Alcoholics Anonymous

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

I'd like some discussion on this topic, some sharing and e,s & h. Not advice. There is this concept H.A.L.T. - hungry, angry , lonely, tired. Okay, hungry is simple enough because we stop and eat. Tired is simple enough because we stop and get some rest. Lonely is a little more complex beca...

LisaF · LisaF

I know I'm not supposed to make big changes in the first year... my sponsor said it would be ok if I agree to do it a certain way... so... my husband and I are separating... and I had to agree that I'd talk to him a couple of times a week, hang out with him some, maybe date, and don't make anything final for awhil...

Wren · Wren

December 19, 2006 Finding Freedom In No Yes People Many of us, from childhood on, are taught that saying yes is right and saying no is wrong. We learn that acceding to demands allows us to avoid conflict and criticism, please people, earn praise, and prove that we care for the important peop...

amanda2u2 · amanda2u2

Yesterday, in the church choir yet, in the middle of services yet, another person and I got into a 'scene'. I won't go into what the whole scene was, but I have been having a problem with this person since I joined this choir a couple of months ago. She is the diva-prima donna type, and has been treat...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Three men died on Christmas Eve and were met by Saint Peter at the pearly gates. "In honour of this holy season," Saint Peter said, "you must each possess something that symbolizes Christmas to get into heaven." The first man fumbled through his pockets and pulled out a lighter. He flicked it...

Quetzal · Quetzal

People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. -- George Bernard Shaw It's easy to let circumstances determine how we think and behave. While it's true that some events seem devastating, our relationship with a Higher Power can help us accept and even grow from experiences...

Doll · Doll

UNDERSTANDING THE MALADY When dealing with an alcoholic, there may be a natural annoyance that a man could be so weak, stupid and irresponsible. Even when you understand the malady better, you may feel this feeling rising. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 139 Having suffered from alcoholism, I should und...

Phil · Phil

Many of us have gotten so good at following the "don't feel" rule that we can try to talk ourselves out of having feelings, even in recovery. "If I was really working a good program, I wouldn't feel angry." "I don't get angry. I'm a Christian. I forgive and forget." "I'm not angry. I'm affirming th...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Newcomer You've told me I should pray for someone who's been causing me all sorts of problems. But that's not going to change that person, is it? Sponsor I've heard various descriptions of how prayer works. Some say God listens, some say our thoughts affect the energy of...

Wren · Wren

"Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention." -- Greg Anderson What do you usually focus on: problems or solutions? When our mind dwells on a problem, we stay stuck. Woe is me! But when we can shift to ask how we might achieve a solution to our prob...

Doll · Doll

HONESTY WITH NEWCOMERS Tell him exactly what happened to you. Stress the spiritual feature freely. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 93 The marvel of A.A. is that I tell only what happened to me. I don't waste time offering advice to potential newcomers, for if advice worked, nobody would get to A.A. All I hav...

LisaF · LisaF

I haven't been to a meeting in a week and a half cuz I've had an ear infection in both ears and have felt like crap and haven't been able to drive... I'm finally sorta ok to drive, just a little dizzy, so I tried to go to a meeting tonight... I got there ok and then the room started filling up and it was really cro...

Phil · Phil

If you have suffered a loss through the death of a loved one or through divorce, and don't feel "normal", you are probably grieving. You must allow yourself to feel these feelings, and accept the fact that you are normal if you are engaging in any of these behaviors and signs of grief. You need to all...

Phil · Phil

A healthy relationship is based on respect. It's when: you have fun together you both feel like you can be yourself you can have different opinions and interests you listen to each other you trust each other you can both compromise, say sorry, and talk arguments out you don't have...

Wren · Wren

"My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding." -- Og Mandino We often expect other people to meet our needs. When they don’t give us what we want, we may feel anger, resentment and even revengeful. Rather than blaming others, we could...

Wren · Wren

Refining metals such as Gold requires continuous cycles of repeated pressure and heat that filters away impurities and allows the metals to shine with clarity. In our lives, it is often our "mistakes" and more difficult lessons that refine us. These strenuous processes draw out our finest qualiti...

John · John

http://www.cnn.com/video/player/player.html?url=/video/world/2006/12/16/davies.uk.train.track.sleeper.itn.itn

Gary123 · Gary123

Hi there I am an AA with 17 years and I still get my but kicked by life. I have recently broke up with a girl that I loved very much. Not any easy thing. She had a daughter that I loved very much too. Won't go into all the details but it needed to happen. She left about a 6 weeks ago and still had stuff at my house. ...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Reflection for the Day Change is a part of the flow of life. Sometimes we're frustrated because change seems slow in coming. Sometimes, too, we're resistant to a change that seems to have been thrust upon us. We must remember that change, in and of itself, neither binds us nor frees us. Onl...

KeithsAngel8 · KeithsAngel8

Hi! My name's Kathleen and I'm a 22 year old alcoholic. I started drinking heavily at age 20, but it didn't become daily until just about the past 5 months. I used to put down a pint of vodka a day and then it progressed to a fifth. Sometimes more. I had just reached the point where I needed it to function. I ev...

Phil · Phil

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be...

Phil · Phil

What does it mean to take care of myself emotionally? I recognize when I'm feeling angry, and I accept that feeling without shame or blame. I recognize when I'm feeling hurt, and I accept those feelings without attempting to punish the source of my pain. I recognize and feel fear when that emotion pr...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Goodwill Have you ever envied someone else's good fortune? Consider the friend who calls with a different ring to her voice. Instead of sharing her troubles and woes, she proceeds to tell you good news. Something exciting, financially beneficial, glamorous, wonderful beyond belief...

John · John

If you haven't already seen it, at the very top of this message board is a post (***Christmas Request***), asking that members of Miracles In Progress send Christmas cards to the 12 men living in the Miracles In Progress Recovery House. The response I have gotten from so many is absolutely amazing!...

Frenzle · Frenzle

Thank you for your responses. Do you think an alcoholic can chose to not drink for a few days and not have a problem with doing so even if they have been drinking every day for many years. Better elaberation:To experience varied temperament for the first few days and also sweating dur...

Frenzle · Frenzle

Humour me How would you describe an alcoholic?

Phil · Phil

I'm not cheap, but I am on special this week I almost had a psychic girlfriend but she left me before we met Who is General Failure and why is he reading my hard disk? What happens if you get scared half to death twice? For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain. I tried sniffin...

Phil · Phil

Grief is a somewhat commplicated and misunderstood emotion. Yet, grief is something that, unfortunately, we must all experience at some time or other. We will all inevitably experience loss. Whether it is a loss through death, divorce or some other loss, the stages of grieving are the same. Ther...

Ironman · Ironman

Hi all: My name is Jarrod, and I'm an alcoholic. I really messed up my marriage and life with my drinking the past 8 years. The more I drank the meaner my wife got toward me. The heavy drinking started just after our second child came. I was 30, she was a stay at home Mom. After the child came the wife got breas...

Doll · Doll

DOING ANYTHING TO HELP Offer him [the alcoholic] friendship and fellowship. Tell him that if he wants to get well you will do anything to help. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 95 I remember how attracted I was to the two men from A.A. who Twelfth-Stepped me. They said I could have what they had, with no conditi...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Holidays Keep your recovery First to make it Last. -- Anonymous We all encounter places, people, and times of the year, which trigger memories of our old lifestyle, pleasant or painful events. Holidays and family gatherings may be especially stressful times for us. There hav...

Hey_Lady · Hey_Lady

Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and new to trying to stay sober. I mean REALLY trying. I've attended AA meetings in the past, of course I had a few drinks before I went, just to loosen up enough to share, or so I reasoned. Needless to say, the meetings were not really for me. I went to g...

Phil · Phil

Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial. We didn't resort to denial - either o...

tina · tina

Hi folks Sorry I haven't been on the board much lately, just tryin to go with the flow. Also staying away from that stinkin thinkin. Guess I've been sittin back and watchin to see what is happening with my son, and well a few things have came up. Monday nite I explained to him that he need...

Phil · Phil

1. Do you lose time from work due to drinking? Yes No 2. Is drinking making your home life unhappy? Yes No 3. Do you drink because you are shy with other people? Yes No 4. Is drinking affecting your reputation? Yes No 5. Have you ever felt remorse after drinking? Yes No 6....

Robert · Robert

since I have come into recovery he has treated me different, when I was drinking he took great delight in making a fool out of me by telling me infront of family and friends what I had done when drunk. He has bullied me since day one, putting me down and trying to sway me from making any positive moves in...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Misery is optional. We may have learned to be miserable, but we can choose to unlearn it. Though we can't control what happens to us, we can determine how we will interpret and react to what happens. We can moan about the things we don't like, using them as excuses for self-pity ("poor me"...

Doll · Doll

REACHING OUT Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual hilltop; simply lay out the kit of spiritual tools for his inspection. Show him how they worked with you. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 95 When I come into contact with a newcomer, do I have a tendency to look at him from my perceive...

wantneeda · wantneeda

.... i don't technically have the apartment...the landlord told me i could put down 50 dollars to keep it, which i gave 40...now she says i need 1/2 of the rent, and she is going through other applicants references... to give her another day my heart has sunk a little today because i am in a trans...

soberdrunk · soberdrunk

Serenity has finally returned. I have been working harder than I ever have in this free world to establish and acknowledge a relationship with my Higher Power. Whether I like it or not, things are the way they are for a reason. I am coming to believe that all the things that have taken place in my life...

Phil · Phil

Uptight before Christmas, and all through these rooms > Alcoholics were stricken with holiday gloom. > They prayed, "Santa, please make us happy, joyous & free > Bring us candy and presents and serenity." > > Greed filled their minds and envy their hearts > And then someone s...

Doll · Doll

THINKING OF OTHERS Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 20 Thinking of others has never come easily to me. Even when I try to work the A.A. program, I'm prone to thinking, "How do I feel today. Am...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Progress, Not Perfection. -- Alcoholics Anonymous slogan We don't expect our lives to be perfect. We don't expect ourselves to be perfect. We just want to stop the insanity of addiction and begin to live lives that make sense. We don't expect to be perfect, but most of us do want to be good. W...

Wren · Wren

"To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it." -- Christiane Northrup To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel the pain of the experience. If we don’t...

wantneeda · wantneeda

in recovery, i was saying yesterday, holy crap!! if one more good thing happens to me i might have to go into hiding!!!!! jus' kiddin';) i found an apartment, well actually it kind of found me, seriously, it jumped out at me from the newspaper...i had pretty much decided to take another already g...

LisaF · LisaF

We went to my nephew's christmas program last night, and wound up sitting right next to someone I hadn't seen since I was a child - the woman my dad cheated on my mom with. I had to talk to her and be nice and civil, it was really awkward and uncomfortable and brought back old resentments toward her and my dad...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I attend alanon. I have been here a few times in the past and have gotton much needed advice and honest opinions. I just wanted to give you an update on my circumstances. Well, my bf continued with his binges, every weekend, whenever he had money rea...

Phil · Phil

How we think and behave is determined by the polar opposite emotions of the human sensory experience: love and fear. Everything we think and do - every action and reaction - arises from an initial thought or feeling anchored in love or fear (i.e. acceptance is a feeling that emerges from a state of love...

Quetzal · Quetzal

... there are many sham diamonds in this life which pass for real and, vice versa, many real diamonds which go unvalued. -- W. M. Thackeray It's high praise to say that someone is "genuine - the real thing." We use the image of jewelry when we talk about character: "Pure gold - 14 karat - rings true -...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Developing ourselves We must realize in our hearts that we are becoming better people. We do this by using our highest standards and making our best efforts. We do this, in part, by turning our lives over to God, who will guide us if we sincerely ask. As we develop, we find we're offering much mo...

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	H A L T (Preview) *I'd like some discussion on this topic, some sharing and e,s & h. Not advice.* There is this concept H.A.L.T. - hungry, angry , lonely, tired. Okay, hungry is simple enough because we stop and eat. Tired is simple enough because we stop and get some rest. Lonely is a little more complex beca...	amanda2u2	9	491	Dec 19, 2006 by amanda2u2
	a big change... (Preview) I know I'm not supposed to make big changes in the first year... my sponsor said it would be ok if I agree to do it a certain way... so... my husband and I are separating... and I had to agree that I'd talk to him a couple of times a week, hang out with him some, maybe date, and don't make anything final for awhil...	LisaF	1	426	Dec 19, 2006 by Phil
	Finding Freedom in No (Preview) December 19, 2006 Finding Freedom In No Yes People Many of us, from childhood on, are taught that saying yes is right and saying no is wrong. We learn that acceding to demands allows us to avoid conflict and criticism, please people, earn praise, and prove that we care for the important peop...	Wren	1	414	Dec 19, 2006 by CAM
	making amends (Preview) Yesterday, in the church choir yet, in the middle of services yet, another person and I got into a 'scene'. I won't go into what the whole scene was, but I have been having a problem with this person since I joined this choir a couple of months ago. She is the diva-prima donna type, and has been treat...	amanda2u2	2	511	Dec 19, 2006 by Phil
	Christmas Humour! (Preview) Three men died on Christmas Eve and were met by Saint Peter at the pearly gates. "In honour of this holy season," Saint Peter said, "you must each possess something that symbolizes Christmas to get into heaven." The first man fumbled through his pockets and pulled out a lighter. He flicked it...	Quetzal	2	392	Dec 19, 2006 by Phil
	Acceptance Of Circumstances (Preview) People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. -- George Bernard Shaw It's easy to let circumstances determine how we think and behave. While it's true that some events seem devastating, our relationship with a Higher Power can help us accept and even grow from experiences...	Quetzal	1	694	Dec 19, 2006 by timverton
	Daily Reflections Dec 19 (Preview) UNDERSTANDING THE MALADY When dealing with an alcoholic, there may be a natural annoyance that a man could be so weak, stupid and irresponsible. Even when you understand the malady better, you may feel this feeling rising. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 139 Having suffered from alcoholism, I should und...	Doll	0	376	Dec 19, 2006 by Doll
	Staying Open to Our Feelings (Preview) Many of us have gotten so good at following the "don't feel" rule that we can try to talk ourselves out of having feelings, even in recovery. "If I was really working a good program, I wouldn't feel angry." "I don't get angry. I'm a Christian. I forgive and forget." "I'm not angry. I'm affirming th...	Phil	3	455	Dec 19, 2006 by Quetzal
	How Prayer Works (Preview) Newcomer You've told me I should pray for someone who's been causing me all sorts of problems. But that's not going to change that person, is it? Sponsor I've heard various descriptions of how prayer works. Some say God listens, some say our thoughts affect the energy of...	Quetzal	3	405	Dec 18, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Where's Your Attention (Preview) "Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention." -- Greg Anderson What do you usually focus on: problems or solutions? When our mind dwells on a problem, we stay stuck. Woe is me! But when we can shift to ask how we might achieve a solution to our prob...	Wren	2	392	Dec 18, 2006 by tina
	Daily Reflections Dec 18 (Preview) HONESTY WITH NEWCOMERS Tell him exactly what happened to you. Stress the spiritual feature freely. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 93 The marvel of A.A. is that I tell only what happened to me. I don't waste time offering advice to potential newcomers, for if advice worked, nobody would get to A.A. All I hav...	Doll	0	387	Dec 18, 2006 by Doll
	anxiety at meeting... (Preview) I haven't been to a meeting in a week and a half cuz I've had an ear infection in both ears and have felt like crap and haven't been able to drive... I'm finally sorta ok to drive, just a little dizzy, so I tried to go to a meeting tonight... I got there ok and then the room started filling up and it was really cro...	LisaF	3	409	Dec 18, 2006 by cindy
	Dealing With Loss... (Preview) If you have suffered a loss through the death of a loved one or through divorce, and don't feel "normal", you are probably grieving. You must allow yourself to feel these feelings, and accept the fact that you are normal if you are engaging in any of these behaviors and signs of grief. You need to all...	Phil	1	2035	Dec 18, 2006 by Gary123
	Healthy Stuff....and you guys have a great night (Preview) A healthy relationship is based on respect. It's when: you have fun together you both feel like you can be yourself you can have different opinions and interests you listen to each other you trust each other you can both compromise, say sorry, and talk arguments out you don't have...	Phil	4	455	Dec 17, 2006 by timverton
	Let Go Of Blame (aka: growing up and admitting your own responsiblity) (Preview) "My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding." -- Og Mandino We often expect other people to meet our needs. When they don’t give us what we want, we may feel anger, resentment and even revengeful. Rather than blaming others, we could...	Wren	1	469	Dec 17, 2006 by Phil
	Refinement (Preview) Refining metals such as Gold requires continuous cycles of repeated pressure and heat that filters away impurities and allows the metals to shine with clarity. In our lives, it is often our "mistakes" and more difficult lessons that refine us. These strenuous processes draw out our finest qualiti...	Wren	1	449	Dec 17, 2006 by timverton
	Sober Living is Safer Living... (Preview) http://www.cnn.com/video/player/player.html?url=/video/world/2006/12/16/davies.uk.train.track.sleeper.itn.itn	John	2	497	Dec 17, 2006 by Phil
	Grief not an easy thing. They say nessary though (Preview) Hi there I am an AA with 17 years and I still get my but kicked by life. I have recently broke up with a girl that I loved very much. Not any easy thing. She had a daughter that I loved very much too. Won't go into all the details but it needed to happen. She left about a 6 weeks ago and still had stuff at my house. ...	Gary123	4	686	Dec 17, 2006 by Zster
	Reflection for the Day (Preview) Reflection for the Day Change is a part of the flow of life. Sometimes we're frustrated because change seems slow in coming. Sometimes, too, we're resistant to a change that seems to have been thrust upon us. We must remember that change, in and of itself, neither binds us nor frees us. Onl...	Quetzal	0	479	Dec 17, 2006 by Quetzal
	Hi! I'm new here. (Preview) Hi! My name's Kathleen and I'm a 22 year old alcoholic. I started drinking heavily at age 20, but it didn't become daily until just about the past 5 months. I used to put down a pint of vodka a day and then it progressed to a fifth. Sometimes more. I had just reached the point where I needed it to function. I ev...	KeithsAngel8	5	439	Dec 16, 2006 by Wren
	And as I get ready for a heavy date with a beautiful young lady...and I might not be back.:) I share the following... (Preview) And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be...	Phil	12	517	Dec 16, 2006 by Phil
	Taking Care...Emotionally (Preview) What does it mean to take care of myself emotionally? I recognize when I'm feeling angry, and I accept that feeling without shame or blame. I recognize when I'm feeling hurt, and I accept those feelings without attempting to punish the source of my pain. I recognize and feel fear when that emotion pr...	Phil	0	430	Dec 16, 2006 by Phil
	Goodwill (Preview) Goodwill Have you ever envied someone else's good fortune? Consider the friend who calls with a different ring to her voice. Instead of sharing her troubles and woes, she proceeds to tell you good news. Something exciting, financially beneficial, glamorous, wonderful beyond belief...	Quetzal	1	397	Dec 16, 2006 by Phil
	Xmas Request Update (Preview) If you haven't already seen it, at the very top of this message board is a post (*Christmas Request*), asking that members of Miracles In Progress send Christmas cards to the 12 men living in the Miracles In Progress Recovery House. The response I have gotten from so many is absolutely amazing!...	John	0	392	Dec 15, 2006 by John
	2nd Question about defining an alcoholic (Preview) Thank you for your responses. Do you think an alcoholic can chose to not drink for a few days and not have a problem with doing so even if they have been drinking every day for many years. Better elaberation:To experience varied temperament for the first few days and also sweating dur...	Frenzle	12	598	Dec 15, 2006 by mikey50
	What is an alcoholic? (Preview) Humour me How would you describe an alcoholic?	Frenzle	8	504	Dec 15, 2006 by Dave Harm
	Mental backup in progress - Do Not Disturb! (Preview) I'm not cheap, but I am on special this week I almost had a psychic girlfriend but she left me before we met Who is General Failure and why is he reading my hard disk? What happens if you get scared half to death twice? For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain. I tried sniffin...	Phil	3	804	Dec 15, 2006 by timverton
	The 5 Stages Of Grief... (Preview) Grief is a somewhat commplicated and misunderstood emotion. Yet, grief is something that, unfortunately, we must all experience at some time or other. We will all inevitably experience loss. Whether it is a loss through death, divorce or some other loss, the stages of grieving are the same. Ther...	Phil	8	7499	Dec 15, 2006 by sheree
	My Story of Discovery and Awakening (Preview) Hi all: My name is Jarrod, and I'm an alcoholic. I really messed up my marriage and life with my drinking the past 8 years. The more I drank the meaner my wife got toward me. The heavy drinking started just after our second child came. I was 30, she was a stay at home Mom. After the child came the wife got breas...	Ironman	12	589	Dec 15, 2006 by tina
	Daily Reflections Dec 15 (Preview) DOING ANYTHING TO HELP Offer him [the alcoholic] friendship and fellowship. Tell him that if he wants to get well you will do anything to help. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 95 I remember how attracted I was to the two men from A.A. who Twelfth-Stepped me. They said I could have what they had, with no conditi...	Doll	0	402	Dec 15, 2006 by Doll
	Keep your recovery First to make it Last (Preview) Holidays Keep your recovery First to make it Last. -- Anonymous We all encounter places, people, and times of the year, which trigger memories of our old lifestyle, pleasant or painful events. Holidays and family gatherings may be especially stressful times for us. There hav...	Quetzal	0	484	Dec 15, 2006 by Quetzal
	Struggling (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and new to trying to stay sober. I mean REALLY trying. I've attended AA meetings in the past, of course I had a few drinks before I went, just to loosen up enough to share, or so I reasoned. Needless to say, the meetings were not really for me. I went to g...	Hey_Lady	5	463	Dec 15, 2006 by timverton
	Clear Thinking (Preview) Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial. We didn't resort to denial - either o...	Phil	2	485	Dec 14, 2006 by Phil
	Uncertain what to feel!!!! (Preview) Hi folks Sorry I haven't been on the board much lately, just tryin to go with the flow. Also staying away from that stinkin thinkin. Guess I've been sittin back and watchin to see what is happening with my son, and well a few things have came up. Monday nite I explained to him that he need...	tina	3	461	Dec 14, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Am I An Alcoholic?? (Preview) 1. Do you lose time from work due to drinking? Yes No 2. Is drinking making your home life unhappy? Yes No 3. Do you drink because you are shy with other people? Yes No 4. Is drinking affecting your reputation? Yes No 5. Have you ever felt remorse after drinking? Yes No 6....	Phil	4	461	Dec 14, 2006 by Phil
	My Father (Preview) since I have come into recovery he has treated me different, when I was drinking he took great delight in making a fool out of me by telling me infront of family and friends what I had done when drunk. He has bullied me since day one, putting me down and trying to sway me from making any positive moves in...	Robert	5	447	Dec 14, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Misery is optional (Preview) Misery is optional. We may have learned to be miserable, but we can choose to unlearn it. Though we can't control what happens to us, we can determine how we will interpret and react to what happens. We can moan about the things we don't like, using them as excuses for self-pity ("poor me"...	Quetzal	0	2349	Dec 14, 2006 by Quetzal
	Daily Reflections Dec 14 (Preview) REACHING OUT Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual hilltop; simply lay out the kit of spiritual tools for his inspection. Show him how they worked with you. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 95 When I come into contact with a newcomer, do I have a tendency to look at him from my perceive...	Doll	0	381	Dec 14, 2006 by Doll
	guess i jumped the gun a little.... (Preview) .... i don't technically have the apartment...the landlord told me i could put down 50 dollars to keep it, which i gave 40...now she says i need 1/2 of the rent, and she is going through other applicants references... to give her another day my heart has sunk a little today because i am in a trans...	wantneeda	3	545	Dec 13, 2006 by timverton
	Hello Family (Preview) Serenity has finally returned. I have been working harder than I ever have in this free world to establish and acknowledge a relationship with my Higher Power. Whether I like it or not, things are the way they are for a reason. I am coming to believe that all the things that have taken place in my life...	soberdrunk	2	450	Dec 13, 2006 by amanda2u2
	Uptight Before Christmas (Preview) Uptight before Christmas, and all through these rooms > Alcoholics were stricken with holiday gloom. > They prayed, "Santa, please make us happy, joyous & free > Bring us candy and presents and serenity." > > Greed filled their minds and envy their hearts > And then someone s...	Phil	2	556	Dec 13, 2006 by Phil
	Daily Reflections Dec 13 (Preview) THINKING OF OTHERS Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 20 Thinking of others has never come easily to me. Even when I try to work the A.A. program, I'm prone to thinking, "How do I feel today. Am...	Doll	1	390	Dec 13, 2006 by soberdrunk
	Progress, Not Perfection. (Preview) Progress, Not Perfection. -- Alcoholics Anonymous slogan We don't expect our lives to be perfect. We don't expect ourselves to be perfect. We just want to stop the insanity of addiction and begin to live lives that make sense. We don't expect to be perfect, but most of us do want to be good. W...	Quetzal	0	419	Dec 13, 2006 by Quetzal
	The First Step to Forgiveness (Preview) "To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it." -- Christiane Northrup To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel the pain of the experience. If we don’t...	Wren	0	375	Dec 13, 2006 by Wren
	gifts (Preview) in recovery, i was saying yesterday, holy crap!! if one more good thing happens to me i might have to go into hiding!!!!! jus' kiddin';) i found an apartment, well actually it kind of found me, seriously, it jumped out at me from the newspaper...i had pretty much decided to take another already g...	wantneeda	3	413	Dec 12, 2006 by timverton
	resentment, anger, and a hurt little girl (Preview) We went to my nephew's christmas program last night, and wound up sitting right next to someone I hadn't seen since I was a child - the woman my dad cheated on my mom with. I had to talk to her and be nice and civil, it was really awkward and uncomfortable and brought back old resentments toward her and my dad...	LisaF	1	466	Dec 12, 2006 by timverton
	my story (Preview) Hi everyone, My boyfriend is an alcoholic and I attend alanon. I have been here a few times in the past and have gotton much needed advice and honest opinions. I just wanted to give you an update on my circumstances. Well, my bf continued with his binges, every weekend, whenever he had money rea...	annmarie	1	483	Dec 12, 2006 by Phil
	Love based or Fear based (Preview) How we think and behave is determined by the polar opposite emotions of the human sensory experience: love and fear. Everything we think and do - every action and reaction - arises from an initial thought or feeling anchored in love or fear (i.e. acceptance is a feeling that emerges from a state of love...	Phil	1	513	Dec 12, 2006 by timverton
	Genuine - the real thing (Preview) ... there are many sham diamonds in this life which pass for real and, vice versa, many real diamonds which go unvalued. -- W. M. Thackeray It's high praise to say that someone is "genuine - the real thing." We use the image of jewelry when we talk about character: "Pure gold - 14 karat - rings true -...	Quetzal	1	468	Dec 12, 2006 by tina
	Developing ourselves (Preview) Developing ourselves We must realize in our hearts that we are becoming better people. We do this by using our highest standards and making our best efforts. We do this, in part, by turning our lives over to God, who will guide us if we sincerely ask. As we develop, we find we're offering much mo...	Quetzal	2	460	Dec 12, 2006 by tina
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