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NewOscarT


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My sponsor told me to give them 10 examples of unmanageable, I understand what the word unmanageable means but I'm having trouble coming up with examples of how my life had become unmanageable, I had no problems coming up with 10 examples of how I was powerless over my addiction but I can't  come up with any examples of how my life has become unmanageable. I guess what I'm trying to say is that the examples that I can think up of how my life has become unmanageable are the same examples of how I was powerless I can't see a difference in the two words,.. Can someone help me with some examples of unmanageable Or can someone give me an example of the difference between unmanageable and powerless



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When I was drinking, I tried for years to manage finances. What happened? I squandered upwards of a million dollars over the course of 20 years. (This includes all addictions, hospital bills as a result ...etc...) This screams unmanageable.

Our book talks about how us alcoholics have a knack for getting tight at exactly the wrong moments and unable to control our emotional nature. Calling myself an emotional trainwreck would be an understatement. Emotions were absolutely unmanageable, I ran from everything and when I did face up to things I'd be so messed up that I don't remember facing them.

Let's talk about physically. Dunno about you, but I wasn't exactly a gym rat or gave a hoot what I was eating when I was out there. Barely brushing teeth, greasy hair, turning clothes inside out all week because I drank the laundry money. Come on dude, personal hygeine was way unmanageable. Total pig.

How about relationships? Need I open that can?

Hope putting myself out there was of some help.

 

 



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One of my big ones is driving. If I was drinking then my driving is done by 12. All my shopping and bill paying needs to be done by then on my days off (I work 4 on 4 off so my days off can be any day depending on where my rotations are on the roster). Don't ring me up at 3pm and ask me to come over unless you are picking me up, otherwise I'm not going. If I forget something from the shops then I'd ring for a pizza or just have a liquid meal at night... of course if I was out of alcohol then those rules all went out the window.

10 things... man, I could give you fifty off the top of my head, and then another 500 when I thought about it. The only thing I could ever manage was making sure I had enough booze to get through the day, everything else was just a fucking mess that I attempted to juggle with all the skill and style of a double amputee. I guess you can imagine how well that worked out.

Powerless... picking up a drink even though you know how it's going to end up

Unmanageable... all the other mess you've made going on around you and either trying to fix it and stuffing it up, or saying 'why bother?', then going into the powerless stage because that is the only way you know how to deal with the unmanageable.

Or how about: Powerlessness - the insanity that makes you drink. Unmanageable - the insanity of your life because you drink

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Thank you both for your help , I can see a difference , but I have to say they both are very similar , there is only a fine line that separates both words.im gonna have to go back and redo my powerless list because a lot of the examples I gave are examples of unmanageable , I think I'll start my unmanageable list first then do my powerless list second , I can't understand why I'm so confused with this , I figured after 83 days of sobriety today things would get easier not more complicated.

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Man, after 83 days the fog hasn't even cleared. You'll understand that later down the track. But don't sweat it. It's not a pass / fail thing, just something to help remind you where you don't want to be again. When the fog clears things like this will become clear without you needing to even stop to think about them.

And congrats. 83 days is a miracle. Glad you are here :)

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Thank you , Me and my wife are amazed at the support newcomers get when trying to find sobriety. It is truly an amazing feeling and I thank all of you.



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Congrats on 83 days. Keep up the good work.

The fog lasted a LOT longer than 3 months for me. It was very hard to think well. Even simple things were hard.

Unmanageability has to do with responsibilities unmet, even though I possess the capabilities to meet them.

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Thank you for all your help I have gotten both Of the lists done. Now I have to do a list of all my fears. I'm not sure there's a list for  the only thing I fear right now is relapsing. On this one he didn't tell me to write down 10 things he just told me to write down a list I want to be thorough I'm wondering  how long the list should be. Did all of you have to do this or something similar to this to get to step number two.



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Yeah man, Big Congrats on # 83 ... It only gets better from here ... not necessarily easier yet, but much better ...

Pickle??? ... you never cease to amaze me ... ... ... Your statement:

"Unmanageability has to do with responsibilities unmet, even though I possess the capabilities to meet them. "

is one of the most profound things to hit e in a long time ... and for that, I am grateful ... thanks a million ...



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A biblical quote I picked up recently sums it up quite well. Describes me to a tee.

"I do not understand my own behaviour. I set out to do the things I want to do, and end up doing the things I hate. For though the will to do good is in me, the performance is not."

Also the directions around why we should take step three, appoint a new manager offer a few clues. The fit me well too.

I think that the practical difficulty of managing a single life is often well illustrated at funerals. There you get an idea of how big a single life is. It usually touches dozens if not hundreds of people. There are many relationships of many types, all affected by other connected lives. There are a life time of achievements, off spring, challenges faced, and not only by the individual but multiplying out into all those around him or her. There are dozens of people and thousands of influencing factors. Trying to manage and control all that, so every part of it touches our life in a way acceptable to us, is a practical impossibility. Why even try?



-- Edited by Fyne Spirit on Thursday 16th of March 2017 05:39:34 AM

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Great quotes guys unmanageability has to do with some responsibilities Unmet even though I have the capabilities to meet them...
Those who leave everything in gods hand will eventually see God's hand in everything...

What a great way to start the day
Off to the early bird meeting have a great day everyone...


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