Hello AA message board, I am a normal poster on the Alanon boards but thought I would jump over to get your insight.
My husband is an alcoholic/addict, he is currently in the thros of his alcholosim. This has been a problem since our marriage (8 years ago). He drinks in secret, lately when he is drinking he has violent outbursts. He does not (or should I say has not) hurt me, but the rages seem to be getting worse. He is depressed a lot and has terrible anxiety. Do any of you have experience going on prescription drugs like Paxil and found any relief? I am giving our relationship one last go as the rages are getting too scary and he is going to see a new doctor to see if they can help him. He goes to AA sporadically but has trouble with going due to his anxiety and introversion. Am a bit lost, looking for any advice you may have. Thank you.
Drinking alcohol causes people to become more depressed. If your hubby is having a problem with depression, the best solution is to stop drinking.
When his doctor asks him if he drinks ... well I can tell you what I told MY doctor when I was having medical problems partially caused by my drinking;
"I have a couple beers, so what?"
Couple dozen was closer to the truth.
I'd suggest he go to A.A. meeting every day when he's really ready to stop. And continue doing so for at least 90 days.
Gotta go with Deano on this one..
Nothing changes...if nothing changes
Good reach SG...anger and rage also is part and parcel of the disease. No one likes to be out of control of themself and for the alcoholic that is a given as the chemical takes our control away while we "fight" to maintain it. It is very frustrating and you will find frustration very closely related in rage.
Do what you have to do to protect yourself...You don't have to wait until he goes "hands on". The fact that his rages are causing you fear is enough to call in the help.
Be kind to yourself....(((hugs)))
"There ain't no Coupe DeVille hiding in the bottom of a Cracker Jack Box."
PhilipD wrote:Gotta go with Deano on this one..Nothing changes...if nothing changes
Amen...seek protection for yourself and pray for a miracle on his behalf.