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Glad you found us ... thanks for posting ... 

slurms posted:

Hi there,

I'm just reaching out online for the first time. I'm not particulairly new to the program but I am young (21). This time I've got just about 6 months sober in the program. I live in a remote northern community so at most there's 3 meetings a week. That being said I love the meetings (just wish we could get a few more). I have a sponsor and am starting to go through the steps (again). I'm taking things slow this time and trying not to rush the process as I know I can't learn when I will myself into things rather then trusting my Higher Power

I'm just having trouble accepting some things. Mainly my ex girlfriend. She dumped me about 9 months ago while I was in the depths of my alcoholism. I continued to drink and pretend that things were still alright between us (long distance made it a lot easier to not have to face facts) Anyways finally dragged my sorry butt to a meeting and have been sober ever since. Basically things in essence have been going quite good. I have a steady job and am not showing up drunk or drinking on the job, family actually seems to enjoy my company and I don't feel like I want to end things all the time.

I've been in contact with the ex via post (snailmail) and it's been good for the most part, although I think I revolve around those letters WAY too much. I knew things were going well for her and on the last one I got she informed me she was in a relationship with someone else. I'm just really struggling to accept things the way they are and need guidance and support. Like I mentioned previously I live in quite a small town so the only places to go out and eat dinner are bars so I stay away from them.

I haven't really made any friends or connections since being sober, I don't blame the program or anything like that. Just difficult with me being where I am and actually meeting people when not surrounded by booze. I guess I'm just lonely really and know I have to reach out and continue to reach out. I want to be happy and in reality I want the people in my life to be happy. I'm just scared too.

Thanks 

Congrats on almost 6 months ... First thing I thought of about your 'acceptance' post is we must change in order to lick the alcohol dependency ... going to meetings and working the program turned me into a different person, one that doesn't need, or want, a drink ... but that doesn't mean the world we know will change with us ... whenever I had those thoughts in the past, I started thinking of all the things that had changed that I was very grateful for ... 

And for your girl to be in another relation just means she wasn't going to put her life on hold hoping you got better, life's too short ... and you offered her no guarantees ... It took years of sobriety for my family to welcome me back ... including my wife ... 

Try to get closer to some of your AA friends and find ways you can donate your time to a worthy cause ... keep your mind busy on healthy think'n things ... 

 

Love ya man and God Bless,

Pappy



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