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Post Info TOPIC: Sober Quote for Today, Friday July 17, 2015


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Sober Quote for Today, Friday July 17, 2015
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"Don't Let Others Rent Space in Your Head"

 

I am good about this one. Being a people pleaser most of my life I have always worried about what others think about me, say about me. So I am ultra-sensitive.

I am not as bad as I used to be. Things are said to me now and I think to myself..."Wow! Not so long ago, that would have ripped me a new one!" So I know this program is working. Once at a meeting, I had just shared something. Well, when I got criticism from a member I felt somewhat attacked, singled out. My share was about helping others. We didn't have a chairperson for the meeting and I was asked to chair. So when the topic was on the floor and there was this awkward long silence, I spoke up ( I haven't shared all that much in the past until fairly recently). Then someone shared that they didn't think the person chairing the meeting should share. So this upset me, although I didn't show it. The person who said this arrived to the meeting 30 minutes late and shared a rather lengthy share. I found myself copping a resentment. I was embarrassed because I was openly criticized in front of a fairly large amount of people. A few people came up after the meeting and told me that they really liked what I shared and that helped me some. (Ahhh, people pleasing at its best when I depend on the praise of others to make me feel better about myself...still working on this one, too).

All that happened at that meeting really doesn't matter in the scheme of things and I am learning that I cannot give a rat's hiney about what other people think or say about me--whether it is just the two of us, or in front of two hundred others. I have to focus on living a life pleasing to my Higher Power and treating other people in as nice and respectful a manner as possible. My sobriety depends on it! I have to take only my own inventory and not others--that is their life. So unless I can actually start charging others rent money, and can get them to sign a lease, I cannot be letting them "rent space in my mind". I have to be like a tough landlord protecting his property. I have to "evict" them from my head as soon as "they" start causing loud disturbances in my mind.



-- Edited by hopefulone on Friday 17th of July 2015 03:31:17 PM

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Hummmmm, ... that's real good advice ... I have had trouble teaching certain members this very thing ... !!!



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Wonder who, Pappy?
LOLOL!



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LOL, ... I think you and a few others know the answer to this one ...


Love ya and God Bless,
Pappy



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