GREAT stuff. Whenever I read all of these really good and valuable articles, I ask myself, where does he find all this stuff. On the internet, or are you a prolific reader - so much good information, so often, congrats. on the the good Works that you do.
And so valuable, you never know who is reading this board, and they might stumble onto to something, regarding Recovery, or in an abusive relationship, and bingo, they find it in the words you take the time to get onto this board. WOH
Your Sissy in Recovery
A Big Hug
WOW! Does this ever hit home. I went through the abuse emotional/verbal/physical for three years finally I had enough and learned to fight back. Last year around this time I was in jail for spousal abuse - I only hit him once in the face. When I was in the holding cell I had shown the officer all the marks and bruises that he had left on me - my back, arms and legs not the face this time - they really did not care what he did to me all they cared about was making the charge stick against me. I am standing in front of them, in the holding cell covered in bruises and he has a fat lip, the police tell me that he is the "victim". I know - why did I not leave sooner - it was because I had nowhere to go, no money and he knew that (it is a small town) I was going to work with a black eye - my hands wrapped in tensor bandages and in a lot of pain - inside and out. He abused my son who was living with me at the time and twelve years old - tried to punch his head in - he moved back with his dad. My daughter came for a visit - he made a pass at her and she was only thirteen at the time and he was forty-three. My daughter told me he would hurt her and myself if she said anything to anyone - I did not find this out until after he was out of our lives. Well to shorten this story up - my probation is over I have begun to change my life - I am finally getting trust and respect from my family and especially my children again. The bad part is that he is still walking the streets and we both live in the same small town. This was due to his drunkenness an all I did was come home from work. I must go now because I can not see the keyboard for tears. Thanks for taking the time to read this.