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Blame and Denial
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Blame and Denial Blaming others for any set of consequences usually constitutes Denial. Denial keeps all addicts in their addictions. Defense Mechanisms Rationalizing - I don't drink/use every day, I don't have a problem. Minimizing - I don't drink/use half of what Sam drinks. Cockiness - I got it...
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Steps 10, 11, and 12
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The 12 Steps are divided into 3 groups of Steps: there are Steps 1 - 3, which are the Steps in which we admit that we have not been living in effective ways, ways that work and we come to believe that there is a loving God that can guide us into a better way of living and who takes up the slack when even the...
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The Brick Wall
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Last night at my meeting there was a whole bunch of talk about this infamous brick wall which came from our reading. How many times do I have to run into this wall before I figure out " hey this hurts. " Yet, here I go again backing up and revving up my engine " brain " to come charging my way towards this darn wa...
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The Alternative view
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Hi all, hope your all well!
Just found this on the web, posting for interest value only! Everyone is entitled to have a way of recovery, I think this one costs!
http://nomoreaddiction.com/
Best wishes to all here.
Stick with the 12, it works
Bye for now
Chris.
Ps: Different things seem...
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Crappy times
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I'm in so much hot water over my 15 year old's behavior. She has gone wild and I'm trying so very hard to help her. I swear to God I have appointments everyday for her or sometimes two a day with shrinks,socail workers,we had court the other day to where we have 6 people there waiting to take my...
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Its the weekend! ! !
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Boy am I glad its the weekend! I no longer have to be alone.
I am in a good frame of mind and looking forward to going to a meeting on sunday.
I am still anxious about work, I am off with a bad back, and they are coming to do a home visit on thurs to see if they can aid me back to work.
I have not had any absence i...
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Doh!
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Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our
expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot
to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! -
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From Chapter 11, A Vision For You
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Our book is meant to be suggestive only. We realize we know only a little. God will constantly disclose more to you and to us. Ask Him in your morning meditation what you can do each day for the man who is still sick. The answers will come, if your own house is in order. But obviously you cannot tran...
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March 17 AA Daily Reflection
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MYSTERIOUS WAYS
. . . out of every season of grief or suffering, when the hand of God seemed heavy or even unjust, new lessons for living were learned, new resources of courage were uncovered, and that finally, inescapably, the conviction came that God does "move in a mysterious w...
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Happy Friday
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As Happy As I make it I guess ?
Phil--loved the worry anda nxiety post. How we waste our time on things we have NO CONTROL OVER. -- Edited by Rick at 07:32, 2006-03-17
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HARSH, But true
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A old Timers words:
Try calling 1-800-Wine-wine-wine. If it dosen't work try another meeting.
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The Message
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AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AAOnline.net) March 16, 2006 The Message If Alcoholics Anonymous had provided me with a social life, a job, and a husband, I'd have had no reason to place my reliance upon God. If they had done anything other than carry the message of recovery, I might have missed it. Tha...
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LOVE
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Love is always open arms. --Leo Buscaglia
There is a story about a boy who left home and dishonored his father by spending a large amount of money on fast and reckless living. When the boy's money ran out, he was faced with the prospect of returning home to face his father, knowing the father had ev...
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RELAX
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Easy Does It
So, you surrendered. You let go. Now you're ready to face a particular challenge. So you hunker down and garner all your forces. And you hit the wall again.
What's wrong? you may ask. I'm doing all the spiritual things I'm supposed to do. And things still aren't working, I can'...
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Step 8
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from the '12 Steps and 12 Traditions' book:
"Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all"
"Steps 8 and 9 are concerned with personal relations. First, we take a look backward and try to discover where we have been at fault; next we make a vigorous attempt to r...
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from "Came to Believe"
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Is sobriety all that we are to expect of a spiritual awakening? No, sobriety is only a bare beginning; it is only the first gift of the first awakening. If more gifts are to be received, our awakening has to go on. As it does go on, we find that bit by bit we can discard the old life - the one that did not work - fo...
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The Ides of March - Today
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Hi to everyone,
It seems I can never go thru the Month of March, without honoring the Ides.
They can represent Change, and I usually focus on these Mid month days, as representing something good about to happen, change for the better, is always a good thing. And somehow, if you really believ...
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Worry and Anxiety
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You know that it is going to be a bad day when you:
- You wake up face down on the pavement. - You see a "60 Minutes" news team waiting in your office. - Your birthday cake collapses from the weight of the candles. - Your twin sister forgot your birthday. - Your car horn goes off accidentally and remains stu...
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Reaching out for help
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Good morning folks. I am not doing too great today. I have been stuck in the house for too long with my own thoughts. I need to interact with others! I am going to a meeting this evening, but until then I am in the house!
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Leaning On Others
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HELP!!!!
Today I am trying to be helpable. I'm not sure if that's a word or not. I realize that I can only stay sober by asking for help, wherever that may be. I really like this message board. I was told that I might wanna try journaling and I find that this message board works very well for focusing my min...
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Works if u work it
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Optimism
The Program works if you want it to work. --Anonymous
Rarely do climbers stare up to see how far away the top still is. Instead, when they rest, they look down toward the starting point of their journey. The view they see assures them that they have already come a long, long way....
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FILM - "DRUNKS"..seen it?
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Anyone seen the films DRUNKS..
Has a few stars in it.. but i dont think they were famous when they made it.. cant rem half their names.. will edit when i its finished and i can check..
Cheap film.. But bout people in AA.. sharing their probs.;..
Iv never been to a meeting.. how true to life, for your e...
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Healing
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INTO THE HEART OF YOUR HEALING Joan Levy, LCSW Emotional Injuries Hide In Our Unconscious Throughout our lifetime, most of us have in some significant way been wounded. The physical wounds we can see. Their solutions, if available to us, are fairly straightforward. But those that take place in our m...
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AA Daily Reflection March 16
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AS WE UNDERSTAND HIM My friend suggested what then seemed a novel idea. . . . "Why don't you choose your own conception of God?" That statement hit me hard. It melted the icy intellectual mountain in whose shadow I had lived and shivered many years. I stood in the sunlight at last. It was only a matt...
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South Dakota
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hey everyone,
not only new to the Message Board, but Sobriety also (coming up on 5 months)
I'm going to be in SD April 21 & 22 and I'm looking for a support network during that time. I found some meetings on line, just wondering if anyone around hear lives in those parts.
thanks
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Symbolic or what?
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Early recovery is supposed to be kinda weird, right? Well, I'm a bit of an oddball, I've been accused of thinking too much (well, about SOME things, maybe!) but let me relate a little incident that happened and I think it's an example of my Higher Power working in his usual way of mystery laced with humor...
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What do I need a higher power for?
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Once more: The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defense against the first drink. Except in a few cases, neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense. His defense must come from a Higher Power.
This is the last paragraph from more about alcoholism. These words are...
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thought-sure made me think ????
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What the H---l ? Just passing on what I get. Violins ? Piano ? LOST ?
'Tis God gives skill, but not without men's hands. He could not make Antonio Stradivarius violins without Antonio. --George Eliot
When she was four years old, she climbed onto the pi...
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Temporarily Out Of Service
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I just got home from my IOP program about an hour ago. I'm having a problem. My brain seems to be offline today. Thoughts are scrambled, hands are shaking, feel like a big pile of poop. The thing is I haven't relapsed. Normally I would feel this way after drinking and drugging. The effects of my use have de...
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Thought For The Day
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One of the major paradoxes of life is that we never get to where we really want to be until we realize we were already there before we left.
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When I Whine
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The past
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We don't want to live in the past, but we do need to learn to live comfortably with it.
"We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it." This is a promise of the Twelve Step program.
One of the most useful tools we have for learning to live with our past is the Fourth Step inventory. Once we h...
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Just a short note to all of you...
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The last month has been quite a ride...
There were some days..I was laughin on the outside..but it was a different story on the inside..going through Medical... Chemo..and Depression crap..
There were some days..I felt like bangin a car into a tree..and other days...like a Zombie..
Thanks t...
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Hey soberdrunk
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Feeling any better ?
Hope so.
Your ok you caught that food thing ?? What 12 steps ?
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sometimes life just wears me out
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haven't been on the boards as much as my back is out AGAIN, and i am wondering how long i can go b4 i am disabled....i will do all i can to take care of me, but not expect too much...day to day, just trying to work on the soft tissue "knots" i find in there, and doing my cleansi...
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Daily Reflections
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My PC's been on the blink GR
March 14
THE KEYSTONE
He is the Father, and we are His children. Most good ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed to freedom. &nbs...
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Balance ?
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The difficulty in life is the choice. --George Moore
How we choose to spend our time says much about what is important to us. If we have no goals, we may try to kill time. If we have too many goals, there may not be enough time in the day to do all we set out to do. We must make some choices based on our valu...
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forgotten interests
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hello there I wanted to share a frustration and hopefully get insight towards a solution. Before my drinking career I was training to become a pro musician. I am really struggling getting back into it and would like to know if anyone else has had the same thing or simular and if so how you combatted it?
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Giving Up Too Soon
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Just dropping in to say "HI" and have a good night eh?
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Growing up, many of us heard this phrase from our parents, grandparents and teachers: "Never give up!" While many people believe in this theory, they often fail to demonstrate it in their li...
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It was very bad news
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Hi all
Most of you know the mess our state of affairs are in when we finally surrender.
Well my wife and I were working and planning our way out of this mess and things were looking better, when I got the worst news that sent us back in a deeper hole than we were in at the beggining..
Well I just about ble...
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Acceptance
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"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation--some fact of my life--unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be...
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HOW IT WORKS-CHAPTER 5 Bigbook
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Chapter 5
How It Works
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with them...
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hey, rob
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how ya doin?
love in recovery,
amanda
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Who are they talking about?
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Two nights ago I was struggling to fall asleep when I dug out a big book from my basement. It's probably the first time I have read out of this particular big book in a long time, seeing that I have numerous big books, ones from rehab, jail, half-way houses etc. Anyways this particular book came from my fir...
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today's gift
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There is guidance for each of us, and by lowly listening, we shall hear the right word. --Ralph Waldo Emerson
Perhaps it was only yesterday or the day before that we doubted our value to society, or to our family or friends. We often lose our direction. That's normal and consistent with th...
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Sharing something that was sent by a freind...
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Strength and Courage
It takes strength to be certain, It takes courage to have doubts.
It takes strength to fit in, It takes courage to stand out.
It takes strength to share a friend's pain, It takes courage to feel your own pain.
It takes strength to hide your own pain, It takes cour...
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listen to this !
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This was mailed to me
My heart pounded; I gripped the phone tighter and eyed my husband, who was now turning to face my side of the bed.
Mama?" I could hardly hear the whisper over the static. But my thoughts immediately went to my daughter. When th...
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Struggling with guilt.
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Hi everyone I just need to get this off my chest - I just seem to be full of guilt all the time about the things I did when I was drinking. It is often the small things that bother me things I said and things like taking my kids with me to the shop to but booze and drinking with them in the house. I often feel I am wor...
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today's thought
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Each man with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds. --Mark Twain
What does it mean to be different? How does it feel? Is it okay to act or look or be different from everyone else at times? Sometimes, maybe even most of the time, it feels safer to blend into the crowd. We don't want to stick out lik...
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An article on "FEAR"
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Dealing with Fear
Pity those who fear what they shouldn't and fear not what they should
How sad it is to see people spend their lives haunted by fear. The joy of life is squeezed out of them by fear of failure, criticism, betrayal, change, rejection, loneliness, poverty, growing old, getting...
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