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I know, I know, drinking causes us horrific remorse, crushing guilt and agonizing misery yadda, yadda, yadda...but despite all of that do you ever find yourself bored silly being sober? I'm not trying to justify going on a bender. We're all here for good reason and for us the party's over. We're far better off being sober. All I'm saying is that art of me misses the excitement, spontaneity and unpredictability that came with my old lifestyle. 

 

 



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I don't miss the blue lights of the police cars behind me, nor do I miss the red lights of the ambulances that took me to the hospitals multiple times. Maybe that would be considered "exciting" to some folks--not me. I don't miss the "spontaneity" of angry and hurtful words which would come out of my mouth or from my fingers in an email during a drunken spell. And the "unpredictability" of not knowing if I would even wake up the next morning for fear that my excessive drinking was going to kill me is something I am very grateful I don't have to deal with anymore.

I am happy sober. Sorry you're bored silly. But I would rather be bored silly sober than bored stupid drunk.

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Ditto on everything Hopeful one said. But yes, yer right. It's somewhat dull. Tonight, I went to the end of the month anniversary meeting and picked up my 1 year medallion. Would it have been more fun going out to a bar, getting drunk, and hanging out with hot chicks? Hell yeah. So, I found a happy medium. I went to the bar after the meeting, still hung out with hot chicks, but I just didn't drink. And I didn't desire alcohol one bit. See, man, for me, along with all the things Hopeful said, the alcohol just was making me feel like shit anymore. Yeah, the first couple, and I would feel good, but after about 6, Id start feeling lethargic, and just blah. Then, after about 12, I was just pretty useless to even talk to, to get a good conversation Going, and keep it going. I lose my wit, the jokes don't come into my head, I'm just kind of comatose. Hot chicks don't like to hang with comatose drunks who can't even entertain them. If I could stop at 3 or 4, then, yeah, all would be great, and I'd be a normal drinker. But I cant, and I'm not going to fool myself into believing I can. I've tried that too many times, and it doesn't work. Ever. 1 turns to 2, turns to 12, turns to 18, then you see the red or blue lights, like what Hopeful was saying. The hot chicks you were talking to for the first hour before you lost your wit are now standing by the window, watching the cops put you in the back of their car, laughing about it. It just doesn't work for me anymore, Tippy. And sitting home alone drinking wasn't doing it for me anymore, either. Man, I ain't joining no bridge club, my life ain't over, it's just over with the alcohol. But, yes, sometimes it's a little dull. No sense in sugar coating it. not always dull, though. I could recite all the AA slogans, " there isn't a problem alcohol can't make worse", and all that, but that's not what you need to hear. You need to hear some real advice about the boredom issue, and, honestly, Im probably not the one to give it, cause I haven't been sober that long. I can just tell you that I'm WAY happier now than I was a year ago. Honestly.



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One more thing. You said "for us, the party is over". With alcohol, yes, it is. It took a lot of thinking, a lot of soul searching, and being honest with myself, and coming to terms with the fact that I'm not 24 years old anymore. Like I said in an earlier post, when you're young, yer hanging out at the bar, on a boat, at the ballgame, whatever, having a good time, people accept it. They say " oh, look at that guy, he's having fun, he's outrageous, funny, let's buy him a drink". That's how it used to be. But when you get older, (I'm 48), you're not perceived like that anymore. You're percieved as some drunk alkie, desperate, no life, "shut up, you old drunk! Yer slurring your words, you just spilled your beer on the bar! Go home,". It sucks, but it's the truth. I had to accept the fact that I'm getting older, and I'm not that "party animal" anymore. I'm a drunk. Sloppy, nasty, and trouble. You can get away with a lot more when you're younger. People write off anything stupid you do, and give you a pass, "ah, he's just young and dumb". But when you get older, society expects you to adhere to a certain standard, and when you don't, you don't get the free pass. I never wanted the party to end, I scratched and clawed and kicked till the very end, but, I had to come to terms with this reality. I had to accept it. (Which totally goes against my stubborn, "I'm an exception, I'm rogue, Im unique, I don't follow the herd, the rules don't apply to me" way of thinking). So, yeah, the party is over. But that doesn't mean my life is over, or that my life can't be fun anymore. You might be thinking "wow, this guy is really trying to convince himself that life without alcohol isn't that bad". And maybe I am. But I know one thing, my life with alcohol was worse. It wasn't fun anymore. And that's the truth.



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I know, I know, drinking causes us horrific remorse, crushing guilt and agonizing misery yadda, yadda, yadda...but despite all of that do you ever find yourself bored silly being sober? I'm not trying to justify going on a bender. We're all here for good reason and for us the party's over. We're far better off being sober. All I'm saying is that art of me misses the excitement, spontaneity and unpredictability that came with my old lifestyle. 

 

 


For the first year I did big style I missed being able to go into myself so needed to turn that around.

I can honestly say now tho that my worse day sober is better than my best day drunk. My thinking has changed thanks to God and the fellowship of good examples. Other people may perceive the life to be boring but I am inwardly much more satisfied with life and I love what I have become. 



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No, my routine of getting drunk and crapping on everything in life was getting dull. Now I have a full life with many more relationships, hobbies, areas of interest....I have more things I can do to nurture, my mind, body, and soul. So the opposite of what you are saying has happened.

I am sad Tipsy...It seemed that you were on a good track for a while. Even had 2 wonderful children and a devoted wife. Sorry you seem to find having a family and children dull and that they bore you silly. I was way more willing to cash in my get wasted and party persona for more meaningful things that drinking was robbing me of.

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Hell no. When I was drinking I sat on the same damned bar stool every night and told my drinking buddies the same stories about all the places I was going to travel to, over and over, and never even had enough gas money to get out of town. Since I got sober I've traveled to over forty countries and had some absolutely amazing experiences that I will never forget, and I'm not done yet. In a few minutes I'm heading out the door to meet up with friends in San Francisco to watch the massive LGBT Pride parade and spend the day celebrating. It's going to be one heck of a party, and I get to enjoy the whole thing without ending up barfing in the gutter, smashing my car into someone else's car,  or waking up in a holding tank. Everybody wins!



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StillTipsyMcStagger wrote:

All I'm saying is that art of me misses the excitement, spontaneity and unpredictability that came with my old lifestyle. 


 excitement...

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spontaneity...

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unpredictbility...

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Just want to echo what hopefulone said too ... The one thing I really don't miss, is waking up and not remembering the day before ... where am I, how'd I get here, what happened, ??? ... trying like hell to just remember some little detail to explain the bumps 'n bruises ...

I don't miss that sh!t one iota ... ... ...



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I took 16 vacations last year, 4 ski trips, to scuba trips, a trip to the Fl Keys, attended countless events, concerts. when I do work it's usually at the beach with is a mile from home. I have trouble deciding which of my 8 motorcycles to ride. i really do struggle with boredom

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Today I don't and neither do any of my victims.   wink



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BB, pg 152

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Great page to cite 'Makingwaves' ... ... ... good one!



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Right now we are lying in Port Havannah on the Northern coast of Efate Island Vanuatu. We are contemplating moving North to Espirtu Santo before heading across the Coral Sea, through Torres Strait to Indonesia where we will join 50 other boats to cruise Indonesia. As we look at the forecast there appears to be a cyclone developing over the Solomons and we are wondering if it will track down here. Three forecasts have it moving West, and one has it heading straight for us. It's exciting, unpreictable, spontaneous, possibly even frightening, but certainly not boring.

I do remeber a time at around the two year mark that I thought well, Im sober, now what? Most of the big exciting changes happened in the first two years, personality wise anyway. But then came career, romance, community, family, society the world....

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I am sad Tipsy...It seemed that you were on a good track for a while. Even had 2 wonderful children and a devoted wife. Sorry you seem to find having a family and children dull and that they bore you silly. I was way more willing to cash in my get wasted and party persona for more meaningful things that drinking was robbing me of.


 

Oh stop. I'm still on a good track. I still love my kids and my wife and I only get bored once in a while. To be perfectly honest I'm healthy than I've ever been. I don't even eat meat anymore for crying out loud. No nicotine, no booze, no salt, no meat...I'm like a goddamn tibetan monk :)



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In that pic that Tanin put up, the cop cars got that white truck pulled over...was OJ drunk that day?



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In the other pic, where they're throwing up, that must have been some nasty stuff they were drinking.



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TM really, you need some interesting hobbies. You want spontaneity and unpredictability? Strap on a snow board and hit the expert slopes, the ones with trees and rock cliffs. Or get on a woods bike and hit the trail, jump out of a perfectly good airplane , go scuba diving with sharks. I wanted badly to do all of those things and drinking prevented me from doing them. Think of sobriety as your passport to other, more rewarding, less harmful, near death experiences.  Mcstagger, doesn't trolling a message board for 9 years get somewhat Dull? 



-- Edited by StPeteDean on Saturday 4th of July 2015 09:04:04 PM

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StPeteDean wrote:

 Think of sobriety as your passport to other, more rewarding, less harmful, near death experiences.


 I think you should frame that one Dean:)



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Baba Louie wrote:

In the other pic, where they're throwing up, that must have been some nasty stuff they were drinking.


 Somebody was supposed to reply: "yeah, they were drinking nasty stuff. Alcohol." Well, at least that's what I was expecting.



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