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Daily Reflection Dec 22
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PRINCIPLES, NOT PERSONALITIES The way our "worthy" alcoholics have sometimes tried to judge the "less worthy" is, as we look back on it, rather comical. Imagine, if you can, one alcoholic judging another! THE LANGUAGE OF THE HEART, p. 37 Who am I to judge anyone? When I first entered the Fellowship I f...
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Helping Others
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You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years of trying to get other people interested in you. -- Dale Carnegie
We wanted friends, but our addiction wanted all our attention. We had no time to be close to others.
Well, stand aside addi...
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An exerpt from a book coming out next year
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"After years of being driven quite mad by the demands of traveling and going to parties and shopping and entertaining and Heaven-knows-what-all between the end of October and the beginning of January, I decided to opt out. A few years ago when I turned 35 I simply decided that for the sake of m...
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uh oh I have an urge to drink
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I have to be honest. I remember that some of you think that means that I don't 'get' the program, and that I am a 'loser', etc. But the combination of things now,,,,, this difficult woman, my ex's being on his deathbed, and my son's birthday and holidays are&nbs...
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Seasons Greetings to all
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Has this sent to me, read it and meant alot, just wanted to pass it on here. Have a safe holiday and best wishes to the new year.
With Love
Sent to you wrapped in love and appreciation that you have touched my life with yours.
For all things Give Thanks! God has a plan and in his plan all thin...
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the wreckage of the future
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We in AA and other 12 Step groups hear,,, do not live in the wreckage of the future.
I used to think that just meant that it will happen when it happens and there is nothing we can do about it so why worry or do anything about it when it is hopeless and later. but I am learning to see that d...
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Mental Hospital Phone Menu
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Hello and thank you for calling The State Mental Hospital. Please select from the following menu options: If you are obsessive-compulsive, press 1 repeatedly. If you are co-dependent, please ask someone to press 2 for you. If you have multiple personalities, press 3, 4, 5 and 6. If you...
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Balance
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The Language of Letting Go.
Strive for balanced expectations of others. Strive for healthy tolerance.
In the past, we may have tolerated too much or too little. We may have expected too much or too little.
We may swing from tolerating abuse, mistreatment, and deception to refusing to tolerat...
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Success
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Success can only be measured in terms of distance traveled. -- Mavis Gallant
We are forever moving from one experience to another, one challenge to another, and one relationship to another. Our ability to handle confidently all encounters is a gift of the program, and one that accompanies us...
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Merry X- MAS
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Just had a moment and thought i would step in and say good day. All is going well concidering what I am (an AA) and thats not a bad thing. The realization of that changed my life and for the better too. Anywho I want to wish each and every one of you (my family in recovery) a very merry christmas and a most wonde...
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Daily Reflections Dec 21
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THE REWARDS OF GIVING This is indeed the kind of giving that actually demands nothing. He does not expect his brother sufferer to pay him, or even to love him. And then he discovers that by the divine paradox of this kind of giving he has found his own reward, whether his brother has yet received anything...
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my new attitude
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wow...just wow
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Just an update on whats up with Wendy...all is VERY well. God is so definitely on my side!!!
i do believe that i finally have a place to call my own!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
the result of Wendy going to great lengths:)
just a few loose ends to tie up with SS and i'll be moving in
I'm...
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Five Simple Rules For Happiness
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1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.
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Courage and Patience
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Let us review what others have written about courage and patience:
Courage is fear that has said its prayers. --Dorothy Bernard
All things come to him who waits - provided he knows what he is waiting for. --Woodrow Wilson
Courage is more than standing for a firm conviction. It include...
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Release
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Today's Power Word is a powerful healer and often a difficult task. Through surrendering what is painful we allow ourselves to work towards the most important goal - life without fear and restriction. Often we hold on to disappointments, to situations and people that have hurt us, as a means of self-...
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TLH
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I know this is out of nowhere, but I've been wondering about some people who just sort of dropped off, and I remember some neat shares from TLH, in Hawaii I think it was? Anyone heard from him? Kspear is another one that has been quiet. Hey, you guys out there?????? I miss some of the "old" people's esh (not...
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H A L T
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I'd like some discussion on this topic, some sharing and e,s & h. Not advice.
There is this concept H.A.L.T. - hungry, angry , lonely, tired. Okay, hungry is simple enough because we stop and eat. Tired is simple enough because we stop and get some rest. Lonely is a little more complex beca...
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a big change...
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I know I'm not supposed to make big changes in the first year... my sponsor said it would be ok if I agree to do it a certain way... so... my husband and I are separating... and I had to agree that I'd talk to him a couple of times a week, hang out with him some, maybe date, and don't make anything final for awhil...
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Finding Freedom in No
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December 19, 2006 Finding Freedom In No Yes People
Many of us, from childhood on, are taught that saying yes is right and saying no is wrong. We learn that acceding to demands allows us to avoid conflict and criticism, please people, earn praise, and prove that we care for the important peop...
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making amends
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Yesterday, in the church choir yet, in the middle of services yet, another person and I got into a 'scene'. I won't go into what the whole scene was, but I have been having a problem with this person since I joined this choir a couple of months ago. She is the diva-prima donna type, and has been treat...
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Christmas Humour!
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Three men died on Christmas Eve and were met by Saint Peter at the pearly gates.
"In honour of this holy season," Saint Peter said, "you must each possess something that symbolizes Christmas to get into heaven."
The first man fumbled through his pockets and pulled out a lighter. He flicked it...
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Acceptance Of Circumstances
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People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. -- George Bernard Shaw
It's easy to let circumstances determine how we think and behave. While it's true that some events seem devastating, our relationship with a Higher Power can help us accept and even grow from experiences...
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Daily Reflections Dec 19
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UNDERSTANDING THE MALADY When dealing with an alcoholic, there may be a natural annoyance that a man could be so weak, stupid and irresponsible. Even when you understand the malady better, you may feel this feeling rising. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 139 Having suffered from alcoholism, I should und...
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Staying Open to Our Feelings
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Many of us have gotten so good at following the "don't feel" rule that we can try to talk ourselves out of having feelings, even in recovery.
"If I was really working a good program, I wouldn't feel angry."
"I don't get angry. I'm a Christian. I forgive and forget."
"I'm not angry. I'm affirming th...
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How Prayer Works
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Newcomer
You've told me I should pray for someone who's been causing me all sorts of problems. But that's not going to change that person, is it?
Sponsor
I've heard various descriptions of how prayer works. Some say God listens, some say our thoughts affect the energy of...
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Where's Your Attention
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"Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention."
-- Greg Anderson
What do you usually focus on: problems or solutions?
When our mind dwells on a problem, we stay stuck. Woe is me! But when we can shift to ask how we might achieve a solution to our prob...
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Daily Reflections Dec 18
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HONESTY WITH NEWCOMERS Tell him exactly what happened to you. Stress the spiritual feature freely. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 93 The marvel of A.A. is that I tell only what happened to me. I don't waste time offering advice to potential newcomers, for if advice worked, nobody would get to A.A. All I hav...
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anxiety at meeting...
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I haven't been to a meeting in a week and a half cuz I've had an ear infection in both ears and have felt like crap and haven't been able to drive... I'm finally sorta ok to drive, just a little dizzy, so I tried to go to a meeting tonight... I got there ok and then the room started filling up and it was really cro...
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Dealing With Loss...
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If you have suffered a loss through the death of a loved one or through divorce, and don't feel "normal", you are probably grieving.
You must allow yourself to feel these feelings, and accept the fact that you are normal if you are engaging in any of these behaviors and signs of grief. You need to all...
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Healthy Stuff....and you guys have a great night
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A healthy relationship is based on respect.
It's when:
you have fun together
you both feel like you can be yourself
you can have different opinions and interests
you listen to each other
you trust each other
you can both compromise, say sorry, and talk arguments out
you don't have...
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Let Go Of Blame (aka: growing up and admitting your own responsiblity)
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"My days of whining and complaining about others have come to an end. Nothing is easier than fault finding." -- Og Mandino We often expect other people to meet our needs. When they don’t give us what we want, we may feel anger, resentment and even revengeful. Rather than blaming others, we could...
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Refinement
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Refining metals such as Gold requires continuous cycles of repeated pressure and heat that filters away impurities and allows the metals to shine with clarity. In our lives, it is often our "mistakes" and more difficult lessons that refine us. These strenuous processes draw out our finest qualiti...
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Sober Living is Safer Living...
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http://www.cnn.com/video/player/player.html?url=/video/world/2006/12/16/davies.uk.train.track.sleeper.itn.itn
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Grief not an easy thing. They say nessary though
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Hi there I am an AA with 17 years and I still get my but kicked by life. I have recently broke up with a girl that I loved very much. Not any easy thing. She had a daughter that I loved very much too. Won't go into all the details but it needed to happen. She left about a 6 weeks ago and still had stuff at my house.
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Reflection for the Day
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Reflection for the Day
Change is a part of the flow of life. Sometimes we're frustrated because change seems slow in coming. Sometimes, too, we're resistant to a change that seems to have been thrust upon us. We must remember that change, in and of itself, neither binds us nor frees us. Onl...
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Hi! I'm new here.
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Hi! My name's Kathleen and I'm a 22 year old alcoholic. I started drinking heavily at age 20, but it didn't become daily until just about the past 5 months. I used to put down a pint of vodka a day and then it progressed to a fifth. Sometimes more. I had just reached the point where I needed it to function. I ev...
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And as I get ready for a heavy date with a beautiful young lady...and I might not be back.:) I share the following...
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And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation – some fact of my life – unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be...
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Taking Care...Emotionally
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What does it mean to take care of myself emotionally? I recognize when I'm feeling angry, and I accept that feeling without shame or blame.
I recognize when I'm feeling hurt, and I accept those feelings without attempting to punish the source of my pain. I recognize and feel fear when that emotion pr...
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Goodwill
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Goodwill
Have you ever envied someone else's good fortune? Consider the friend who calls with a different ring to her voice. Instead of sharing her troubles and woes, she proceeds to tell you good news. Something exciting, financially beneficial, glamorous, wonderful beyond belief...
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Xmas Request Update
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If you haven't already seen it, at the very top of this message board is a post (***Christmas Request***), asking that members of Miracles In Progress send Christmas cards to the 12 men living in the Miracles In Progress Recovery House.
The response I have gotten from so many is absolutely amazing!...
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2nd Question about defining an alcoholic
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Thank you for your responses.
Do you think an alcoholic can chose to not drink for a few days and not have a problem with doing so even if they have been drinking every day for many years.
Better elaberation:To experience varied temperament for the first few days and also sweating dur...
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What is an alcoholic?
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Humour me
How would you describe an alcoholic?
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Mental backup in progress - Do Not Disturb!
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I'm not cheap, but I am on special this week I almost had a psychic girlfriend but she left me before we met
Who is General Failure and why is he reading my hard disk?
What happens if you get scared half to death twice?
For Sale: Parachute. Only used once, never opened, small stain.
I tried sniffin...
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The 5 Stages Of Grief...
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Grief is a somewhat commplicated and misunderstood emotion. Yet, grief is something that, unfortunately, we must all experience at some time or other. We will all inevitably experience loss. Whether it is a loss through death, divorce or some other loss, the stages of grieving are the same.
Ther...
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My Story of Discovery and Awakening
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Hi all: My name is Jarrod, and I'm an alcoholic. I really messed up my marriage and life with my drinking the past 8 years. The more I drank the meaner my wife got toward me. The heavy drinking started just after our second child came. I was 30, she was a stay at home Mom. After the child came the wife got breas...
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Daily Reflections Dec 15
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DOING ANYTHING TO HELP Offer him [the alcoholic] friendship and fellowship. Tell him that if he wants to get well you will do anything to help. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 95 I remember how attracted I was to the two men from A.A. who Twelfth-Stepped me. They said I could have what they had, with no conditi...
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Keep your recovery First to make it Last
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Holidays
Keep your recovery First to make it Last. -- Anonymous
We all encounter places, people, and times of the year, which trigger memories of our old lifestyle, pleasant or painful events. Holidays and family gatherings may be especially stressful times for us.
There hav...
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Struggling
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Hi everyone, I'm new to this site, and new to trying to stay sober. I mean REALLY trying. I've attended AA meetings in the past, of course I had a few drinks before I went, just to loosen up enough to share, or so I reasoned. Needless to say, the meetings were not really for me. I went to g...
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Clear Thinking
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Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial.
We didn't resort to denial - either o...
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