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Daily Reflection Jan 31
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OUR COMMON WELFARE COMES FIRST The unity of Alcoholics Anonymous is the most cherished quality our Society has. . . . We stay whole, or A.A. dies. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 129 Our Traditions are key elements in the ego deflation process necessary to achieve and maintain sobriety in Alco...
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No changes in the first year?
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Is it true that someone seeking recovery is not supposed to make any major life changes in the first year? i.e. divorce, moving, etc? If this is true, then what would it mean if someone were to make those major life changes in the first couple months of recovery??
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The 1st Drink, Tolerance, Guilt
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The First Drink It is the first drink which triggers, immediately or some time later, the compulsion to drink more and more until we are in drinking trouble again. Many of us have come to believe that our alcoholism is an addiction to the drug alcohol; like addicts of any sort who want to maintain recove...
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Greetings from the U.K.
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Where do I start. I Hope you guys do not object to me posting on here given the distance involved. Big day for me on Friday, had my customary cans of lager (8 on Thursday) the night before, started the day as usual: slow, groggy, no headache..and something changed. I started searching the web, googling a...
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To "LET GO"
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To "let go" does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To "let go" is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome...
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Sharing An Article about Self..
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SELF ESTEEM, SELF LOVE and SELF CENTEREDNESS
by Nancy Poitou, M.A., M.F.T.
I have been asked often about what is self-esteem, self-love and self-centeredness. These are very good questions and it is a fine line that separates these concepts.
Self esteem means to hold oneself in high estee...
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need a sincere reply
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Hi I am jack
I am having a troubled time-I have been going to meetings for 34 years-i relapsed in '99
I just celebraed my 6th year. tonight. I should be happy but the last 6 years have been a night mare. I watched my brother perish in the 9/11 =wtc bldg 1. I survived that with out drinking-last august I wa...
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Daily Reflection Jan 30
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FREEDOM FROM . . . FREEDOM TO We are going to know a new freedom. . . . ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS , p. 83 Freedom for me is both freedom from and freedom to. The first freedom I enjoy is freedom from the slavery of alcohol. What a relief! Then I begin to experience freedom from fear - fear of people, of economic ins...
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Is it more possible to stay sober if you get divorced?
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What are the statistics of permanent recovery resulting from divorce? Is it believed that for a full recovery you have to completely start your life over, and divorcing your spouse because maybe you feel as though your problems are a result of your marriage?
I'm curious to know how ma...
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have a great day!
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I just got back from the cultural celebration at church. I enjoyed myself. There was music, food, people. I didn't used to be able to join in and feel like I belonged anywhere. But I am making progress, even though I am not yet perfect.
The topics of this morning? Good topic...
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Craving, Suffering, and Choice lectures
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Hey-
I had read about this forum on Buddhism and Neuroscience at Stanford University, featuring the Dalai Lama and a panel scientists- Very interesting lectures- One series is on Craving, Suffering, and Choice.
You can download them from this site- http://itunes.stanford.edu/
Yo...
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No Cross Talk - Please
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Good morning all,
I just want to mention something - that came with me when I moved from the bay area. There was a Suggestion at the beginning of ALL AA Meetings that before the meeting began, it was stated, Please limit your shares to five minutes if you can, so that others will have their turn, a...
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Hi everyone!
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I just felt like sharing a bit of my happiness.
It's raining here again, but yesterday we had a few hours of no rain. It's always nice to get outside and play. Did some soccer practice with my 10 year old girl, she just started playing indoor soccer at the boys&girls club.&nbs...
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Going To Meetings
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Going to Meetings
I am still amazed, after years of recovering, at how easily I can begin to talk myself out of attending meetings. I am also still amazed at how good I feel when I go.
--Anonymous
We don't have to stay stuck in our misery and discomfort. An immediate option is available that wi...
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acceptance-449 BB
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"Acceptance"
"And acceptance is the answer to *all* my problems. today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation---some fact of my life---unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, p...
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topic - boundaries
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Many of us have not had a healthy concept of 'boundaries', and have been, rather, 'all of nothing' in our attitudes. Many of us have come from dysfunctional families in which we were not allowed to have healthy boundaries. We were violated in many ways, and witnessed others being violat...
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compassion
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Living the Compassionate Life by His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama
As human beings we all have the potential to be happy and compassionate people, and we also have the potential to be miserable and harmful to others. The potential for all these things is present within each of us.
If we wa...
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Daily Reflection Jan 29
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THE JOY OF SHARING Life will take on new meaning. To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you. to have a host of friends - this is an experience you must not miss. We know you will not want to miss it. Frequent contact with newcomers and...
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On Tolerance ..... Want to share?
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Just wanted to share what tolerance means to me. The first thing that comes to mind, before I look elsewhere, Is to practice Tolerance with myself - my shortcomings, -self forgiveness must come before we can extend that to others, as was mentioned in an Earlier Post. Forgiveness...
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big book
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AA Thought for the Day
January 28, 2006
Tolerance
Honesty with ourselves and others gets us sober, but it is tolerance that keeps us that way. Experience shows that few alcoholics will long stay away from a group just because they don't like the way it is run. Most return and adjust themselves to...
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Principles Of The 12 Steps
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Principles of the 12 Steps:
STEP: (The steps are printed on pages 59 & 60 of the Big Book.)
1. Surrender. (Capitulation to hopelessness.)
2. Hope. (Step 2 is the mirror image or opposite of step 1. In step 1 we admit that alcohol is our higher power, and that our lives are unmanageabl...
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90 Tools For Sobriety
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1 ) Stay away from that first drink, taking the 1st step daily. 2 ) Attend AA regularly and get involved. 3 ) Progress is made ONE DAY AT A TIME. 4 ) Use the 24 Hour plan. 5 ) Remember, your disease is incurable, progressive and fatal. 6 ) Do first things first. 7 ) Don't become too tired. 8 ) Eat at regular hours...
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Gratitude!
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Good Morning,
I am going to spend the day cleaning up, washing windows, polishing wood, vacuuming, and making things look really their best.
I am Roasting a Duck, tommorow, by Request, for a person that I have only known for 8 months, that is moving out of state.
It is a farewell to someone...
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How Many Alcoholic Do You Need
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Question: how many Alcoholics do you need to change a lightbulb?
Answer: Only one, but the Lightbulb really has to want to be changed!
Quiz for the day is OVER, thank God!
Love you all and Have a Great Saturday!
Toni
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Let go of it
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The old law of an eye for an eye leaves everybody blind. --Martin Luther King, Jr.
An essential aid to following the path of the inner voice is practicing forgiveness. Resentment comes from the Latin word resentir to feel over and over again. By repeatedly re-experiencing the old resentments...
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Saturday
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Staying in the Present Moment
Often, one of our biggest questions is "What's going to happen?" We may ask this about our relationships, our career, our recovery, and our life. It is easy to tangle us up in worrisome thoughts.
Worrying about what's going to happen blocks us from functioning eff...
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topic - Practice These Principles
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"Practice these principles in all our affairs"
That is really not easy to do,, but what is the point otherwise? If I only practice the principles at certain times, when I feel like it, or with certain easy-to-get-along-with likable favorites, or if I practice them only half way, I wil...
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Luck is coming my way!
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I haven't had the time to post about my personal struggle lately, but things are going ok for me. Still have some hard times ofcourse but I'm still able tofight them, and it is getting easier!
But Í just had to share the following stuff with you guys:
* I got a new job starting this monday, paying real g...
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Daily Reflection Jan 28
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THE TREASURE OF THE PAST Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now. Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have -- the key to life and happiness for others. With it you can avert death and m...
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the victim
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The self-defined “Victim” uses stealth personal power strategies to cope with anger, to“control” situations and other people in order to punish and to maintain a sense of superiority. Making use of "stealth" behavior provides the self-defined "Victim" a safety net while acting out this negativ...
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Friday night
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Well, here we are. We made it thru the week. Thank God. Things are mostly the same, but.. I'm plodding through it all. How about you all?
love in recovery,
amanda
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Feeling out of Control!
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Well I did go to a meeting today and it was really good - am starting to fit in, first I had to tell them why I was not feeling like I was fitting in, my old thinking stuff.
But I have a Problem today with my PC, and it is making me feel #*$$#*&##$%&(*...
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please help
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I am a mother of two children 3 and 2 I have had 13 months sober upto November 2005 and I was secretary for a meeting. But I picked up 8th November 2005 and got done for drink driving. Since then I have found it hard to put the drink down for good. I can go several weeks or even a few days and then it happens...
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SHARE
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I have something good to say today because it is my sixth month of sobriety today. I can not believe that it has been this long! It has been especially hard the last couple of weeks with the loss of a very close friend. This to shall pass. The s...
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So True
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I'm slipping when I begin to dislike the company and conversation of the Program. --Anonymous
There is a reason why a lamb gets separated from a flock. The flock will be eating on a particular pasture and a lamb will take a fancy to graze just off to the edge of the field. So the lamb takes a li...
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Friday
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When men are rightfully occupied, then their amusement grows out of their work as the color petals out of a fruitful garden. --John Ruskin
What do we need most in order to be happy? Certainly we all need to be loved. Yet we need even more than that. The spirit also wishes to be needed. When we...
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topic - living one day at a time
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People appreciated the topic discussion shared on earlier.. so I decided to try my hand at posting up a topic. I have an approved list of discussion topics here, and was looking at them, cuz they fell off my shelf.. and decided that I'd pick one and put it up... and it turned out to be:...
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Daily Reflection Jan 27
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FREEDOM FROM GUILT Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word "blame" from our speech and thought. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 47 When I become willing to accept my own powerlessness, I begin to realize that blaming myself for all the trouble in my life can be an ego trip back i...
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Sorry, but I just HAD to
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What do you call cheese that isn't yours?
Nacho Cheese.
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Relationship Co-Dependence
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If you are in a relationship, check it out the next time you have a fight: Maybe you are both coming out of your twelve-year-olds. If you are a parent, maybe the reason you have a problem sometimes is because you are reacting to your six-year-old child out of the six-year-old child within y...
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THe pink cloud and the deep hole ?
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The process of living, for each of us, is pretty similar. For every gain there is a setback. For every success, a failure. For every moment of joy, a time of sadness. For every hope realized, one is dashed. --Sue Atchley Ebaugh
The balance of events in our lives is much like the balance of na...
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Faith
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Breathing your native air
By Dr. Robert Schuller
It's terribly important to understand that a believer is a normal person. Faith is the mark of normality. A persistently negative and cynical attitude is a mark of emotional illness. Birds were designed to fly. The air under the wings of a bir...
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wow !!
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TRYING TO CATCH UP ON POSTS
What a job after a few days off.
Toni I went thru losing 3 dogs and a cat. The first dog I had to put down. I beat myself up for a long time. Was it time?? Even though the vet said it was. The pain is unreal. I couldn't eat for days, then it was for ever bef...
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possibly a moment of clarity ???
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Thanks all for sharing your stuff with me yesterday. It was all excellent!
Although I still feel a bit dis-come-bob-u-lated, I got up this morning feeling some better.
Every now and then I have a fleeting moment of clarity and it hit me last night, maybe this hole is god's way of sayin...
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Anyone want to share? II
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Hi does anyone feel like sharing: My Topic is: The Way out is in the 12 Steps
(Thought I would copy something Jen did last night- it felt like an on-line meeting)
How the 12 steps have changed who I am as a person, have given up being a manipulative, self-seeking person only inter...
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Daily Reflection Jan 26
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RIGOROUS HONESTY Who wishes to be rigorously honest and tolerant? Who wants to confess his faults to another and make restitution for harm done? Who cares anything about a Higher Power, let alone meditation and prayer? Who wants to sacrifice time and energy in trying to carry A.A.'s message to the ne...
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MY Big Hole
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Well, what the Hell is my problem?! I don't get it. I really am happier than I've ever been in my life. I work this program, I'm practicing truth, I'm trying the solutions, nothing seems to be working today. I'm grateful for the fact that I have no desire to drink at this.... I'...
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13th Annual Spring Fling, Galesburg, IL
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Email: aa_springfling@yahoo.com (may have to type in) or contact phone # is 309-484-6012 (Larry)Alanon, AA, speakers [Rooms at COMFORT INN near Mall, $49. through April 7th with the mention of SPRING FLING.]&n...
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AMANDA
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ANSWER FROM THE OTHER DAY'S POST
MY GRANDAUGHTER IS 3 AND ABLESSING FROM GOD
I DON'T KNOW IF U READ MY POSTS FROM A WHILE BACK
ANYWAY SHE WAS RAN OVER BY A SKID STEER ( BOB CAT LOADER )
SHE WAS CRITICAL AND IN INTENSIVE CARE AT THE MEDICAL CENTER
NOW SHE IS DOING WELL**CLEAN BILL OF HEALTH**
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a program story
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A nice man was being tailgated by a stressed out woman on a busy boulevard. Suddenly, the light turned yellow, just in front of him. He did the right thing, stopping at the crosswalk, even though he could have beaten the red light by accelerating through the intersection. The tailgating woman hit the r...
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