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Today I find myself in such a parylized state of fear and resentment. I assume it involves unmet expectations. 

Things have been going well with my Sig other. He expressed to me his excitent and hope for our future moving forward. My sobriety, meeting attendance has been constant. Then 2 days later after meeting a friend he completely changed.. Said he was crazy to believe that we will ever work. Said I was like a witch who entraces him. I am so hurt beyond words. 

Looking for any input.

 



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Sounds like you guys simply need to sit down, alone, and talk it out ... something's missing here ...


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Maybe he's scared of the change too. Who will you become? What happens if you become a different person? Is there room for him?

Fear of the unknown is a killer. Don't be hard on yourself or him for feeling that.

Be honest. And demand he is too. Get the fears out of the way asap. If it festers it will destroy whatever you had.

None of this is easy. Simple but not easy.

Take care

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Asking alcoholics for relationship advice is counterproductive. Bunch of wheel spinning is all you will get.

You thought you could win the heart of someone by attending meetings?

Classic case of having the cart before the horse.

Marc has a lovely life coach I'm sure he could refer you to biggrin



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LMAO ... Thanks Vizion ... I really, really needed that ...

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I dont know about your relationship. That's between you two and the god of your understanding. I do know that it is not uncommon for folks to maintain a reasonably stable sobriety for quite long perionds, as long as everyone is playing their part correctly. Expectations as you said. Then eventually the wheels fall off, and we find people have feet of clay. And when bad things happen, we look for a solution. If we have found the new solution, we are not in danger, but so often, people in cruise mode, meetings based sobriety, turn to their old solution.

Have a read of the step three directions, not just the how to, but the why we should. The founders were very wise in steering us toward a Power that will never let us down. On that we can base a permanet and stable sobriety.



-- Edited by Fyne Spirit on Thursday 16th of March 2017 05:19:42 AM

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Visionz wrote:

Asking alcoholics for relationship advice is counterproductive. Bunch of wheel spinning is all you will get.

You thought you could win the heart of someone by attending meetings?

Classic case of having the cart before the horse.

Marc has a lovely life coach I'm sure he could refer you to biggrin



 Too funny.

I did send Jennifer an email... She did not reply.

I suspect the 'BellaDonna' Parody posted on my site spooked her.

I suppose I could send another email but I do not want to be accused of stalking.

Marc

 



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