Alcoholics Anonymous

DougD · DougD

Hi All, I want to stop drinking. I've never been to an AA meeting but this is my first attempt to get help. I have a great life if not for my habits - that I put before everything at times. I noticed there is a chat room on here. Do you guys meet in the chat room regularly or at a scheduled time? I like the anon...

TLH · TLH

So I was thinking the other day- my dad wasn't an alcoholic. My mom showed some really serious alcohol issues when I was a kid but doesn't really now, both grandpas died drunks. Anyhow- I think to me alcohol always was about a party- festivity. I remember going to company dinners and being disa...

Doll · Doll

"THE ROOT OF OUR TROUBLES" Selfishness--self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of all our troubles. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 62 How amazing the revelation that the world, and everyone in it, can get along just fine with or without me. What a relief to know that people, places and...

Doll · Doll

THE LIMITS OF SELF-RELIANCE We asked ourselves why we had them [fears]. Wasn't it because self-reliance failed us? ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.68 All of my character defects separate me from God's will. When I ignore my association with Him I face the world and my alcoholism alone and must dep...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Recovery is not about being right; it's about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are. That concept can be difficult for many of us if we have lived in systems that functioned on the "right/wrong" justice scale. The person who was right was okay; the person w...

Doll · Doll

GETTING THE "SPIRITUAL ANGLE" How often do we sit in AA meetings and hear the speaker declare, "But I haven't yet got the spiritual angle." Prior to this statement, he had described a miracle of transformation which had occurred in him -- not only his release from alcohol,...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Believing in change At first, drugs or booze turned us on; later they turned on us. We couldn't find any peace anywhere. We began turning into the kind of person we didn't want to be, but we didn't know what was happening to us or how to change. When we came to believe that our lives could and w...

Doll · Doll

CONVINCING "MR. HYDE" Even then, as we hew away, peace and joy will still elude us. That's the place so many of us A.A. oldsters have come to. And it's a hell of a spot, literally. How shall our unconscious--from which so many of our fears, compulsions and phony aspirations still st...

LisaF · LisaF

So I kinda had a wake up call today... I haven't had my priorities straight at all since I moved, I'm being horribly selfish with my boyfriend, not accepting his feelings on our relationship... how he feels it's wrong because I'm still in my first year... he does want me here, he do...

Wren · Wren

"Our sadness is an energy we discharge in order to heal. …Sadness is painful. We try to avoid it. Actually discharging sadness releases the energy involved in our emotional pain. To hold it in is to freeze the pain within us. The therapeutic slogan is that grieving is the ‘healing feeling.’&quo...

Phil · Phil

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which mean...

Phil · Phil

"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have...

psychoktty · psychoktty

Hi there, I'm pretty new to this board; have been lurking, haven't made a post yet til now. My homegroup is on Wednesday nights, it's called the "Artist's AA" it's been there and relatively the same for something like 25 years, even in the same location. I have been at...

CAM · CAM

February 16, 2007 *********************************************************** Twenty-Four Hours A Day A.A. Thought For The Day One drink started a train of thought that became an obsession, and from then on, we couldn't stop drinking. We developed a mental compulsion to keep drinking u...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Our basic recovery concept that never loses its power to work miracles is the concept called acceptance. We do not achieve acceptance in a moment. We often have to work through a mirage of feelings - sometimes anger, outrage, shame, self-pity, or sadness. But if acceptance is our goal, we will achiev...

Sick of being sick · Sick of being sick

Day one - step one: When you wake up, commit to the decision that, no matter how often or how strongly the desire to drink comes, you will not drink today, but will wait until tomorrow to have a drink. Day two - step two: Repeat step one. For further instructions on proper implementation of the above pr...

cindy · cindy

an interesting topic, love. i mean really, what is it? how does it manifest itself in our lives? when in active addiction i didnt see too much evidence of love, in fact more of the opposite. so how can you tell if someone loves you or is using you to meet their own selfish needs? how do you tell if YOU are usi...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Pray to God, row to shore. - Anonymous The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row! Sometimes we find oursel...

LisaF · LisaF

So, what exactly is so bad about going into a relationship in the first year of sobriety? I do understand the codependency/caretaker type of role that could come about being with someone with longer sobriety than I have... we're both aware of that and are trying to have more interdependence th...

Phil · Phil

How much emotional space do you occupy in your relationship? Could the amount of emotional space you and your partner each take up have anything to do with whether your relationship makes it or not? Indeed it does. Just what do I mean by "emotional space?" It's the time, energy, an...

CAM · CAM

*********************************************************** A.A. Thought For The Day If alcoholism were just a physical allergy, like asthma or hay fever, it would be easy for us, by taking a skin test with alcohol, to find out whether or not we're alcoholics. But alcoholism is not just a p...

Phil · Phil

TLH · TLH

Humanity as a group seems to be fixated with origins and the nature of god. There always seems to be many quests going on at many levels of society seeking out the nature of various gods and theories of origins. I myself was raised in two households with very loose religious requirements (i...

Wren · Wren

This is My HeartThis is my heart. It is a good heart. Bones and a membrane of mist and fire are the woven cover. When we make love in the flower world my heart is close enough to sing to yours in a language that has no use for clumsy human words. My head is a good head, but it is a hard head and it whirs inside with a...

Quetzal · Quetzal

The crisis of our time . . . is a crisis not of the hands but of the hearts. -- Archibald MacLeish We singlemindedly search for love, for belonging, for affirmation from others that will wipe out the torment of alienation that haunts our wakefulness and our dreams. "Does he truly care?" we wo...

LisaF · LisaF

I'm really stressed out. Need to get to a meeting soon I guess. Crap going on with my ex, he wanted to keep this a no contest divorce, then put in the papers that he's not responsible for any of the debt, I told him he has a choice, keep it no contest and put in the papers that he's going to pay ha...

RyanS · RyanS

I ASKED FOR STRENGTH I asked for Strength... And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong. I asked for Wisdom... And God gave me Problems to solve. I asked for Prosperity... And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work. I asked for Courage... And God gave me Danger to overcome. I asked for Love... A...

Phil · Phil

"Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food or construct shelte...

pp17331 · pp17331

Hi everyone. Thanks for your words of kindness re my near slip. It was true for me to go home and wait it out. Once there, warm and comfortable the urge left me. I'm going to my first meeting this am. Not brave enough to go by myself, so I called my brother to go. He goes frequently although he still somet...

pp17331 · pp17331

Anyone read the book A Million Little Pieces? There is a part in the book where the alcoholic/drug addicts states he's transcended his fury and has reached a state of calm. A state of absolute peace without fear or doubt. He refuses to believe it is god and doesn't care what it is, he just ackn...

destinydreamer · destinydreamer

First of all, I would like to thank everyone that helped me prepare for going to my first meeting... I got there tonight thanks to all of you for your postings and responses! When I first got there (which was extra early because I was paranoid about walking in late and having the attention brought to me ev...

tina · tina

Today was one of those days, when I should've stayed in bed. Started out thinking I slept through the day without waking up. Than got a frightening phone call from the school about my daughter whom was rushed to the hospital by ambulance. My first thoughts were OH MY GOD, than procceeded to ask wh...

Phil · Phil

We can go forward with our life and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the bridge it is cold and dark. We stood there with others in the cold and darkness, doubled over in pain. Some of us developed an eating disorder to cope with the pain. Some dr...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. -- Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...

LisaF · LisaF

Thursday will be 6 months! Will definitely get to a meeting then to get my chip... I really need to be getting to more meetings, I can feel myself starting to slip a little lately... not wanting to drink or anything, honestly overall doing ok... just been really quiet and subdued lately... not much...

wagon · wagon

hi everyone, just a quick note to say hi, life has been good here. when i came to aa they gave me some promises that i thought never would be coming true for me. boy was i wrong! something about a new freedom and a new happiness, i came here to get sober, have gotten so much more. i dont post much but i am here...

destinydreamer · destinydreamer

Sorry that I keep asking questions about AA, but I dont know anyone that has ever gone so I am going to ask the most qualified people I know... YOU!

There are a bunch of codes for the AA meetings and I am trying to figure out which one I should try first.. I know the difference between "O"...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their go...

Quetzal · Quetzal

When we do for other people what they should do for themselves, we both stay stuck. Perhaps it's human nature to grow and change only when we have to. Unrelenting pain can serve as a motivator. Sometimes ultimatums are effective too. But making excuses for others or taking over their responsibil...

Quetzal · Quetzal

It's odd that you can get so anesthetized by your own pain or your own problem that you don't quite fully share the hell of someone close to you. --Lady Bird Johnson Preoccupation with self can be the bane of our existence. It prevents all but the narrowest perspective on any problem. It cuts of...

Wren · Wren

The first step to forgiveness "To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it." -- Christiane Northrup To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel t...

Phil · Phil

If I dont wanna fall through the ice...I'd better stay away from the thin spots. If I'm going to tease a polar bear...sooner or later...I'm going to be lunch. When I'm riding a whale....I'd better stay away from the blow hole.. When building an igloo...dont forget to put in a do...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Hi everyone, I spent an hour with a cardiologist yesterday and had a few tests. I have been told that I may have alcoholic cardiomyopathy. I have a fair few symptoms and I'm going to have a scan of my heart and a 24 hour heart monitor fitted soon. It just shows that alcohol affects more than the liver, w...

Sally · Sally

Ok, so the first time I came on here I was only one day sober...now I am four weeks and have been to four f2f meetings close to my place. The first one I found bloody awful to be honest! I was SO nervous that just getting my ass in the door was like the hardest thing I have done in a very long time, if not ever... t...

pp17331 · pp17331

I spent a few hours with my sister today. She is my most reliable drinking partner. I had not seen her in approx seven wks, since I stopped drinking. While talking we discussed our drinking habits, past, present and future. We agreed that we are children of an alcoholic and had a few good laughs about our...

timverton · timverton

Oh well...six months yesterday the 8th (for maybe the second or third time in a decade or so of trying) and still going strong. The way I feel most often is that alcohol is no longer a part of my life and the number of days sober does not strike me as something special I guess. Anyway...Just wanted to put...

destinydreamer · destinydreamer

How come the latest meetings are 8pm where I live? Is that when they end everywhere-what about imsomniacs lol... I was just curious to see if thats when the last meeting for the day is everywhere or if it is just where I live - maybe once my body gets use to sleeping without alcohol I will understand a bit...

Quetzal · Quetzal

Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone call, to begin whatever project we have been putti...

barisax · barisax

I dug up my anniversary writings - my log that I wrote in on my sobriety date for my first few years. I was kind of surprised to discover that it stopped when it did.... after 6 years. I have probably looked at it since then, but not added to it. My first year was pretty exhuberant writing I guess. Aside fr...

Ironman · Ironman

My oldest, 7 pictured in my avatar wrote me a little note: Daddy: Don't be who people want you to be. Be who you want to be. Holy SH*t!!! At 7, she is very wise! I'm still numb about it! I asked her last night where she got that from and she said "I don't know, I just wrote it." I...

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	Hello (Preview) Hi All, I want to stop drinking. I've never been to an AA meeting but this is my first attempt to get help. I have a great life if not for my habits - that I put before everything at times. I noticed there is a chat room on here. Do you guys meet in the chat room regularly or at a scheduled time? I like the anon...	DougD	8	373	Feb 18, 2007 by DougD
	A question re: my Alcoholism (Preview) So I was thinking the other day- my dad wasn't an alcoholic. My mom showed some really serious alcohol issues when I was a kid but doesn't really now, both grandpas died drunks. Anyhow- I think to me alcohol always was about a party- festivity. I remember going to company dinners and being disa...	TLH	8	506	Feb 18, 2007 by Doll
	Daily Reflections Feb 12 (Preview) "THE ROOT OF OUR TROUBLES" Selfishness--self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of all our troubles. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 62 How amazing the revelation that the world, and everyone in it, can get along just fine with or without me. What a relief to know that people, places and...	Doll	1	414	Feb 18, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Daily Reflections Feb 11 (Preview) THE LIMITS OF SELF-RELIANCE We asked ourselves why we had them [fears]. Wasn't it because self-reliance failed us? ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p.68 All of my character defects separate me from God's will. When I ignore my association with Him I face the world and my alcoholism alone and must dep...	Doll	3	807	Feb 18, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Right and Wrong (Preview) Recovery is not about being right; it's about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are. That concept can be difficult for many of us if we have lived in systems that functioned on the "right/wrong" justice scale. The person who was right was okay; the person w...	Quetzal	0	666	Feb 18, 2007 by Quetzal
	Daily Reflections Feb 9 (Preview) GETTING THE "SPIRITUAL ANGLE" How often do we sit in AA meetings and hear the speaker declare, "But I haven't yet got the spiritual angle." Prior to this statement, he had described a miracle of transformation which had occurred in him -- not only his release from alcohol,...	Doll	2	410	Feb 18, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	Believing In Change (Preview) Believing in change At first, drugs or booze turned us on; later they turned on us. We couldn't find any peace anywhere. We began turning into the kind of person we didn't want to be, but we didn't know what was happening to us or how to change. When we came to believe that our lives could and w...	Quetzal	3	355	Feb 18, 2007 by Quetzal
	Daily Reflections Feb 8 (Preview) CONVINCING "MR. HYDE" Even then, as we hew away, peace and joy will still elude us. That's the place so many of us A.A. oldsters have come to. And it's a hell of a spot, literally. How shall our unconscious--from which so many of our fears, compulsions and phony aspirations still st...	Doll	2	467	Feb 18, 2007 by Sobrietyspell
	priorities (Preview) So I kinda had a wake up call today... I haven't had my priorities straight at all since I moved, I'm being horribly selfish with my boyfriend, not accepting his feelings on our relationship... how he feels it's wrong because I'm still in my first year... he does want me here, he do...	LisaF	1	369	Feb 18, 2007 by destinydreamer
	On Sadness (Preview) "Our sadness is an energy we discharge in order to heal. …Sadness is painful. We try to avoid it. Actually discharging sadness releases the energy involved in our emotional pain. To hold it in is to freeze the pain within us. The therapeutic slogan is that grieving is the ‘healing feeling.’&quo...	Wren	1	452	Feb 17, 2007 by TLH
	A Friend Asked For This One... (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which mean...	Phil	3	433	Feb 17, 2007 by Wren
	The Biggy (Preview) "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable." Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one, of course. Every natural instinct cries out against the idea of personal powerlessness. It is truly awful to admit that, glass in hand, we have...	Phil	0	297	Feb 17, 2007 by Phil
	Business Meeting Chaos (Preview) Hi there, I'm pretty new to this board; have been lurking, haven't made a post yet til now. My homegroup is on Wednesday nights, it's called the "Artist's AA" it's been there and relatively the same for something like 25 years, even in the same location. I have been at...	psychoktty	7	1323	Feb 17, 2007 by TLH
	24 Hours A Day (Preview) February 16, 2007 ********************************************************* Twenty-Four Hours A Day A.A. Thought For The Day One drink started a train of thought that became an obsession, and from then on, we couldn't stop drinking. We developed a mental compulsion to keep drinking u...**	CAM	1	1533	Feb 17, 2007 by TLH
	Acceptance (Preview) Our basic recovery concept that never loses its power to work miracles is the concept called acceptance. We do not achieve acceptance in a moment. We often have to work through a mirage of feelings - sometimes anger, outrage, shame, self-pity, or sadness. But if acceptance is our goal, we will achiev...	Quetzal	0	269	Feb 17, 2007 by Quetzal
	2 day-2 step plan for sobriety (Preview) Day one - step one: When you wake up, commit to the decision that, no matter how often or how strongly the desire to drink comes, you will not drink today, but will wait until tomorrow to have a drink. Day two - step two: Repeat step one. For further instructions on proper implementation of the above pr...	Sick of being sick	10	372	Feb 16, 2007 by TLH
	love (Preview) an interesting topic, love. i mean really, what is it? how does it manifest itself in our lives? when in active addiction i didnt see too much evidence of love, in fact more of the opposite. so how can you tell if someone loves you or is using you to meet their own selfish needs? how do you tell if YOU are usi...	cindy	5	355	Feb 16, 2007 by amanda2u2
	Prayer and Action (Preview) Pray to God, row to shore. - Anonymous The sign in the antique store showed a fisherman in a rowboat being tossed about in a storm. The message was clear: the fisherman may have great faith, but now was not the time to put away the oars and kneel in prayer - it was time to pray and row! Sometimes we find oursel...	Quetzal	1	333	Feb 15, 2007 by amanda2u2
	relationships in the 1st year... (Preview) So, what exactly is so bad about going into a relationship in the first year of sobriety? I do understand the codependency/caretaker type of role that could come about being with someone with longer sobriety than I have... we're both aware of that and are trying to have more interdependence th...	LisaF	7	428	Feb 15, 2007 by amanda2u2
	Relationships (Preview) How much emotional space do you occupy in your relationship? Could the amount of emotional space you and your partner each take up have anything to do with whether your relationship makes it or not? Indeed it does. Just what do I mean by "emotional space?" It's the time, energy, an...	Phil	2	340	Feb 15, 2007 by LisaF
	Twenty-Four Hours A Day (Preview) *********************************************************** A.A. Thought For The Day If alcoholism were just a physical allergy, like asthma or hay fever, it would be easy for us, by taking a skin test with alcohol, to find out whether or not we're alcoholics. But alcoholism is not just a p...	CAM	0	378	Feb 15, 2007 by CAM
	February Fourteenth (Preview)	Phil	6	327	Feb 15, 2007 by timverton
	Rambling... (Preview) Humanity as a group seems to be fixated with origins and the nature of god. There always seems to be many quests going on at many levels of society seeking out the nature of various gods and theories of origins. I myself was raised in two households with very loose religious requirements (i...	TLH	0	282	Feb 15, 2007 by TLH
	A Touching Passage (for me) (Preview) This is My HeartThis is my heart. It is a good heart. Bones and a membrane of mist and fire are the woven cover. When we make love in the flower world my heart is close enough to sing to yours in a language that has no use for clumsy human words. My head is a good head, but it is a hard head and it whirs inside with a...	Wren	2	344	Feb 14, 2007 by amanda2u2
	Loneliness (Preview) The crisis of our time . . . is a crisis not of the hands but of the hearts. -- Archibald MacLeish We singlemindedly search for love, for belonging, for affirmation from others that will wipe out the torment of alienation that haunts our wakefulness and our dreams. "Does he truly care?" we wo...	Quetzal	0	282	Feb 14, 2007 by Quetzal
	Aaaarrrggghhh! (Preview) I'm really stressed out. Need to get to a meeting soon I guess. Crap going on with my ex, he wanted to keep this a no contest divorce, then put in the papers that he's not responsible for any of the debt, I told him he has a choice, keep it no contest and put in the papers that he's going to pay ha...	LisaF	1	293	Feb 13, 2007 by destinydreamer
	Strength (Preview) I ASKED FOR STRENGTH I asked for Strength... And God gave me Difficulties to make me strong. I asked for Wisdom... And God gave me Problems to solve. I asked for Prosperity... And God gave me Brain and Brawn to work. I asked for Courage... And God gave me Danger to overcome. I asked for Love... A...	RyanS	2	314	Feb 13, 2007 by RyanS
	Into ACTION (Preview) "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." Creation gave us instincts for a purpose. Without them we wouldn't be complete human beings. If men and women didn't exert themselves to be secure in their persons, made no effort to harvest food or construct shelte...	Phil	0	293	Feb 13, 2007 by Phil
	first meeting (Preview) Hi everyone. Thanks for your words of kindness re my near slip. It was true for me to go home and wait it out. Once there, warm and comfortable the urge left me. I'm going to my first meeting this am. Not brave enough to go by myself, so I called my brother to go. He goes frequently although he still somet...	pp17331	3	299	Feb 13, 2007 by Phil
	Calm (Preview) Anyone read the book A Million Little Pieces? There is a part in the book where the alcoholic/drug addicts states he's transcended his fury and has reached a state of calm. A state of absolute peace without fear or doubt. He refuses to believe it is god and doesn't care what it is, he just ackn...	pp17331	12	347	Feb 13, 2007 by TLH
	my first meeting (Preview) First of all, I would like to thank everyone that helped me prepare for going to my first meeting... I got there tonight thanks to all of you for your postings and responses! When I first got there (which was extra early because I was paranoid about walking in late and having the attention brought to me ev...	destinydreamer	7	340	Feb 13, 2007 by TLH
	A personal scare today (Preview) Today was one of those days, when I should've stayed in bed. Started out thinking I slept through the day without waking up. Than got a frightening phone call from the school about my daughter whom was rushed to the hospital by ambulance. My first thoughts were OH MY GOD, than procceeded to ask wh...	tina	1	276	Feb 13, 2007 by Ironman
	Letting Go Of Those Not In Recovery (Preview) We can go forward with our life and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the bridge it is cold and dark. We stood there with others in the cold and darkness, doubled over in pain. Some of us developed an eating disorder to cope with the pain. Some dr...	Phil	4	354	Feb 13, 2007 by amanda2u2
	Stress (Preview) Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. -- Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...	Quetzal	0	331	Feb 13, 2007 by Quetzal
	comin up on 6 months (Preview) Thursday will be 6 months! Will definitely get to a meeting then to get my chip... I really need to be getting to more meetings, I can feel myself starting to slip a little lately... not wanting to drink or anything, honestly overall doing ok... just been really quiet and subdued lately... not much...	LisaF	4	318	Feb 13, 2007 by LisaF
	life (Preview) hi everyone, just a quick note to say hi, life has been good here. when i came to aa they gave me some promises that i thought never would be coming true for me. boy was i wrong! something about a new freedom and a new happiness, i came here to get sober, have gotten so much more. i dont post much but i am here...	wagon	2	313	Feb 12, 2007 by Quetzal
	another ? about AA (Preview) Sorry that I keep asking questions about AA, but I dont know anyone that has ever gone so I am going to ask the most qualified people I know... YOU! There are a bunch of codes for the AA meetings and I am trying to figure out which one I should try first.. I know the difference between "O"...	destinydreamer	8	454	Feb 12, 2007 by barisax
	Letting Go Of Old Beliefs (Preview) Try harder. Do better. Be perfect. These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done. Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their go...	Quetzal	0	288	Feb 12, 2007 by Quetzal
	Growth And Change (Preview) When we do for other people what they should do for themselves, we both stay stuck. Perhaps it's human nature to grow and change only when we have to. Unrelenting pain can serve as a motivator. Sometimes ultimatums are effective too. But making excuses for others or taking over their responsibil...	Quetzal	1	325	Feb 11, 2007 by Sick of being sick
	Preoccupation With Self (Preview) It's odd that you can get so anesthetized by your own pain or your own problem that you don't quite fully share the hell of someone close to you. --Lady Bird Johnson Preoccupation with self can be the bane of our existence. It prevents all but the narrowest perspective on any problem. It cuts of...	Quetzal	1	322	Feb 11, 2007 by Sick of being sick
	Inner Journey (Preview) The first step to forgiveness "To get to forgiveness, we first have to work through the painful experiences that require it." -- Christiane Northrup To forgive, we do not have to say that whatever happened was okay. In fact, before we can forgive, we need to allow ourselves to really feel t...	Wren	2	415	Feb 11, 2007 by Sick of being sick
	Eskimo thoughts for the day (Preview) If I dont wanna fall through the ice...I'd better stay away from the thin spots. If I'm going to tease a polar bear...sooner or later...I'm going to be lunch. When I'm riding a whale....I'd better stay away from the blow hole.. When building an igloo...dont forget to put in a do...	Phil	3	1032	Feb 11, 2007 by timverton
	Alcoholic Cardiomyopathy (Preview) Hi everyone, I spent an hour with a cardiologist yesterday and had a few tests. I have been told that I may have alcoholic cardiomyopathy. I have a fair few symptoms and I'm going to have a scan of my heart and a 24 hour heart monitor fitted soon. It just shows that alcohol affects more than the liver, w...	Quetzal	3	394	Feb 10, 2007 by Quetzal
	Four weeks (Preview) Ok, so the first time I came on here I was only one day sober...now I am four weeks and have been to four f2f meetings close to my place. The first one I found bloody awful to be honest! I was SO nervous that just getting my ass in the door was like the hardest thing I have done in a very long time, if not ever... t...	Sally	5	348	Feb 10, 2007 by Quetzal
	so close to a slip (Preview) I spent a few hours with my sister today. She is my most reliable drinking partner. I had not seen her in approx seven wks, since I stopped drinking. While talking we discussed our drinking habits, past, present and future. We agreed that we are children of an alcoholic and had a few good laughs about our...	pp17331	9	413	Feb 10, 2007 by Sally
	I missed another anniversary (Preview) Oh well...six months yesterday the 8th (for maybe the second or third time in a decade or so of trying) and still going strong. The way I feel most often is that alcohol is no longer a part of my life and the number of days sober does not strike me as something special I guess. Anyway...Just wanted to put...	timverton	3	356	Feb 10, 2007 by Phil
	questions about AA (Preview) How come the latest meetings are 8pm where I live? Is that when they end everywhere-what about imsomniacs lol... I was just curious to see if thats when the last meeting for the day is everywhere or if it is just where I live - maybe once my body gets use to sleeping without alcohol I will understand a bit...	destinydreamer	7	369	Feb 10, 2007 by Zster
	Each Day Is A New Start (Preview) Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone call, to begin whatever project we have been putti...	Quetzal	1	515	Feb 10, 2007 by Phil
	Reading my Old Writings (Preview) I dug up my anniversary writings - my log that I wrote in on my sobriety date for my first few years. I was kind of surprised to discover that it stopped when it did.... after 6 years. I have probably looked at it since then, but not added to it. My first year was pretty exhuberant writing I guess. Aside fr...	barisax	1	469	Feb 9, 2007 by pp17331
	My Daughter Wrote the Most Profound Thing.... (Preview) My oldest, 7 pictured in my avatar wrote me a little note: Daddy: Don't be who people want you to be. Be who you want to be. Holy SH*t!!! At 7, she is very wise! I'm still numb about it! I asked her last night where she got that from and she said "I don't know, I just wrote it." I...	Ironman	6	334	Feb 9, 2007 by tina
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