I was surprised to see step 3 quoted instead of step 1. Surrender seems to be so important and it all seems to come from admitting powerlessness. A full workthrough of step 1 seems to really bring a lot of peace (at least for me it has). Powerless over alcohol. Powerless over people. Powerless over places. Powerless over things. I personally never thought taking myself out of the driver's seat (as much as I can each day) would be so empowering and it does seem to give the daily reprieve from drinking. As long as I constantly remind myself I am powerless over most things, I don't stress out as much, don't feel constantly victimized, and I don't feel like I have to drink to make everything better. Furthermore, with alcohol being the chief thing I am powerless over, that bandaid solution is really not an option anyhow. I am grateful AA and you guys introduced me to the concept and I seem to be getting it right. I would have never come up with it on my own because it was always about adding stuff or wrecking myself to fix either me, others, or my surroundings. My HP and turning things over (steps 2 and 3) are still under development but as long as I surrender and accept I'm not the one who controls everything, it's all going to come in time I think.
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. ~Buddha