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Enabling & Rescuing vs Tough Love
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By Robert Burney
"We cannot begin to make progress in learning to Love ourselves until we start being kind to ourselves in healthy ways. A very important part of being kind to ourselves is learning how to say no, and how to set, and be able to defend, boundaries.
Unconditional Love...
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Daily Reflections Oct 26
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ONE ULTIMATE AUTHORITY For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 132 When I am chosen to carry some small responsibility for my fellows, I ask that God grant me the patience, open-mi...
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THE DAILY REPRIEVE
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“BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD” “But for the grace of God, there would have been thousands more convincing demonstrations.” Alcoholics Anonymous, page 25:0 For what it’s worth: All alone, pitiful, ugly death was about to be my end. Instead, fellowship, dignity and a beautiful life are my reality. This mi...
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Canadian eh....
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25 Signs Showing You Might Be Canadian
1. You're not offended by the term "HOMO MILK".
2. You understand the phrase "Could you pass me a serviette, I just dropped my poutine, on the chesterfield."
3. You eat chocolate bars, not candy bars.
4. You drink Pop, not So...
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life!!!
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Talking to a good friend last night who has returned to drinking after five years without a drunk.My heart went out to him sweating,shaking and ashamed and humilated.I could relate to how he was feeling having had several benders before i truly was done.I tried to get him to focus on what he didnt do and...
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Unconditional love
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Unconditional love corresponds to one of the deepest longings, not only of the child, but of every human being. -- Erich Fromm
Feeling the need to be perfect to ensure we'll be loved is as familiar as the robin's whistle heralding spring. Am I too fat to be loved? Do people think I'm dumb when I speak...
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Daily Reflections
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A.A.'s HEARTBEAT Without unity, the heart of A.A. would cease to beat; . . . . AS BILL SEES IT, p. 125 Without unity I would be unable to recover in A.A. on a daily basis. By practicing unity within my group, with other A.A. members and at all levels of this great Fellowship, I receive a pronounced feeling o...
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"Stuff" Hidden In The Closets
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We all have some kind of “Stuff” cluttering our lives. It is so easy for the psychological “Stuff” to accumulate. It can come from childhood disasters, broken relationships, etc. We store this “Stuff” in closets, attics, basements, and garages of our being. On the surface no one can see how we hide al...
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Have A Good Monday Night
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"There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path!"
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The Strength of Compassion~OM
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Coming At Conflict With An Open Heart
Conflict is an unavoidable part of our lives because our beliefs and modes of being often contrast powerfully with those of our loved ones, acquaintances, and associates. Yet for all the grief disagreements can cause, we can learn much from them. The manner in...
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Daily Reflections Oct 24
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BY FAITH AND BY WORKS" On anvils of experience, the structure of our Society was hammered out. . . . Thus has it been with A.A. By faith and by works we have been able to build upon the lessons of an incredible experience. They live today in the Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous, which - God willin...
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Home Alone!
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Woohoo! This feels so good. I have done NOTHING all day. Coloured my hair, watched hours of telly, played on the old Xbox 360... Still not in clothes... Not eaten, because I don't have to be a good example to anyone... too much coffeee... some dozing.
Life is deeply good.
The man in my life has gone of...
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Gratitude
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Gratitude
Sometimes in life, things happen too fast. We barely solve one problem when two new problems surface. We're feeling great in the morning, but we're submerged in misery by nightfall.
Every day we face interruptions, delays, changes, and challenges. We face pers...
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Night Light
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You who are letting miserable misunderstandings run on from year to year, meaning to clear them up some day...if you could only know and see and feel all of a sudden that time is short, how it would break the spell!~Phillips Brooks
The story of the Hatfields and the McCoys...
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Monday morning....
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This weekend sure has given me a lot to think about. I have the house to myself today for a while, I guess. I feel like I'm able to breath again. My neck & back hurts. Sitting in the chairs too much? No – it means I have to take care of my body better.
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Contentment makes poor men rich
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Contentment makes poor men rich. Discontent makes rich men poor. -- Benjamin Franklin
Not by Bread Alone
The other day I was feeling off center, and so I took a walk around the block to lift my spirits. As I passed one of the neighbor's homes, I spotted a luxury car and began to imagine...
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page 86
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i am interested in page 86, works for me, was (a) hoping you guys could try it (b) if any "old" timers could comment on the page to help me more.
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My Weekend....
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It's pretty much been an "AA" weekend.
Friday: Dinner at my friends sponsors' house with other AA fellowship.
Saturday: 8pm candlelight meeting & Karaoka afterward.
Sunday: Picnic at my home group's meeting place.
All this with 12 noon &...
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Daily Reflections Oct 23
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WHAT WE KNOW BEST "Shoemaker, stick to thy last!" . . . better do one thing supremely well than many badly. That is the central theme of this Tradition [Five]. Around it our Society gathers in unity. The very life of our Fellowship requires the preservation of this principle. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TR...
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understanding
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Could you help me understand....My boyfriend is an alcoholic...I am an al anon er....
What is the eye opening experience like when one finally realises that they want to be sober? How is it different from times before when it didn't really lead to sobriety?
I used to think he could chose to go t...
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Feeling Good About Ourselves
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Birds sing after a storm. Why shouldn't we? -- Rose Kennedy
Some of us have been through an awful lot. We have endured pain and hopelessness. Now we have some choices to make. We can allow our pasts to make us feel badly about ourselves or we can sing after the storm. We can feel proud that we are not givin...
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Elders Meditation for 10/22
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"Growth is a painful process."
--Wilma Mankiller, CHEROKEE
Whenever we grow, we usually need to let go of emotional attachments. Letting go can be painful. Sometimes growth allows us to deal with fear. All fear can fit into two categories: one, we're going to lose something we have,...
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Been Busy.....
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Somehow - w/help from my HP - it's been 25 days since my last drink.
I've made it into the rooms at least once, if not twice, a day since then.
I have found fellowship & wonderment.
My mind is a mess right now - it's all sinking it. :weirdface...
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Lessons about powerlessness
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Where I found the living, there I found the will to power. -- Friedrich Nietzsche
It has been said that addiction and codependency are problems of power. Recovery certainly calls us to admit the limits of our power. Yet, to reach for power seems to come from the deepest part of our nature. If this is...
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Night Light
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I do not know what I appear to the world, but to myself I seem to have been only...playing on the seashore...whilst the great ocean of truth lay all undiscovered before me.--Sir Isaac Newton.
Before the program we chose to see only what we wanted and turned away from any distractions. We may...
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Letting go of our need to control frees us..
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If you want to make God laugh, just tell Him your plans." This old Jewish proverb is especially familiar to people in recovery from addiction, but everyone can glean some meaning from these time-tested words. They serve as a gentle reminder that most of what happens in our life and in the...
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Self Power
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Using Your Power Self-Determination
Our lives are defined by the decisions we make each day. When we choose one option over another, whether we are selecting a restaurant or considering a cross-country move, we shape our lives. The decision-making process can be empowering, allowing us to enjo...
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My Changing Life
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Hi everyone,
Looking back to twelve months ago, my life was in complete chaos. I knew that I couldn't live with alcohol any more, but I was terrified of trying to live without it. My self-respect had long gone and I was becoming more and more isolated.
But, through the rooms of AA I have found a wonder...
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Daily Reflections Oct 21
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NOTHING GROWS IN THE DARK We will want the good that is in us all, even in the worst of us, to flower and to grow. AS BILL SEES IT, p. 10 With the self-discipline and insight gained from practicing Step Ten, I begin to know the gratifications of sobriety -- not as mere abstinence from alcohol, but as recover...
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Your Own Happiness
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You are responsible for your own happiness. No one can diminish your self-esteem unless you give them permission to do so. When something is troubling you, tell people you trust instead of trying to cover it up. You'll be surprised to learn that they've been through something similiar. Don't pass up...
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How do I take that first step?
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First off, I will say I am a happily married man, and have been for over 18 years. I have been a 'social' drinker all my life, that is, until a couple of years ago when the loss of our only child (38th week stillborn), led me to hide my feelings in a bottle. It has led me to where I am now...v...
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Healing
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From "A Lifetime Process":
"I have more problems than alcohol . . . alcohol is only a symptom of a more pervasive disease. When I stopped drinking I began a lifetime process of recovery from unruly emotions, painful relationships, and unmanageable situations. This process is too much for most of u...
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Cavamom/ onward and upward
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The other night I made an error in judgement and edited a post that I felt wasn't healthy. I should not have made that decision in haste, because the post was an opportunity for many of us to work our program, to learn and to grow. Everyone has a right to their views, and it is not...
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See you in the ROOMS!!!
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Going to say goodbye here on MIP.... my life is taking me in a different direction now, and I need to get what I need from face-to-face meetings. Doing well and still sober, through the beautiful program of Alcoholic's Anonymous, and I do hope you all find happiness and sobriety, and the peace that we so...
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Willing to Change
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Time spent attempting to change others affords little time for personal change. -- Georgette Vickstrom
We must be willing to change or we wouldn't be reading these words right now. However, being willing to change is often easier than doing it. One of the biggest changes most of us need to make...
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From: A Lifetime Process
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Hi everyone, I came across this passage this morning and it so struck a chord with me that I wanted to share it with you all. Have a great day, Carol ************************** "I have more problems than alcohol . . . alcohol is only a symptom of a more pervasive disease. When I stopped drinking I began a l...
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Sharing Good Stuff
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Earlier today, I posted this information and it got deleted. Thank you Phil and Cindy and K for your earlier responses, sorry they got erased.
Anyway, I shared that my daughter will most probably be able to move up here to Washington, to our women's prison, as a transfer from California. This enable...
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Daily Reflections Oct 20
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SOLACE FOR CONFUSION Obviously, the dilemma of the wanderer from faith is that of profound confusion. He thinks himself lost to the comfort of any conviction at all. He cannot attain in even a small degree the assurance of the believer, the agnostic, or the atheist. He is the bewildered one. TWELVE ST...
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Night Light
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Life is made up of sobs, sniffles, and smiles, with sniffles predominating.--O'Henry
The balance in life places us between happiness and sadness. Life can't always be ecstatically happy and free from woe, just as it isn't always miserably unhappy. Somewhere in the middle is a gray area where nei...
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What Is Patience...
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"PATIENCE is quiet hope and trust, expecting things to turn out all right. Patience is being calm and tolerant when difficult things happen. It means showing acceptance when you or others make mistakes. Patience is doing something now so that later it will bear fruit, like planting a seed and waitin...
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insomnia
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gawd! cant sleep at the mo, its due to back pain and feeling a little anxious, about what i dont know, it must be because im coming off anti depressants.
any tips other than a sledge hammer over the nut?
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Throwing Out The Rule Book
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The Language of Letting Go.
Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act.
We don't trust life or ourselves.
We don't trust the Plan.
We want to...
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Daily Reflections Oct 19
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. A.'S "MAIN TAPROOT" The principle that we shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat is the main taproot from which our whole Society has sprung and flowered. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, pp. 21-22 Defeated, and knowing it, I arrived at the doors of A.A., alone and a...
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God is more than a feeling
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In a meeting the other night, a speaker told how once he had handed over his will and his life and found the Higher Power of his understanding, he felt no doubt or fears. How I wish this was always true for me. Not a day goes by that I don’t pray and meditate and yet there are mornings when I wake up and that alba...
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GSO
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i don't know who on here does any service at a national level, but I really need to rant a bit.
I edit our local AA magazine and in order to do this service (which I love) I have to sit on the General Service Office committee. Part of this means a monthly meeting of everyone else who sits on the committee and...
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Words are the voice of the heart
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Words are the voice of the heart. - Confucius
What does my heart have to say today? Am I happy? Or am I troubled? We will find this out if we slow down and listen to our words. We can also hear our spirit in the tone of our words.
We are to meditate. Meditation is about slowing down so we can hear what ou...
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...thoughts for the day
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K.I.S.S. - Keep It Simple Stupid
Live and Let Live
Expectations are Premeditated Resentments
We're HERE because we're Not All There
Keep Coming Back... and then Keep Coming Back
Take the Cotton out of your ears and stick it in your mouth
Let Go and Let God
Just for Today
Whatever is ou...
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10/19 Nightlight
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Lo! in the middle of the wood,The folded leaf is wooed from out the bud...With winds upon the branch, and there grows green and broad, and takes no care.--Lord Tennyson
What does it take for us to be drawn out of ourselves? So many of us have retreated inwardly and are afraid to open up in social situati...
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Hi Everyone!
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I know...it's been ages since I've been here. I have so much going on in my life...but let me first tell you that I just got my 9 month chip on Monday! YAHOOOOOOOO!!!!!! I have to share with you something about that chip. I've been waiting with bated breath for this chip. I didn't really know why it held suc...
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How do You Think of God/HP?
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Enjoy! http://home.att.net/~scorh5/Pedal.html
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