Tonight

Rob · Senior Member

Tonight

Robert · MIP Old Timer

hey Rob, catch up soon mate.

Rob · Senior Member

Hi Robert... Hope you are well.

People are p*ss*d off at me cos im still drinking but not going to meetings etc.. Guess i shouldnt post much now.. I really did mean to go to a meeting yesterday but i honestly fell asleep for four hours... Though i expect most people dont bleve that.

Well hope you are ok mate.. How IS stuff with you mate?

Rob

cooncatbob · Senior Member

Well Rob; what are you doing today? Where I live we have more then 1 meeting a day and we have meetings everyday. Miss one meeting just go to another.
People aren't mad at you, they probably have better things to do then respond to your excuses. Like help a newcomer who's Willing to work a program.
Good luck. Bob.

jonibaloni · MIP Old Timer

If you are looking for a way to stay sober that doesn't involve AA, good luck!!

This has worked since the 1930's for men, women, criminals, doctors, lawyers, judges, artists, IT techs, waitresses, cowboys, congresspeople, therapists, construction workers, bartenders, housewives, scientists....

The one thing they had in common?

WILLINGNESS.

Early in sobriety, I treated meetings as though I were on top of my roof in a huge flood, like in New Orleans, and as though the meetings were the boats and helicopters coming by to save my ASS... I would do everything I could to get on that boat!!!

good luck to you.

Jonibaloni

wagon · Senior Member

rob,im not mad at you at all, just very sad for you, meetings are really hard for me to get because i have to drive alot of miles to get there. my closest meeting is 30 miles away, and i cannot afford the gas.but you know what, i go any way.3 to 4 a week,because i could always find the money somehow to drink,so i have to find the money to get to meetings. we go with out other things ,because if i dont, i cannot be much good six feet under. you take care, and hopefully this program will come for you!! wagon

Robert · MIP Old Timer

Hi Rob, I am excellent thank you, and I know exactly what your going through, its a rough journey getting sober and I hate to say it but your not a bad person, you are an alcoholic. There is only 4 places for an alcoholic if your an alcoholic like me in a meeting, in jail in-sane or in a box, I promise no other alternative,

Take your pick..

I came back to AA as in the rooms when I had had enough, when life was beyond repair and I stayed drinking but I abandoned myself to the rooms because out of the other 3 alternatives I had F+_+K all else to lose, I am not talking money cars and houses because I had none of them I am talking me, I had lost me.

take one step at a time, go to as many meetings as you can, I will make a bet with you, I bet you if you do 90 in 90 you will feel better than you do today.

take the challenge, I am not asking you to do anything apart from go to the meetings, you will find as you do the meetings and get talking to people and gaining support, things will start to happen, but you need to start somewhere mate.

I was only thinking of you today, and I want you to get it, I am not angry at you, it just hurts to see a fellow suffer, we have all been there, believe me.

90 in 90, if you are desperate, do it. for me it was life of insanity or death or recovery- it was not an easy choice at the time, but believe me, for the few mins a day i now put it - it is worth it, I have a life today and alcohol is not killing me today.

the first step is painful i KNOW but it gets better, I am not sick in the head, if it were crap I would tell you, but you will get your life back and so much more.

THE ONLY REQUIREMENT IS A DESIRE TO STOP DRINKING, END OF - Sounds like you want it.

Rob · Senior Member

Hi Robert. Glad to hear you are doing well.

Yesterday i drank so much that i was completey smashed when i woke up this morning and had to phone in sick. Geese i was still heavily affected at like 12 noon.. i dont think i soberd up properly untill mid-late afternoon. I didnt drink tonight, even though i think there is a can under my bed. I know what you are saying is right and i have listend to what people have said on here and are right.

Im not gona post on here what my intentions are... no point untill i am doing them or have done them or have a sensible question to ask everyone.

Thanx for your post mate. Like i said glad youre doing well, catch ya later.

soberdrunk · MIP Old Timer

Hey Rob,

No hard feelings over here! Just had to tell ya the way I see it. Nobody wants to see you in this miserable way of life. Speaking for myself that is.

Take it easy,

Justin

Rob · Senior Member

Thank you

Robert · MIP Old Timer

NO keep posting mate, unless you didnt want to.

I will do all I can to help. my advice is get all your booze down the pan, (loo) get enough cash to live off and destroy your card, anything just dont take the first drink, please dont go anywhere, its up to individuals if they read your words or not, but I think you need to keep on going, through bad times and good. please Rob. then you can help someone who is in a situation like you were.

I dont mind what you say, your words help me, and others have an opinion and thats fine, but you are here for YOU, and no one else. come on mate! please dont give up, destry the can, unless you have drunk it, if you have dont give yourself a hard time, destroy what you have left, draw out some money to LIVE on and shred your card.

I had to do it, I was powerless over alcohol.

Rob · Senior Member

Hi Robert. Thanx again...

Well i mean im not gona just say i intend to do this or intend to do that and im not gona whine on and make excuses if i can help it.. iv done enough of that..

Actualy tonight has been totaly ... i duno... kinda messed up but kinda not but kinda yeah but aarrgghhhh..

No im not drinking tonight... i have two days now.

I am thinking about posting my about night but im not sure if im gona or not yet.. im so tired.. i stayed up till gone 4 am this morning (hmm technicaly yesterday (tuesday) morning now) watching tv, really enjoyed watching all that sober tv, got two hours sleep and went to work. And then tonight came around.... And tonight started really well, i have a great few hours fun tonight untill a sudden land slide (metaphoricaly). I dont mean something within me or anything like that but.... .

Hmm i think if i explain my night that i may well receive many responses that i really dont need to hear.

Im tired i will think about it.

Thanx for your post Robert.

Oh yeah, on a more lighter note (detaching myself from other stuff for a moment) Im a best man now. My best mate phoned me up and asked me tonight, hes gettin married next year, july hopefuly. (am i abit scared... yeah i sure am)

Hope your day is going well mate..?

2nd edit: Too tired not explaining myself properly. I mean i am not gona post my plans about what i intend to do, i will post as im experiencing them or after iv done them or if i need help.. lol geese i can see that im still not making sense.. And yeah im still sober, not touched a drop.
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ChopperBabe · Member

Sorry Guys, edited for content.

have a good day, Toni

-- Edited by Toni Baloney at 12:57, 2006-06-28

HDoggie · Veteran Member

Whoa. Easy does it.

There may be other ways to get sober than AA. But willpower can and does fail. Take it from someone who knows. But I've heard of SmartRecovery and the like. Whatever works for you. But AA just happens to work for a whole lot of people. I don't think jonibaloni meant any malice by that. And for the record, cussing someone out does.

Have a nice day.

Dori · Veteran Member

RE: Tonight-Rob

ChopperBabe · Member

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zoomie · Senior Member

Just for the record this is an AA board... There are also many other boards to visit other than an AA board just like many ways to skin a cat. No need for foul words on here. I too say what ever works,but here on an AA board is what works for some of us folks. Lighten up babe and play nice :)

ChopperBabe · Member

Once again, No ES & H. simple editing feature, thank you.

Sorry, know that it throws this thread all out of wack, but it was just way too off track.
But there simply is NO debating here.

-- Edited by Toni Baloney at 13:15, 2006-06-28

Wren · Senior Member

In response to all this broohaw--I feel that everyone has a right to their opinions, totally. And I admit, my own language gets quite colorful; but never directed towards another person on a public forum. This is an AA Board, not a random forum for posting negativity. I agree, there are other boards in existence that may be better for people who would rather work a different program. I don't understand why anyone so down on AA wants to post here, but, it's public until they overstep and go "after" people. Try using askerisks when swearing, not because we're prudes, eegads, but because someone new may come here and be turned off by the rudeness, run off thinking this is what AA is about, and just may die as a result. Without AA, I'd be dead, as would alot of us. I sure wouldn't want the responsiblity of chasing someone away when I'm having a bad moment, and they go out and kill themselves, yknow? Just a consideration thing. But again, everyone should be able to post opinions without being offensive and nasty. It's a maturity thing. Thanks, Wren

cooncatbob · Senior Member

Just my $.02 the AA program hasn't worked for Rob because he's never worked any of the AA progam. He's claimed a desire to stop drinking and thats it.
If AA didn't work it wouldn't still be around, it would have fallen by the way side like the Washintonians and the Oxford Groups. If the 12 steps didn't work there wouldn't be over 100 different 12 step fellowship for almost all our ills. The magic word in all this is WORK, there's no miracle unless you do the foot work, no one can do it for another, we all have to do the struggle for ourselves. Bob.

zoomie · Senior Member

http://www.smartrecovery.org/ Rob here is a link for another recovery program. Just so you know that other people who cannot get sober in AA,there are other recovery web sites to help. Wishing you sober.

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Toni Baloney · MIP Old Timer

Hi Rob,

well this started out as your Post, and it turned into something other than your thread here. sorry for that.

Toni

Rob · Senior Member

Its ok toni...

I duno if i said something or if everyones just gone mad.

Robert · MIP Old Timer

Hey guys just been to a meeting, alls ok, little sad because my dog that has been part of my life since age 11 has to be put to sleep tomorrow. I am unable to cry, daft hey,. he has just ate a sausage so me and him are pals. he stays with my mum, but still love him

Wren · Senior Member

So so sorry to hear about your Pal, Robert. Lost my best gal last week, and Toni guided me thru it, I didn't react at all well about it. Pretty much fell apart. They become so dear and undemanding of us. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, love Wren