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Hello new here
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Just found this site today while looking for something up lifting. I haven't drank since 6/95. I'm being considered for a very good job but probably won't survive the back groundcheck due to all the stupid things I did while still drinking. I have found people to be not very forgiving. Oh don't get me w...
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oh crap!
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well, the 4 year relationship i was in thats been over about a year had ended badly with him refusing to speak to me any more as it continually went to conflict. (same old story, i wanted more) we were stuck in a pattern that suited him to a "t" but didnt do much for me. usually i end up on much more c...
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Whew!! Lot to catch up on here..:)
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My thoughts re....a couple of posts from below.... I believe that a lot of times...we can take things out of context...when posts or replys to posts are read...and we can take them as insulting, or personally...beyond...what they are really meant to be... I believe that any replys that someone get...
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Surviving Slumps
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A slump can go on for days. We feel sluggish, unfocused, and sometimes overwhelmed with feelings we can't sort out. We may not understand what is going on with us. Even our attempts to practice recovery behaviors may not appear to work. We still don't feel emotionally, mentally, and spiritually as go...
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Struggling...
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I'm having a really difficult time right now...cant seem to keep the "just for today" philosophy in my mind. I keep thinking about things in terms of "never", "forever" and "the rest of my life"...I don't think I have what it takes to do anything for the re...
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Just my thought
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If we choose to follow in the footsteps of fools, we will also have to suffer the consequences. When we walk along blindly, we are in danger of falling into sin. We must watch our steps and turn from that which is evil. It is our obligation to flee from sin and evil. If we keep company with fools we will...
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Accepting Reality
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...self-contempt never inspires lasting change. -- Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter I can suck myself down into a deep, black hole when I focus on what I think I SHOULD be more loving, sexy, productive, whatever. Thinking I should be something else means Im not good enough now. This is poverty th...
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Daily Reflections June 26
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A GIFT THAT GROWS WITH TIME For most normal folks, drinking means conviviality, companionship and colorful imagination. It means release from care, boredom and worry. It is joyous intimacy with friends and a feeling that life is good. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 151 The longer I chased these elusive...
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Burdensome Feelings
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Blaming Others As we begin to truly understand that the world outside of us is a reflection of the world inside of us, we may feel confused about who is to blame for the problems in our lives. If we had a difficult childhood, we may wonder how we can take responsibility for that, and in our current relat...
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Just checkin in...
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Hey y'all, just checkin in... haven't posted here in awhile... pretty hot here today, but the house is staying cool enough at least... and it's not so bad in the shade outside... Been busy doing major clean up around here all week... I've been working on the house mostly and a bit here and there outside...
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I'm not dead yet
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Hi. Just checking in. Anybody have any words of wisdom or encouragement for me to publicly mock but secretly appreciate?
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Chat room
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When is the best time to be involved in the AA chat room. I live in the UK. I've never used a chat room before and would like to give it a go, but so far have found it empty ???? Welshgit
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Daily Reflections June 25
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A TWO-WAY STREET If we ask, God will certainly forgive our derelictions. But in no case does He render us white as snow and keep us that way without our cooperation. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 65 When I prayed, I used to omit a lot of things for which I needed to be forgiven. I thought that if I di...
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Withholding
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Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. We're not available to participate in the relationship. We shut down. Sometimes, it is appropriate and healthy to shut down in a relationship. We may legitimat...
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Just sayin "Hi"
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Checkin in...and just saying hi.... Dts from computer meltdown are a bitch!! :) No addiction here!! jee sus!! New system and comming back online in a few days... Different email address also... Stay sober....stay sane.... Keep on truckin!! and Watch out for Turnip trucks!! Onward!!!
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H.A.L.T....
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heh, well, wasn't posting for awhile, now I'm posting a lot... lol H.A.L.T... Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired... I was a bit hungry... not exactly angry... lonely... and definitely tired... have been up all night... being an overprotective mama, and stirrin up trouble... lol I've got a good...
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Well well well...
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You all said I was too flippant to be serious about quitting drinking. You mocked me for coming and going and not being able to make it stick...you were cold, callous and insensitive. Well I've got a little news flash for you, I did finally get "it" and I have put together some clean time s...
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The Light Of Truth
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It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness. -- Chinese Proverb With all the negativity that surrounds us, it is easy to become overwhelmed. It is also tempting to fight against the negative or to declare war on it. Yet a master teacher offered a better way: "Resist not evil, but overc...
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Just a couple of questions
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First, is there a way to do spell check when writing a post. Second, Is there a thread where folks can post Quotes that they have heard in meeting and other places that have been a big help in their recovery?
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Hi, I'm an Alcoholic!
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New to this whole AA thing, and, well, frankly, comparatively new to the whole alcoholic thing. It's developed into quite the interesting little life predicament in the last, oh, two years, I'd say. Hmm. It's been a rough two years, as I'm sure many of you can relate to. Before I ever became an alcoholi...
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Jillian
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Hi Jillian... I saw you wrote a post that quickly stated you were new to this on Doll's thread. Just wanted to bring it up top so we can welcome you! I am an alkie from Ct, nice to meet you... feel free to post anytime... lots of supportive people here!
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I actually sorta chaired a meeting :) ...and 4th step
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Well, even with being in and out of the program for a year now, I'd never chaired a meeting... I did pick a topic a couple of weeks ago at one meeting, it's one where whoever has a topic can speak up. But at tonight's meeting, there's a guy that always chairs it, but he has a speech problem, and so he starts i...
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Seek Union over Seperation
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Beliefs separate. Loving thoughts unite. -- Paul Ferrini Our ego focuses on how we are different from the rest of the world. We connect with soul when we experience how we are the same. Any time you separate yourself from other people or from situations, you know your personality is in control. At suc...
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Letting Go of Old Beliefs
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Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. W...
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written by my struggling AH-(long)
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A little history---39 year old husband struggling with addiction for 2 years. In and out of sobriety for 2 years. Presently dealing with some serious legal consequences. I found this today---I haven't heard from him since yesterday at 5p. Here goes... It's at these times that I truly believe th...
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D.R. June 23
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TRUSTING OTHERS But does trust require that we be blind to other people's motives or, indeed, to our own? Not at all; this would be folly. Most certainly, we should assess the capacity for harm as well as the capability for good in every person that we would trust. Such a private inventory can reveal the...
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Well Done - Ron70062
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Hi Ron, I decided to start a new thread as your last one was starting to get a little lost. Well done on making a week!!! A Very Big Congratulations!!! Keep going one day at a time. And, please keep posting and let us know how it's going for you, won't you? Take care, Carol
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Truth
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Four Noble Truths: Life means suffering The cause of suffering The end of suffering The path to the end of suffering Eightfold Path To Enlightenment: Right knowledge Right intention Right speech Right action Right livelihood Right effort Right mindfulness Right concentration
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Imposing Your Will on Others
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The right to make your own choices is a precious one. We grow when we have the freedom to decide our own paths and determine what makes us happy. Yet there are those who are inclined to try and control others. They may be driven by insecurity, envy, fear, or the need for power. These people are deeply crit...
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D.R. June 22
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TODAY, I'M FREE This brought me to the good healthy realization that there were plenty of situations left in the world over which I had no personal power--that if I was so ready to admit that to be the case with alcohol, so I must make the same admission with respect to much else. I would have to be still and...
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Off topic - Comical!
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Thought someone might like a chuckle The kitties are now 2 months old and I've had no luck finding homes for them. I told my b/f John I had no choice but take them to the SPCA. He's such a sucker sometimes - hee, hee. Couldn't stand the fact they could be put to sleep so he bit the bullet and said "Pick one...
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500 Days Sober Today!
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Hi everyone, I have just worked out that today is my 500th sober day! I cannot believe the amazing difference in my life now and how it was when I was still drinking. I am so very grateful to AA and so incredibly lucky to have found the fellowship. Also, it was one year ago yesterday that I was lucky enough to...
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Boundaries
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Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. --Beyond Codependency There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good. When we are willing to take som...
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Prayers
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Everyone has those times when their hearts feel heavy...... At present there is alot that seems to be weighing on mine. I know I can only pray and leave it to God. I do ask your prayers for these people: My sister had surgery close to 3 mos. ago to remove tumor from her colon. Infection set...
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Ron 70062-New thread
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Your circumstances were getting kind of lost in the shuffle below so I thought to bring it topside so we can stay posted on your well being. Do hope all is going well and yeah, staying busy will keep bad thoughts away for the most part. The rest you have to "just say no" to. That Gatorade you'...
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The Good Feelings
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Let yourself feel the good feelings too. Yes, sometimes-good feelings can be as distracting as the painful, more difficult ones. Yes, good feelings can be anxiety producing to those of us unaccustomed to them. But go ahead and feel the good feelings anyway. Feel and accept the joy. The love. The warm...
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Letting go of control
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Many of us refuse to put down what is troubling us. We carry resentment, anger, hostility, mistrust, suspicion, grudges, fear, anxiety, worries, and other burdens. How can we travel very far if we are weighed down by so many concerns? When will we learn to drop our cares, release our worries, and let...
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The Hormone Hostage
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THE HORMONE HOSTAGE KNOWS THAT THERE ARE DAYS IN THE MONTH WHEN ALL A MAN HAS TO DO IS OPEN HIS MOUTH & HE TAKES HIS LIFE INTO HIS OWN HANDS! THIS IS A HANDY GUIDE THAT SHOULD BE AS COMMON AS A DRIVER'S LICENSE IN THE WALLET OF EVERY HUSBAND, BOYFRIEND, CO-WORKER, OR SIGNIFICANT OTHER!DANGEROU...
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Moving this to the top Gem...
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alligot wrote: I am always working on this one ! it is the silly little things i have to watch, only this morning i was preparing for breakfast i got out the bowls and plates and my husband ( who was ready early ) began to cut the fruit and put it into the bowls i use the plates for fruit and the bowls for cereal h...
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check out the bruise
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Relationship Martyrs
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Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with pe...
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Really bad way
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Hi Ya all, well as some of you may remember me you´ll know I haven´t been around for a while. Well what can i say? I moved to spain as i said i would and it has been one hellish ride after the other, I´m drinking like there´s no tomorrow, I even thought about taking my own life thursday morning just to stop the p...
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went to the "other side" lol
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"other side" being alanon... that's what we said down in Memphis if an AA went to alanon... lol there was a lot of anymosity between AA and alanon there... Anyway... finally got up the courage to try an alanon meeting... all this going on with my bf... and seeing those alanon tendenci...
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Accepting the Journey of Others
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Each of us, in life, walks on the special path that the soul is destined to undertake. Our journeys are very different and we progress at different rates. The pitfalls and blessings we encounter are unique, yet we are all learning and no one form of knowledge is more important than any other. Even so, wh...
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WANT OR A NEED
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Guys In reading the BIG book, I came across this sentance. "We are taught to differentiate between our wants (which are never satisfied) and our needs (which are always provided for).....Page 559. This Is confusing me... As you know I have a Recovering A in my life.. Who's working the programm...
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Smile its the start of another day.........
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I came across this wee story a while back, thought it may give you all a little cheer to start your week............. An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always del...
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Hey folks
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Just thought I'd check in, I'm still alive and sober. Been keeping busy and well gonna be a busy week this week. company coming from Toronto on thursday for my daughters graduation. And wow working lots. My son is doing extremly well and well our relationship is turned out positively better, I go se...
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Making Life Easier
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Life doesn't have to be hard. Yes, there are times we need to endure, struggle through, and rely on our survival skills. But we don't have to make life, growth, recovery, change, or our day-to-day affairs that hard all the time. Having life be that hard is a remnant of our martyrdom, a leftover from old w...
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Don't Claim Baggage Pain!!
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One of the greatest enemies to experiencing true love is one of the most widely known but least understood. It is commonly classified as baggage. Everyday this seemingly invisible monster corrodes the best of relationships, marriages and intentions. Distressingly, some men and women, unwittin...
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