety I have found here. I belong to a Big Book Study group here in this small town I am living in for the winter. In the summer my husband and I take care of a small campground near here on a lake. We love being able to meet new ppl and some of the fellowship show up and camp and it is like having a meeting when they do. I am here on this board to share my experience, strength and hope with all I can. We were snowbirds for about 5 years and attended many meetings all over the US and Canada. We are hoping to be able to go down to the desert (Holtville, CA) next year as we love the warmth of the ppl there. I am married to a fellow recovered alcoholic and we share the love of this fellowship and the ppl in it. I hope I can say a do more here as I believe I have a resposibility to do so. Have a wonderfilled, sober 24.

Spiritlady  

Nope Gammy -havent heard from Beach at all. Some come-some go- some stay. Im like you--yu wonder where some disappear to. I can identify with Texans tho. I get saddle sores and dont even ride a hoss. (Smile) You have a nice day there Gal!!

Hi SpiritLady

I too live in Alberta, Canada. From your discription, I felt as though you were pretty close to me. Is this by chance somewhere around Ghost Lake? Would love to chat with ya sometime.

Hugs

Donna

TRUST THE PROCESS TRUST YOURSELF TRUST GOD

Its quite wonderfull to have other canuks in here and you know what its such a mirical that we can talk to people from all over the world

Hugs Serenity