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Would you say I have a problem?
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Hi, I'm 20 years old and this is my first post here, and I'm not even sure whether I'm techincally an alcoholic or not.
I'll try and explain when, how and why I drink and then let you make comment.
When I drink? This is usually under one of two conditions. Either when I'm out with my friend...
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Introduction and Question
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Hi everyone. I'm new to the board, and have been sober/clean for 5 years. Was recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia, and not sure how to go about treating it. I see from past posts here that some others face the same decision. I was hoping you'd share your expeirence and solu...
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Daily Reflections Oct 30
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LIVE AND LET LIVE Never since it began has Alcoholics Anonymous been divided by a major controversial issue. Nor has our Fellowship ever publicly taken sides on any question in an embattled world. This, however, has been no earned virtue. It could almost be said that we were born with it. . . . "So long a...
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yo Pytbull
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Hows the snow thing goin up your way...?
Nothing on the ground here...but at 2am ...one couldnt see the front end of the car....was bad...there were 3 of us following ditches on main highways..trying to get Halloween partiers home...
And today doesnt look much better....
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Listening to CD's this morning....
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It's a Sunday morning in....I got the house to myself & I'm in my PJs on this brisk-Florida AM.
So, I'm cleaning up the place (living w/two bacholars-dishes are piled high in the sink) and start looking for Janis in my CD collection.
She was no where to be found.
I scanned over the two ra...
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The Potion
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Acceptance
A magical potion is available to us today. That potion is called acceptance.
We are asked to accept many things: ourselves, as we are; our feelings, needs, desires, choices, and current status of being. Other people, as they are. The status of our relationships with them. Problems....
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Keep It Simple
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****** Each morning puts a man on trail and each evening passes judgment. Ray L. Smith
****** In many ways, the Tenth Step is very natural. We continue to take a personal inventory. And when we're wrong, we promptly admit it. At the end of each day we ask ourselves, "How did my day go?" As we think about o...
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Ten Top Reasons why older people should not go "Trick or Treating"
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10. You get winded from knocking on the door.
9. You hafta have another kid chew the candy for you.
8. You ask for high fiber candy only.
7. When someone drops a candy bar into your bag you loose your balance and fall over.
6. People say "Great Boris Karloff Mask!!" and your'e not wearing a mask.
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Frozen shoulder
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Hi everyone,
Just to say ... I've got a frozen shoulder and can't post as much as I would like to right now.
My boyfriend is here and looking after me and I have absolutely no desire to drink!! So, it could be so very much worse.
Take care and have a great weekend,
Carol
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Hey Everyone, I'm back
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I did not go out, as in to drink or use, I have just been away from the board. I am glad to reconnect. This board does me a world of good and the convenience of sitting at your computer talking to other alkies is unbeatable.
Not much going on with me. Coming up to my fifth year cake.&nbs...
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Ordinary Moments
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ORDINARY MOMENTS
We have our time together
Sometimes we feel bad because we cannot afford all the things we need or want. Whether or not we have all we want, we can get lost in the quest for material possessions and the happiness we think they will bring.
These thoughts can carry us...
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went to an AA convention
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went to my first AA convention tonight... it was really cool... my sponsor had told me it would be so awesome to hear so many people saying the serenity prayer together, but I didn't see what would be so cool about that... but 678 people saying the serenity prayer and the lord's prayer together was just s...
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Night Light
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When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock perhaps a hundred times without so much as a crack showing in it. Yet at the hundred and first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it--but all that had gone before.--Jacob Riis
Many ti...
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Lightbulbs being turned on..all over the map...
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Putting this on the board as a share...just in case others have, or are dealing with it, in some form or another...
In my case?...the pieces are starting to come together...as to why good marriages and good relationships are doomed for failure...without acceptance and understanding...o...
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Consulting Heart and Mind~OM
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Making Choices From A Place Of Balance
Each of the myriad decisions we make every day has the potential to have a deep impact on our lives. Some choices touch us to our very cores, awakening poignant feelings within us. Others seem at first to be simple but prove to be confusingly complex. We make the b...
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One needs something to believe in
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One needs something to believe in, something for which one can have wholehearted enthusiasm. -- Hannah Senesh
Life offers little if we sit passively in the midst of activity. Involvement is a prerequisite if we are to grow. For our lives' purposes we need enthusiasm; we need enthusiasm in order...
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Soul Perspectives on Letting Go
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Our attachments to people, things and situations are a result of feeling that these people, things and situations give us something that would otherwise be missing in our life. We both get something from such relationships as well as learn lessons of giving. Whatever or whomever we are attached to i...
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Desiderata
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Good morning all. I ran across this some years ago while drying out in a rehab hospital and rediscovered it while going through some records. I hope you may find it as inspiring as I have and do. Enjoy your day!...Tim
Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember wha...
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A Time to Be Silent
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A pilot had turned off his radio in order to elude the enemy, but as he came across the channel, he turned it on again and began turning the dial to find the proper frequency, which changed from time to time. His plane was almost out of petrol, and he was terrified of what might happen if he ran out and did not...
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Making Amends......
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Hi to all,
Last week I was going through some hurt feelings and the resulting anger, different but not really that so different, this happened a year ago, and thought I had learned a lesson, but apparently I did not. Speaking of hurt feelings and anger, is at times necessary in my own personal lif...
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Relapse
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Recovery Poem From Darla
There is a monster who lives in my head, He talks to me softly he wants me dead.
He tells me this time I'll stay in control. He tells me not to let anyone know.
He convinces me that no one cares, He whispers the pain is to much to bear.
He tells me how wonderf...
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Daily Reflections Oct 27
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GLOBAL SHARING The only thing that matters is that he is an alcoholic who has found a key to sobriety. These legacies of suffering and of recovery are easily passed among alcoholics, one to the other. This is our gift from God, and its bestowal upon others like us is the one aim that today animates A.A.'s...
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Love is an expression and assertion of self-esteem. . . .
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Today's Gift
How easily we love others when we feel self-assured, when we're comfortable in our chosen work, with our families and friends, with our directions in life. But the way isn't always smooth, nor should it be, and for this we can thank God, our protector and mentor. The challenges of a ro...
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AAAGGGGHHH - Where to start
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Hi everyone,
I'ts been a long road as of late. This physical illness has worn me down so bad that every button that I have is exposed at all times. I talked with a member today via email and it only makes sense to post here. I have been so freaking needy since I've become ill. It...
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You love me so much
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You love me so much; you want to put me in your pocket. And I should die there smothered. -- D. H. Lawrence
Adult children often try to control people to keep them from moving away. To ensure that we won't be left alone, we might smother-love them with everything we have.
Of course, we become obse...
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Putting Yourself First
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Putting Yourself First
We have all heard the instructions of an airline attendant reminding us to put on our own oxygen mask before we help anyone else with theirs. This advice is often cited as a metaphor for self-care because it so accurately expresses why it is important. It seems to say, ironica...
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Separating the message from the messenger
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This is not an easy concept to come to grips with, or at least it wasn’t for me. When I first got sober I listened to everyone and thought they were border-line saints. They had been sober for so much longer than me and had so much more insight.
I soon saw that all these almost-saints were in fact flawed. W...
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Enabling & Rescuing vs Tough Love
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By Robert Burney
"We cannot begin to make progress in learning to Love ourselves until we start being kind to ourselves in healthy ways. A very important part of being kind to ourselves is learning how to say no, and how to set, and be able to defend, boundaries.
Unconditional Love...
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Daily Reflections Oct 26
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ONE ULTIMATE AUTHORITY For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority—a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 132 When I am chosen to carry some small responsibility for my fellows, I ask that God grant me the patience, open-mi...
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THE DAILY REPRIEVE
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“BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD” “But for the grace of God, there would have been thousands more convincing demonstrations.” Alcoholics Anonymous, page 25:0 For what it’s worth: All alone, pitiful, ugly death was about to be my end. Instead, fellowship, dignity and a beautiful life are my reality. This mi...
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Canadian eh....
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25 Signs Showing You Might Be Canadian
1. You're not offended by the term "HOMO MILK".
2. You understand the phrase "Could you pass me a serviette, I just dropped my poutine, on the chesterfield."
3. You eat chocolate bars, not candy bars.
4. You drink Pop, not So...
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life!!!
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Talking to a good friend last night who has returned to drinking after five years without a drunk.My heart went out to him sweating,shaking and ashamed and humilated.I could relate to how he was feeling having had several benders before i truly was done.I tried to get him to focus on what he didnt do and...
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Unconditional love
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Unconditional love corresponds to one of the deepest longings, not only of the child, but of every human being. -- Erich Fromm
Feeling the need to be perfect to ensure we'll be loved is as familiar as the robin's whistle heralding spring. Am I too fat to be loved? Do people think I'm dumb when I speak...
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Daily Reflections
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A.A.'s HEARTBEAT Without unity, the heart of A.A. would cease to beat; . . . . AS BILL SEES IT, p. 125 Without unity I would be unable to recover in A.A. on a daily basis. By practicing unity within my group, with other A.A. members and at all levels of this great Fellowship, I receive a pronounced feeling o...
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"Stuff" Hidden In The Closets
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We all have some kind of “Stuff” cluttering our lives. It is so easy for the psychological “Stuff” to accumulate. It can come from childhood disasters, broken relationships, etc. We store this “Stuff” in closets, attics, basements, and garages of our being. On the surface no one can see how we hide al...
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Have A Good Monday Night
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"There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path!"
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The Strength of Compassion~OM
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Coming At Conflict With An Open Heart
Conflict is an unavoidable part of our lives because our beliefs and modes of being often contrast powerfully with those of our loved ones, acquaintances, and associates. Yet for all the grief disagreements can cause, we can learn much from them. The manner in...
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Daily Reflections Oct 24
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BY FAITH AND BY WORKS" On anvils of experience, the structure of our Society was hammered out. . . . Thus has it been with A.A. By faith and by works we have been able to build upon the lessons of an incredible experience. They live today in the Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous, which - God willin...
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Home Alone!
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Woohoo! This feels so good. I have done NOTHING all day. Coloured my hair, watched hours of telly, played on the old Xbox 360... Still not in clothes... Not eaten, because I don't have to be a good example to anyone... too much coffeee... some dozing.
Life is deeply good.
The man in my life has gone of...
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Gratitude
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Gratitude
Sometimes in life, things happen too fast. We barely solve one problem when two new problems surface. We're feeling great in the morning, but we're submerged in misery by nightfall.
Every day we face interruptions, delays, changes, and challenges. We face pers...
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Night Light
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You who are letting miserable misunderstandings run on from year to year, meaning to clear them up some day...if you could only know and see and feel all of a sudden that time is short, how it would break the spell!~Phillips Brooks
The story of the Hatfields and the McCoys...
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Monday morning....
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This weekend sure has given me a lot to think about. I have the house to myself today for a while, I guess. I feel like I'm able to breath again. My neck & back hurts. Sitting in the chairs too much? No – it means I have to take care of my body better.
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Contentment makes poor men rich
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Contentment makes poor men rich. Discontent makes rich men poor. -- Benjamin Franklin
Not by Bread Alone
The other day I was feeling off center, and so I took a walk around the block to lift my spirits. As I passed one of the neighbor's homes, I spotted a luxury car and began to imagine...
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page 86
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i am interested in page 86, works for me, was (a) hoping you guys could try it (b) if any "old" timers could comment on the page to help me more.
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My Weekend....
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It's pretty much been an "AA" weekend.
Friday: Dinner at my friends sponsors' house with other AA fellowship.
Saturday: 8pm candlelight meeting & Karaoka afterward.
Sunday: Picnic at my home group's meeting place.
All this with 12 noon &...
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Daily Reflections Oct 23
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WHAT WE KNOW BEST "Shoemaker, stick to thy last!" . . . better do one thing supremely well than many badly. That is the central theme of this Tradition [Five]. Around it our Society gathers in unity. The very life of our Fellowship requires the preservation of this principle. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TR...
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understanding
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Could you help me understand....My boyfriend is an alcoholic...I am an al anon er....
What is the eye opening experience like when one finally realises that they want to be sober? How is it different from times before when it didn't really lead to sobriety?
I used to think he could chose to go t...
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Feeling Good About Ourselves
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Birds sing after a storm. Why shouldn't we? -- Rose Kennedy
Some of us have been through an awful lot. We have endured pain and hopelessness. Now we have some choices to make. We can allow our pasts to make us feel badly about ourselves or we can sing after the storm. We can feel proud that we are not givin...
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Elders Meditation for 10/22
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"Growth is a painful process."
--Wilma Mankiller, CHEROKEE
Whenever we grow, we usually need to let go of emotional attachments. Letting go can be painful. Sometimes growth allows us to deal with fear. All fear can fit into two categories: one, we're going to lose something we have,...
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Been Busy.....
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Somehow - w/help from my HP - it's been 25 days since my last drink.
I've made it into the rooms at least once, if not twice, a day since then.
I have found fellowship & wonderment.
My mind is a mess right now - it's all sinking it. :weirdface...
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