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I can't seem to wrap my head around the whole concept for some reason. I need some wisdom.
I spoke with a person today after the meeting that said they were afraid to ask for a sponsor because they didn't want to burden that person. That they would be such a mess, such a handful, that it just would be too much for someone.
Is this false pride?
I didn't know what to say really. I can't just say "oh don't be silly, just ask someone it's no big deal!" because I made a big deal out of it at one point too. I know how they feel, I just don't know exactly what wrentched me outta that poor me pit exactly.
I guess it was something along the line of - take care of yourself not just for yourself, but for everyone's sake.
Thanks in advance -
I may have been sober before today, But I've never been sober today before :)
Yeppers that simply seems to address false pride regardless if it shows up as self pity or self grandeur...it aint real. ((((hugs))))
Hey Tasha, ... Here's what I learned:Humility is true self-knowledge, the good with the bad. It is being able to be comfortable with who you actually are and not trying to pretend to be what you are not. It gives you pride when you have earned it by your talents and accomplishments and shame when you fall short. It accepts that you are far from perfect and keeps striving. It is honest.False pride is presenting yourself to others (and yourself) as something you are not - a man without flaws. Joe Cool, always in the know. The smartest guy in the crowd always and never in doubt. It is pride not earned-style over substance. Not honest.Humility is putting others value equal to or greater than your ownFalse pride is trying to seem humble in order to gain the attention of others. Many philanthropists suffer from false pride. For example the person who gave a lot of money to my school district for a new elementary school and then complained that they didn't include her middle initial in the name of the school. Humility is the philanthropist who gave a ton of money to the local boys club with out leaving his name as the giver.Also:True pride has to do with acknowledging and respecting who you are and what you can do, without any outside confirmation or approval. False pride has to do with claiming that you are more than you believe you are, and that you know more than you believe you know. This kind of pride almost always requires outside confirmation or approval to cover up an inner feeling of inadequacy. Mind you, I am not saying that there is anything wrong with outside confirmation or approval. It's only a measure of false pride when you cannot feel any self respect without it. Another aspect of false pride is arrogance. This is when you pretend that you are better than others in ways that cannot be measured by skill. It is one thing to be better at a particular skill than anyone else, and it is quite another thing to require others to acknowledge that or to pretend that somehow your level of skill makes you a higher type of human being. You'll notice that I keep saying "pretend." This is because no matter how good a person is at acting superior, to the degree that he or she needs outside validation for the superiority that person is pretending. Someone with true pride may or may not be a superior person, but that doesn't matter to them.
found on the interenet ... it said it a lot better than I could have explained it ...
"Life offers no guarantees ... just choices; no certainty ... but consequences; no predictable outcomes ... just the privilege of pursuit." -Tim Conner