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New to all of this!
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After many months of contemplation I have decided to take on on my alcoholism. My husband and mom are the only ones in whom I've confided and they're very supportive.
Not too sure where I go from here.
I just know I don't want to drink.
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Other people's actions need not affect us
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Other people's actions need not affect us.
Our program friends are showing us how to detach from other people and their problems. We have learned we aren't the cause of a family member's alcoholism or the never-ending trauma in a friend's life, though our family and friends may try to bla...
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Dr. Twerski's Sober Thought
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I found this at the Daily Recovery Site (where I usually find some good stuff). I'm not sure who Dr. Twerski is but I thought it was worth posting here. The date is for June 6, 2006 - not a typo
Quote for 6/6/2006 -
Don't Isolate Yourself - Defense mechanisms...
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Acceptance...that some things just won't change...
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The reason that I open my mouth is to change feet.
I donated my brain to science...before I was done usin it.
The gates are down...the lights are flashing...but I can't see a train.
I've got two brain cells. One is lost...and the other one..is out looking for it.
If I were any more stupid? I'de ha...
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Night Lights
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There are small candles of light we can bring into our lives to take away some of the darkness. These are the candles of the program---soft, warm lights given to us each time we open our faith and trust to the fellowship.
There is the candle we can take home from a meeting, kindled by the caring and shari...
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Apply Gentleness~OM
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Apply Gentleness To Everything
Throughout life we must cope with blockages that impede our forward momentum. Whether these obstacles are of a personal, professional, or societal nature, our first instinct may be to push against the obstruction. But the simplest way to alleviate resistance is...
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Moving Through Denial...
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Denial
Denial is fertile breeding ground for the behaviors we call codependent: controlling, focusing on others, and neglecting ourselves. Illness and compulsive or addictive behaviors can emerge during denial.
Denial can be confusing because it resembles sleeping. We're not really awa...
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riddled with ego and pride
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I went back to the "hairdresser" as I looked in the mirror and saw the god awful job he had done!!
I looked for my clippers to finish the job off myself but I do not have the grade one so I called the guy up and told him what had happened, well the guy was really rude on the phone and said "I dont think I have miss...
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Anyone with rage or anger out there???
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Rage is an advanced form of anger, just as panic is to fear, a state in which we are even less in control of our words and behavior. Hate is a condition in which we think very badly of someone, avoid contact with him, and probably wish the worst for him, perhaps even hoping that he might experience a tragedy...
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Some things we think are bad may be good
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Some things we think are bad may be good. - Harry Bartholomew
Making hasty judgments about people can be detrimental. We quickly decide if an invitation to dinner is worth our time, or maybe we pass up an opportunity to engage in a book club or get acquainted with a prospective friend simply becaus...
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scared to go to a meeting...
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I'm scared to go to a meeting tonight... I haven't been since all this started with my alters... they've only come out twice that I know of, and not around other people, I don't know if they'd come out around other people yet... but no one at AA knows about this, I haven't even gotten to talk to my sponsor mu...
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Daily Reflections Nov 3
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FOCUSING AND LISTENING There is a direct linkage among self-examination, meditation, and prayer. Taken separately, these practices can bring much relief and benefit. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 98 If I do my self-examination first, then surely, I'll have enough humility to pray and m...
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Gratitude is larger than life.
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Gratitude is larger than life.
One day, a friend called me on the phone. He was going through a difficult time and wondering if and when things would ever turn around and improve. I knew he was in a lot of pain, I didn't know then that he was considering suicide.
"If you could give a person...
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Stress can kill yu...
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Sometimes..yu just gotta slow it all down a bit eh..
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I hate alcohol
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I hate what this stuff makes me do.
It’s not getting better. It’s only getting worse, and I really, really don’t want to have to do A.A., but I don’t know what else to do. I pop in here every month or so, and nothing is ever better. I look back at my previous topics, where I lament and say woe is me, but noth...
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Smiles
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The shy man usually finds that he has been shy without cause, and that, in practice, no one takes the slightest notice of him. -- Robert Lynd
We sometimes feel self-conscious in front of others. It may be that we've just gotten braces or a new haircut and we're afraid everyone will stare at us. We sto...
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Moving On
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There have been a few on the board asking about moving on...Well...its time....and even tho, the following pics, and material things we can attain..are nice to have?
This home is on the 3rd (top) floor and is like living in a treehouse, only much much better!
This unit has a big maste...
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Daily Reflections Nov. 2
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KEEPING OPTIMISM AFLOAT The other Steps can keep most of us sober and somehow functioning. But Step Eleven can keep us growing. . . . THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART, p. 240 A sober alcoholic finds it much easier to be optimistic about life. Optimism is the natural result of my finding myself gradually able to...
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kind of a warning...
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I posted this on another message board, and thought I should post it here as well, as this is one of the few message boards I go to now:
If I post something... something that doesn't seem like me or I use a different name, don't freak out... I'm kinda going through something right now that hasn't happe...
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After 30 years, finally this
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Hello,
After ruining a number of relationships due to alcoholism, I have come here to let people know I feel awful, but find myself unable to feel remorse for my drinking problem and don't know where to turn.
Thanks for understanding,
Cynthia
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Alternative to Nyquil
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Hi. I'm wondering if anyone has any recommendations for an alternative to Nyquil. I like it best because it takes care of symptoms and also does a wonderful job of putting me to sleep - sleep being, in my opinion, the only real treatment for a cold.
I recently decided to stop takin...
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Hey Scott
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Saw you on here...How are yu doin bud?
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Another Acceptance Thing....
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Page 449..third edition....and a share by Buddy T.
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing...
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What Has Happened?
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Hello to the group!
My name is Debbie H. and I am a recovering alcoholic with almost 30 years of sobriety. I checked out this site, as I am finding that I have no interest at all to attend AA meetings anymore. I have been to maybe about 8 meetings in the past 15 months. I am questioning...
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Daily Reflections Nov 1
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I CANNOT CHANGE THE WIND It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. We are headed for trouble if we do, for alcohol is a subtle foe. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 85 My first sponsor told me there were two things to say about prayer and meditation: first, I had to start and sec...
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Principles
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I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure -- try to please everybody. -- Herbert Bayard Swope
Principles are rules or codes of conduct we set for ourselves; like being honest, striving to be on time, and taking responsibility for bills and expenses. It is...
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Reflections for Beginners
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Reflections for Beginners from 'Hour To Hour - The First 30 Days' - by Shelly Marshall the author of 'Day By Day' & other Meditation Books
It doesn't cost a lot of money for us to recover. It costs a lot of time. We have to be diligent and program consciousness from this hour to the ne...
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big book
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There is a solution. Almost none of us liked the self- searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation. But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we h...
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QUESTION:
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This was brought up in a meeting. I looked up the definitions:
IDENTIFY: To recognize or establish as being a particular person or thing;
COMPARE: to examine (two or more objects, ideas, people, etc.) in order to note similarities and differences...
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Exercise program for Alcoholics
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Monday
Beat around the bush Jump to conclusions Climb the walls Wade through the morning paper
Tuesday Drag my heels Push my luck Make mountains out of mole hills Hit the nail on the head
Wednesday Bend over backwards Jump on the Band Wagon Run around in circles
Thursday Advise Presi...
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coming back home...
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hello my (((friends))),
been a long, lonely, tiring road. worse, worser and the worsest battle. I'm ashamed to say i fell for dang near a year!!! But, thankfully, i made it out alive and i'm here for another day. Thankyou for being here. I missed you's. 
love and peace in recovery, Wendy
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Miracles are instantaneous
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Miracles are instantaneous. They cannot be summoned, but come of themselves, usually at unlikely moments to those who least expect them. -- Katherine Anne Porter
Nobody can force us to be in recovery or twist our arm to make us work our program. There might have been times when we wanted someone t...
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Daily Reflections Oct 31
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AVOIDING CONTROVERSY All history affords us the spectacle of striving nations and groups finally torn asunder because they were designed for, or tempted into, controversy. Others fell apart because of sheer self-righteousness while trying to enforce upon the rest of mankind some millennium of...
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Going Through the Opening~OM
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Contracting Before Expanding
Sometimes our lives contract before they expand. We may be working hard on ourselves spiritually, doing good in the world, following our dreams, and wondering why we are still facing constrictions of all kinds-financial, emotional, physical. Perhaps we even fee...
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Walk In Dry Places
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Who is a winner? Staying Sober Newcomers in AA are urged to "stick with the winners." But who is a winner? A winner in AA is one who finds sobriety and represents principles that help others find and maintain sobriety. Any person who can help others is a winner. The losers are people who don't make enough...
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FEAR
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ive decided after much thought to sell my business and move on to something new.ive been thinking that life and the way i look at it has changed.For the first year or two it was all about make up for lost time,prove to every one that i was back on top,work,work work,money money money.I think ive had to have...
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To Doll
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Hey Doll? Take a look at this pic....and let me know, if you can figure out..where it is...:)
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Step number one....From the AA 12 and 12 book...
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We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have warped our mi...
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Would you say I have a problem?
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Hi, I'm 20 years old and this is my first post here, and I'm not even sure whether I'm techincally an alcoholic or not.
I'll try and explain when, how and why I drink and then let you make comment.
When I drink? This is usually under one of two conditions. Either when I'm out with my friend...
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Introduction and Question
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Hi everyone. I'm new to the board, and have been sober/clean for 5 years. Was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and not sure how to go about treating it. I see from past posts here that some others face the same decision. I was hoping you'd share your expeirence and solu...
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Daily Reflections Oct 30
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LIVE AND LET LIVE Never since it began has Alcoholics Anonymous been divided by a major controversial issue. Nor has our Fellowship ever publicly taken sides on any question in an embattled world. This, however, has been no earned virtue. It could almost be said that we were born with it. . . . "So long a...
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yo Pytbull
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Hows the snow thing goin up your way...?
Nothing on the ground here...but at 2am ...one couldnt see the front end of the car....was bad...there were 3 of us following ditches on main highways..trying to get Halloween partiers home...
And today doesnt look much better....
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Listening to CD's this morning....
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It's a Sunday morning in....I got the house to myself & I'm in my PJs on this brisk-Florida AM.
So, I'm cleaning up the place (living w/two bacholars-dishes are piled high in the sink) and start looking for Janis in my CD collection.
She was no where to be found.
I scanned over the two ra...
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The Potion
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Acceptance
A magical potion is available to us today. That potion is called acceptance.
We are asked to accept many things: ourselves, as we are; our feelings, needs, desires, choices, and current status of being. Other people, as they are. The status of our relationships with them. Problems....
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Keep It Simple
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****** Each morning puts a man on trail and each evening passes judgment. Ray L. Smith
****** In many ways, the Tenth Step is very natural. We continue to take a personal inventory. And when we're wrong, we promptly admit it. At the end of each day we ask ourselves, "How did my day go?" As we think about o...
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Ten Top Reasons why older people should not go "Trick or Treating"
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10. You get winded from knocking on the door.
9. You hafta have another kid chew the candy for you.
8. You ask for high fiber candy only.
7. When someone drops a candy bar into your bag you loose your balance and fall over.
6. People say "Great Boris Karloff Mask!!" and your'e not wearing a mask.
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Frozen shoulder
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Hi everyone,
Just to say ... I've got a frozen shoulder and can't post as much as I would like to right now.
My boyfriend is here and looking after me and I have absolutely no desire to drink!! So, it could be so very much worse.
Take care and have a great weekend,
Carol
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Hey Everyone, I'm back
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I did not go out, as in to drink or use, I have just been away from the board. I am glad to reconnect. This board does me a world of good and the convenience of sitting at your computer talking to other alkies is unbeatable.
Not much going on with me. Coming up to my fifth year cake.&nbs...
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Ordinary Moments
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ORDINARY MOMENTS
We have our time together
Sometimes we feel bad because we cannot afford all the things we need or want. Whether or not we have all we want, we can get lost in the quest for material possessions and the happiness we think they will bring.
These thoughts can carry us...
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went to an AA convention
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went to my first AA convention tonight... it was really cool... my sponsor had told me it would be so awesome to hear so many people saying the serenity prayer together, but I didn't see what would be so cool about that... but 678 people saying the serenity prayer and the lord's prayer together was just s...
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