How long does it normally take to work throught the 12 steps. And yes I know that some of the steps are on going but to get to my 12th step what is the avg time frame?
Don't know that too many people keep track of this as an average.
I've heard people talk about running thru all the steps while in a treatment center and there is a book out Back to Basics that uses the sub-titles
When I sat down with the 1st guy I asked to sponser me, I wanted him to explain everything to me over dinner so I could get cured real quick. He advised me that I was not running a race.
And it took me many months just to get up to step three.
But that wasn't the 1st time I came to A.A. The 1st time, I thought it was real easy to say I was alcoholic but went back to drinking after, I don't really know, a year and a half. Then drank for another three years. So from that point of view, it took me 4 1/2 years just to work STEP ONE.
What changed for me when I came back was being willing to give it an honest try.
just like each person has a different personality, different ways of getting to the point of wanting sobriety, each person has their own pace. and when the steps have been done - one thru twelve - you start all over again because you are not the same person as you were when you did them the first time. it's a life long process, one day at a time. you have probably heard "it takes what it takes" ... and it does.
"There ain't no Coupe DeVille hiding in the bottom of a Cracker Jack Box."
For me that depends upon how resistant my ego and pride were/are. I came in to recovery very oppositional and defiant so the steps took me a long time. I got the program in little bites which I chewed very throughly before I swallowed. I didn't like the taste of it and what it was demanding in changing me. It took me over 6 months or so to get step one...I got the unmanageable part okay...the powerless part I couldn't make sense of.
Powerlessness today now includes many other things besides alcohol and unmanagability has wider boundaries also and the program still works within the changes.
Keep coming back.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
I'm kind of like Jerry on the steps, it took me a long time just to get past step 1. Turning my will over took a couple years, and an honest 4th and 5th step was done in year 4. I know I function slower than most probably, but my sponsor at the time did exactly what needed to be done, I would have ran if he pushed it, I was young.
"Never make someone a priority who makes you an option"