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Eddie Charette


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My daughter who is 15 years old was caught drinking at her school dance. For me my daughter was the poster child of a "good kid". Up until that moment, we used to be very friendly with each other. She used to be very active, brimming with energy, participating in varsity sports, volunteering to mention a few. I am totally confused, in fact, worried, stunned and guilty after this incident.

I'm planning of simple relapse prevention strategy which might help her cope with the cravings.

Where do I take her? How can I help my daughter? I am planning of distracting her attention from drinking through some workout programs. She is a dancer, so I might opt for some aerobic fun workouts. I might take the help of gunite pool installation massachussetts in getting my pool ready.

 

I found very interesting yet simple distraction programs like sharing with a friend woes, washing and waxing a car, walking the dog (she loves that), jogging, music classes.

Meanwhile, I also plan to take a temporary retirement and spend more time with her, do everything possible on the face of earth. I think this article on fun workouts might help her. I want to save my daughter and her bright future before it is too late.

I'm wracked with worry about what this could mean to her? Where did I go wrong as a parent not knowing that she was drinking alcohol in the first place? 



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Visionz


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I won't give advice on how you should be parenting because I have lots of children and understand the concern.

But what I will say is didn't we learn about how alcoholism doesn't discriminate? Black, white, rich, poor. I am a firm believer in you could of changed my surroundings however you'd like about my childhood, but I still would of ended up an alcoholic. It was meant to be. Even when I wasn't under the care of an adult; did not all of us try to arrange the outside in hopes of fixing the internal issues?

Best advice I have is to show children that this is an inside job.

Best wishes.



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Hey Eddie, ...

I'm a little confused ... Is this the first time your daughter has drank or does she have a history of drinking ??? ... Every kid at that age will 'experiment' with something ... whether alcohol or drugs or reckless speeding when they learn to drive, etc. ... we can only pray they don't kill themselves before they mature ...

If you get her very active in other things, and she IS alcoholic, then you'll be hard pressed to keep her from drink'n ... a true alcoholic WILL find a way to get that next drink ... don't keep alcohol around the house and monitor who her friends are and who she goes out with ... Set the rules and see that she abides by them ...

And like VisionZ said above ... Recovery is an 'inside' job ... you can't force it on anyone ...



Good luck and God Bless,
Pappy



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Im with Pappy on this one. Are you really saying this is the first time she got caught drinking or is this an ongoing issue? Its a long stretch from normal teenage drinking to alcoholism. The worst punishment for a teenager is to take their phone away. That should get her attention. If she is addicted to alcohol, the best thing for you to do is to attend an Al-Anon meeting.



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You've got some other tough situations going on, EC,  what with your son and sister. Hope you resolve them OK.

How did the son situation turn out?

 

Eddie Charette wrote:

I am at my wits end dealing with my alcoholic son. He comes home fully drunk and goes on a rampage. Initially I tired advising him which turned futile. I can tolerate anything than see my dear son  throw and damage household things. I am quite aware that this is just a passing phase, but I am finding it diffiuclt to adjust with the situation. Years of hardwork all being damaged by a wayward son. Recently I had to move some of my old stuff to a self storage unit, (https://spam.www.jiffy.spam.storage.com/self-storage/ ), I got everything except basic things in his room shifted too. I know this is not the solution. But could not see my years of hardwork go waste in front of my eyes. Anyone who is going through such a situation. Don't you think I did the right thing? All suggestions are welcome.

 

 



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A Crafty Spammer.

A for effort. Had me half fooled because I never click links muahah



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