Valuing Our Needs When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves. We deserve better. Maybe others taught us it wasn't polite or appropriate to speak up for ourselves. The truth is, if we don't, our unmet wants and needs may ultimately come back to haunt our relationships. We may end up feeling angry or resentful, or we may begin to punish someone else for not guessing what we need. We may end the relationship because it doesn't meet our needs. Intimacy and closeness are only possible in a relationship when both people can say what they want and need. Sustained intimacy demands this. Sometimes, we may even have to demand what we want. That's called setting a boundary. We do this not to control another person, but to gain control of our life. Our attitude toward our needs is important too. We must value them and take them seriously if we expect others to take us seriously. When we begin to place value and importance on our needs we'll see a remarkable change. Our wants and needs will begin to get met. Today, I will respect the wants and needs of others and myself. I will tell others, my Higher Power, and myself what I want and need. I will listen to what they want and need too.

I've also found that this applies to work too, if you think you deserve a pay rise, ask for one! you may be pleasantly supprised!

All the best.
Chris.

Thats a good idea Chris my Freind. Ile ask me for one right now. Me said that I was fired. lol ---- Out on sidewalk holding a cup with a sign that says. "Please give generously. Ive been emotionally abused.!! (Smile) Later Gater.

Phil, your message brought to mind all the expectations I had of everyone and it was like everyone should be a mind reader and know what I was thinking!!  You can imagine all my disappointments. 

I like your message and thank you.

Hope you're doing well. 

Luv & Hugs,

Alice